I Can't Quit or I Won't Quit

Joel
Joel

September 24th, 2005, 5:59 am #101

I see Geo is just now celebrating his 5 year anniversary. I can't help but to think of Vivian whenever Geo drops by the board. I popped up this string and attached the following comment the day Geo broke the news to us that his mother had passed away. As all can see Geo got through that time period with his quit intact which is an important example to all that even in the worst of times that people will stay successful as long as the continue to stick to their personal commitment to never take another puff.
Recommend Message 26 of 100 in Discussion
From: Joel. Sent: 2/2/2002 6:34 AM
In memory of Vivian:

I know the diseases and time frame involved were very different--but the message in the epilog of being able to prove to the rest of the world that quitting is possible often has the ripple effect of teaching those around you and often, those most imprtant to you, that they too can quit. Vivian achieved this when Geo quit, and I suspect this was one of her greatest comforts and joys when she proved to him and everyone else she supported that she was able to never take another puff.

Joel
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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

December 30th, 2005, 8:09 pm #102

"they want to stop but they can't. I know where they learned that, and I am mad at myself for it. So I am stopping to show them I was wrong. It wasn't that I couldn't stop smoking- it was that I wouldn't! I know I will not have another cigarette. I don't know if this will make anybody stop, but I had to prove to my children and to myself that I could quit smoking. And if I could quit, they could quit, anybody could quit."
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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

January 10th, 2006, 3:32 am #103

Special dedication, yep - it's for you.
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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

January 20th, 2006, 1:09 am #104

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Em B 12106
Em B 12106

February 6th, 2006, 8:16 pm #105

God bless you Joel... thank you for recommending this one - you were so right; I do so appreciate this message. Maybe moreso than any other? Certainly in my personal "Top Ten".

It is such a blessing to be able to prove to my children how wrong I was in saying that I couldn't quit and showing them that I can indeed. This is one time I can say without hesitation how glad I am that I was so very wrong.

Oh the lessons to be learned through this one are far reaching!
Quit Dance">

Mother of four,
Em
Two weeks, one day, 9 hours, 4 minutes and 33 seconds. 230 cigarettes not smoked, saving $48.90. Life saved: 19 hours, 10 minutes.
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Joel
Joel

February 18th, 2006, 9:03 pm #106

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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

February 23rd, 2006, 5:37 am #107

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Joel
Joel

February 27th, 2006, 10:04 pm #108

Sometimes, even when it is too late for one thing, it is not too late for other things. Smoking likely ended up costing the mother in this story her life. Her quitting likely ended up saving her son's life. She quit in time to prove to her son and the rest of her family that a person even under the worst of conditions can make and stick to a commitment to never take another puff!

Joel
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Joel
Joel

March 4th, 2006, 8:02 pm #109

Sometimes, even when it is too late for one thing, it is not too late for other things. Smoking likely ended up costing the mother in this story her life. Her quitting likely ended up saving her son's life. She quit in time to prove to her son and the rest of her family that a person even under the worst of conditions can make and stick to a commitment to never take another puff!

Joel
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Joel
Joel

March 6th, 2006, 10:24 pm #110

I think this example is an important article to highlight when people do enounter the death of loved ones who had previously quit smoking. I know many people seem to be motivated to quit when a smoker develops or dies of a smoking related illness. The stories of people who quit though and sustain their quits even if they do find out that they have a smoking related illness delivers an even more important message.

Most people know that smoking kills, but there are a lot of people who think that quitting or staying smoke free is difficult, and under times of personal tragedy, close to impossible. People who believe this are working under false impressions.

People who quit and stay free for the rest of their lives, even at the point in time where staying quit won't keep them alive are showing all that they still realize that quitting smoking was a great feat and one that they usually cherish till the end, especially if it helps others to make and stick to a personal commitment to never take another puff.

Joel
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Joel
Joel

March 20th, 2006, 8:18 pm #111

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Starshinegrl Gold
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April 28th, 2006, 4:48 pm #112

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JoeJFree Gold
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May 9th, 2006, 7:09 pm #113

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Joel
Joel

May 14th, 2006, 11:07 pm #114

Since it was Mother's Day I thought this was a good one to bring up.

Here was a commentary I attached to this string three years ago:

There was some discussion in another string about whether or not a person can quit smoking because he or she is addicted. Addiction to nicotine explains why a person smokes the way he or she smokes. It does not on the other hand excuse a person from smoking.

When a person says that he or she can't quit because he or she is addicted, he or she is wrong. All addiction means to a smoker is that he or she cannot smoke the way he or she wants to. He or she has to smoke in a way that alleviates withdrawal or suffer from the chronic withdrawal state induced from part-time or limited smoking. The woman in this story is a prime example. Was she addicted to nicotine for years and decades? You bet she was. Did she somehow become unaddicted* when she was diagnosed with lung cancer? No, she was as addicted as she always was. Was it impossible for her to quit because she was addicted? Of course not, she quit smoking so quitting was possible. So the only question is why did she smoke for so long if she was really always able to quit?

