" I'm different, I'll never be comfortable without nicotine "

JoeJFree Gold
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

09 May 2006, 19:26 #41

Image Congratulations and a big warm welcome to all of our newbies. We hope you are finding the information and support helpful. Don't minimize for a second the great work you are doing, some folks could only dream of beginning this journey. So many smokers want to quit but can't quite find their way, very sad indeed. Just hold on tight because for each of us, the days of complete comfort do come. Thanks for being here with us, we look forward to making this wonderful journey with each of you. If you have any concerns or questions, feel free to get in touch with us. We must hold on tight..our lives are worth any temporary challenges, we deserve to be free from a killer addiction...the way we were meant to be!

Onward with baby steps....one day at a time....not one puff...no matter what.

Joanne
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realmarino
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

09 May 2006, 20:04 #42

Thank you for that post!!! It is comforting and reinforcing my quit so much. I am beginning to be calmer within my self. Thank you!!!!Image

I have been quit for 1 Month, 3 Weeks, 9 hours, 4 minutes and 27 seconds (51 days). I have saved $146.41 by not smoking 616 cigarettes. I have saved 2 Days, 3 hours and 20 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 3/18/2006 11:00 PM
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auntvaleria
Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:01

10 May 2006, 12:53 #43

We must hold on tight..our lives are worth any temporary challenges, we deserve to be free from a killer addiction...the way we were meant to be!
Onward with baby steps....one day at a time....not one puff...no matter what.

Joanne
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Thanks Joanne!
Imageaunt valeria
I have been quit for 2 Months, 2 Weeks, 4 hours, 24 minutes and 2 seconds (75 days). I have saved $206.74 by not smoking 1,503 cigarettes. I have saved 5 Days, 5 hours and 15 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 2/23/2006 7:30 PM
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Sharry
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

18 Dec 2006, 01:19 #44

Thank you Joanne - very helpful because today, unlike the past 2 weeks, i have not been in my comfort zone. For some reason 2 weeks in I am unsettled and not comfy. Having read your article I now feel calmer and don't want to slip on the ice! Could be a real nasty fall!

Today was just a little wobble - I'll be striding out tomorow - thanks to the advice and wisdom on here.

Sharon x
I have been quit for 1 Week, 6 Days, 10 hours, 25 minutes and 23 seconds (13 days). I have saved £40.29 by not smoking 201 cigarettes. I have saved 16 hours and 45 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 04/12/2006 07:54
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JoeJFree Gold
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

14 Jan 2007, 20:46 #45

This is post 13 in this string in reply to a concern in Post 12.
From: Joanne - Gold Sent: 7/31/2002 1:16 AM
Hi T John, I was just processing some of Freedom's new applications (hey, where are all these new guys coming from?) and took one last look at the board before bed when I discovered your post, thanks for the input. I hear ya loud and clear with the uncertainty of it all.
ImageDuring my early days I remember really zeroing in on the ONE DAY AT A TIME concept. Just get through the moment and don't worry about the next one until it comes. It really is the key here. Joel tells us, for some, we are led to think it gets harder as more time goes by. What may be really going on here - those first few days every minute is a constant thought about quitting...no matter what we seem to do, we are reminded that we no longer are reaching for nicotine. Then, it really doesn't take long to get used to the fact that we no longer need a fix, our body is not in a constant roller coaster of withdrawal. As we gain this comfort and a situation does occur, a trigger to smoke, it about startles us since every moment is no longer focused on smoking. Boy, did I just confuse you or what. lolImage I'll attach Joel's article* he explains this much better than I can. Image

We can tell you in thousands of posts that things get better but you will see for yourself, soon enough, everything falls into place. As I said in my post, I thought myself to be different and didn't truly believe things would be back to normal. Normal? Heck, some of us had been smoking for so long we had no recollection as to what it felt like not to be controlled by a drug.


Hold on tight T John, focus on your reasons for quitting, look upon each day as a true victory for not taking that first one. As our other John says...it's doable!

Anyway, it is getting late here but I wanted you to know that we are listening and understanding your present concerns. Great work, and congratulations for taking your life back! What a wonderful gift you have given to yourself, hold it close.


A big thanks to everyone else who responded, I appreciate your support and valued input.



Never take another puff...

Your friend - JoanneImage



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Thoughts that seem worse than the first days urges



You said it would get better but it's just as bad!



Smoking triggers



Why am I still having "urges?"


Emotional loss experienced when quitting




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JoeJFree Gold
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

17 May 2008, 04:26 #46

From: John (Gold) Sent: 4/20/2005 10:25 AM
Joel's Reinforcement Library

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"Maybe I am Different?"