The sad answer to that is that she never realized that she was able to quit until the cancer was diagnosed or she didn't feel that she had a good enough reason to quit until then. Sadly, whichever the reason was, using it ended up with her smoking until it was too late to save her life. Fortunately, it was not too late to save her loved ones lives and I hope her story has helped countless people over the past 25 years to save their lives too from her example.

Addiction causes a person to smoke the way he or she smokes. Understanding the addiction gives a person the tools he or she needs to break free from smoking. For once the addiction is understood for what it is the person has the one piece of ammunition to take permanent control of smoking, which is simply understanding to break free and stay free from smoking is to stop delivering nicotine from any source and then to always remember to never take another puff!

Joel

* Look it up in the dictionary. There is no such word as "unaddicted." This is not by accident. I have a post up somewhere about this but can't lay my hands on it at the moment. Hopefully someone will bring it up or if not I will try to track it down later.
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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

May 29th, 2006, 2:30 am #115

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Joel
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July 22nd, 2006, 6:53 pm #116

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Joel
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August 3rd, 2006, 4:11 am #117

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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

September 1st, 2006, 9:13 pm #118

restating my post Message 89

"they want to stop but they can't. I know where they learned that, and I am mad at myself for it. So I am stopping to show them I was wrong. It wasn't that I couldn't stop smoking- it was that I wouldn't! I know I will not have another cigarette. I don't know if this will make anybody stop, but I had to prove to my children and to myself that I could quit smoking. And if I could quit, they could quit, anybody could quit."
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Joel
Joel

September 2nd, 2006, 2:35 am #119

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Joel

September 3rd, 2006, 9:27 pm #120

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September 15th, 2006, 10:33 am #121

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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

September 26th, 2006, 3:47 am #122

From: JoeJFree-Gold- Sent: 2/24/2005 8:29 AM
Thanks Joel for bringing this ( I Can't Quit or I Won't Quit) up again. I'd read your article before and it is one of my favorites because of this line which, to me, is very appropros in regards to my son MJ - "they want to stop but they can't. I know where they learned that, and I am mad at myself for it. So I am stopping to show them I was wrong. It wasn't that I couldn't stop smoking- it was that I wouldn't! I know I will not have another cigarette. I don't know if this will make anybody stop, but I had to prove to my children and to myself that I could quit smoking. And if I could quit, they could quit, anybody could quit."

And then I clicked on this link In memory of Rob: I have some sad news

I hope Teresa doesn't mind bringing new attention to this message. I had never explored the other links and responses in this string. Because of Rob's (& Teresa's) decision to share their quit experiences maybe other nicotine addicts reading and exploring here at Freedom who may be 'on the fence' with their quit decision will 100% commit to Never Take Another Puff.
My resolve to NTAP! is even moreso - strong and uncompromising.
joejFree 1 month 15 days when I wrote this and now 1 year 8 months 15 days.
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Joel
Joel

October 14th, 2006, 10:21 am #123

I recorded an audio version of this story today--no video to keep the file size smaller and more managable for people with slower internet connections.

When I wrote out many of my clinic stories I had to abbreviate many of the details, to keep the letter sizes relatively small. They were originally written for letters I was mailing to people and we had to stick to one sheet of paper. Even in its shortened state we had to print on both sides.

This video format has no such limits. Below is a link to the entire story about this incident. It is a little over 19 minutes long.

http://www.whyquit.com/videos/icantorwontquit.wmv

I hope you find this story inspiring and that helps you to realize that no matter how impossible you once believed quitting was that now you know that you are fully capable to make and stick to a personal commitment to never take another puff.

Joel
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Joel
Joel

October 17th, 2006, 2:55 am #124

I re-recorded this story today with the two sizes of videos and a new audio version.
When I wrote out many of my clinic stories I had to abbreviate many of the details, to keep the letter sizes relatively small. They were originally written for letters I was mailing to people and we had to stick to one sheet of paper. Even in its shortened state we had to print on both sides.

This video format has no such limits. Below is a link to the entire story about this incident. It is 22 minutes and 15 seconds long.
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"I can't quit or I won't quit" 6.33mb 28.58mb 3.29mb 22:15 10/16/06


I hope you find this story inspiring and that helps you to realize that no matter how impossible you once believed quitting was that now you know that you are fully capable to make and stick to a personal commitment to never take another puff.

Joel
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Joel
Joel

October 24th, 2006, 6:43 am #125

I saw a new member who would likely appreciate this letter. Also, we have the new expanded video version of this story.

When I wrote out many of my clinic stories I had to abbreviate many of the details, to keep the letter sizes relatively small. They were originally written for letters I was mailing to people and we had to stick to one sheet of paper. Even in its shortened state we had to print on both sides.

This video format has no such limits. Below is a link to the entire story about this incident. It is 22 minutes and 15 seconds long.
Video Title
Dial-Up
HS/BB
Audio
Length
Added
"I can't quit or I won't quit" 6.33mb 28.58mb 3.29mb 22:15 10/16/06


I hope you find this story inspiring and that helps you to realize that no matter how impossible you once believed quitting was that now you know that you are fully capable to make and stick to a personal commitment to never take another puff.

Joel
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