Maybe I am different? Maybe I can take a cigarette and not get hooked? Maybe the cigarette will make me so sick I will never want to take a cigarette again? Maybe I was never addicted anyway? Maybe I will just smoke for a little while and quit again when things are better? Maybe, maybe, maybe . . .?

Do you ever find that you are asking yourself these questions? If so, and the suspense of the answer is just killing you, I thought I would suggest two ways of finally putting these unresolved questions to rest. First, take a cigarette. This is a really effective way of realizing the potential for relapse by reinforcement of the nicotine addiction. And the cost for this valuable lesson is simply returning to the deadly, expensive, socially unacceptable habit and addiction to cigarettes. You can then either smoke until it cripples and kills you, or "just" quit again. Remember the last time? Smoke or quit, fun choice isn't it?

Of course there is another way of answering those perplexing questions of "maybe". Find a smoker who once quit smoking for a substantial period of time, say one year or longer, and then relapsed. Ask him how he liked not smoking. Ask him how he now likes smoking. Then ask the most important question, how did he return to smoking?

Let me venture a guess as to the answers to these three questions. "Not smoking was great. I hardly thought of cigarettes any more. I felt healthier, happier, even calmer. Cigarettes smelled repulsive. The thought of smoking at my old level was disgusting." To the second question, how do you now like smoking, the response will typically be, "I hate it, I smoke as much or even more than I did before. I feel more nervous, don't have as much energy, and generally feel like a fool when smoking in public. I sure wish I could quit again." The answer to the third and most important question of how did he return to smoking is almost always the same, "I took a cigarette."

It may have happened under stress, at a party, or at home alone with nothing special going on. Whatever the cause, the end result was the same--addiction to nicotine. Prior to taking the cigarette, he probably asked himself the same questions of "maybe". He found his answer. Your answer is the same. Learn from others' mistakes and not your own. Your smoking friend is stuck in the grips of a powerful and deadly addiction. Maybe he will get the chance and strength again to quit smoking, maybe he will smoke until it kills him.

You have successfully broken free of the nicotine addiction. While your smoking may have been a potential threat to your life in the past, now your risks are dropping down to that of a person who never smoked. As long as you stay off of cigarettes, you never will have to worry about the physical, psychological, social and economical risks of smoking again as long as you follow one simple practice...NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF!


Joel
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JoeJFree Gold
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

03 Nov 2008, 12:58 #47

"Don't minimize for a second the great work you are doing, some folks could only dream of beginning this journey. So many smokers want to quit but can't quite find their way, very sad indeed. Just hold on tight because for each of us, the days of complete comfort do come. Thanks for being here with us, we look forward to making this wonderful journey with each of you. If you have any concerns or questions, feel free to get in touch with us. We must hold on tight..our lives are worth any temporary challenges, we deserve to be free from a killer addiction...the way we were meant to be!"
- Joanne

"All I can say now is that the lies were the bars that kept me a prisoner inside my own mind. It isn't necessary that you believe any of us but I do think you've earned the right to see for yourself what it's really like being free! As Papa Jim used to say, if you give it 90 days and you're not totally satisfied with the new you, we'll gladly give you a 100% refund of your misery!"
- John

ImageI quit thousands of times then...



Thanks also to all the great Quitters who left messages for those further back along this Trail of Freedom to use as guides to follow.

Use the First & Nextbuttons, you'll be glad you did!

Joe J free - Gold Club
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jinx
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

03 Nov 2008, 21:44 #48

Thankyou Joanne!!! I REALLY needed to hear ( read) that this morning!!


Newbie at 8 days....

Jinx
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Joe J free
Joined: 18 Jan 2009, 06:57

30 Mar 2010, 20:15 #49

Congratulations and a big warm welcome to all of our newbies. We hope you are finding the information and support helpful. Don't minimize for a second the great work you are doing, some folks could only dream of beginning this journey. So many smokers want to quit but can't quite find their way, very sad indeed. Just hold on tight because for each of us, the days of complete comfort do come. Thanks for being here with us, we look forward to making this wonderful journey with each of you. If you have any concerns or questions, feel free to get in touch with us. We must hold on tight..our lives are worth any temporary challenges, we deserve to be free from a killer addiction...the way we were meant to be!

Onward with baby steps....one day at a time....not one puff...no matter what.

Joanne
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suquimby
Joined: 18 May 2012, 15:22

21 May 2012, 18:18 #50

To read these posts and know that I wont think about this forever.  In a previous quit (7 years!) now that I think of it, I never thought about smoking, but I guess when you are in the throws of the first stages you feel like it will never end.  Its just comforting to know that this will not last (even thought I knew that already) and have it reinforced by people having been through it too!

Thank you

Suquimby NTAP
Six days, 20 hours, 17 minutes and 43 seconds. 68 cigarettes not smoked, saving £22.21. Life saved: 5 hours, 40 minutes.
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