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A three minute crave will not give you emphysema. Would you like to compare the challege of a three minute crave to the challenge of having emphysema? Get a drinking straw and try breathing through it for an entire three minutes. Now imagine only having that many functioning alveoli for the balance of your life. Forget about exercise - out of the question. Your battle is to simply keep breathing.
A short crave anxiety episode can not cut you, break a bone or otherwise hurt you, while that one puff of nicotine for which it begs could very well bring with it a 50/50 chance of you receiving the death penalty.
Unlike smoking, the challeges of this adjustment period called quitting are temporary. The next few minutes are doable!Breathe deep, hug hard, live long! John
What is the inner source that will allow you to stop smoking nicotine, skip those once mandatory feedings, and resume full control of your life? Strength, willpower, desire?
It would be natural to think that it's a combination of the three but none of us are stronger than our addiction, as is clearly evidenced by our inability to live the drug addict's first wish of being able to control the uncontrollable. You cannot beat your dependency into submission, stand toe to toe with it, or handle one puff of nicotine and prevail. Nicotine's chemical bond with the brain's reward pathways is beyond the reach of strength.
Willpower? Yes, we can each temporarily muster mountains of willpower but can willpower make any of us of us endure a challenge that we lack the motivation to complete? Can you inhale, chew or **** nicotine into your body and then "will it" to not travel to the brain's addiction circuitry or create the chemical need for more? Have you ever been able to order or command the challenges of chemical withdrawal or psychological recovery to cease? If we are incapable of using strength to control our addiction and we cannot "will" our chemical dependency into hibernation or submission, then what remains?
As simple as it may sound, dreams and desires born of honest recognition of tobacco's impact upon our life have the amazing ability to fuel change, but it takes keeping those original honest motivations in the forefront and driver's seat of our mind so that they can both consciously and subconsciously guide us home.
The successful quitter finds ways to protect and safeguard their primary motivations so that they remain robust, alive and available at a moment's notice to fuel the patience needed to transition this temporary period of adjustment called "quitting." The intelligent quitter's strategy combines an understanding of the law of addiction - one puff of nicotine equals relapse - with well-protected core motivations.
The successful quitter does not try to forget what their health was like while smoking, what it felt like to be controlled, the growing sense of becoming a social outcast, or that feeling as we stood at the tobacco counter and paid our hard earned money to purchase the more than 4,000 chemicals contained in each cigarette that would slowly destroy our body and mind. The successful quitter keeps such memories - and others - in the forefront of their mind as honest reminders and motivations to fuel their dreams and desires.
The intelligent quitter realizes that if they allow their motivations to die that it is very possible their freedom and healing will die along with them. The intelligent quitter finds ways to fuel their motivations, just one day at a time, through study, understanding, education, skills development, critical observation and honesty. They know that they are 100% guaranteed to continue free today if they'll only maintain and protect their original day #1 genuine desires to ... Never Take Another Puff!
Breathe deep, hug hard, live long! John
|From: Storm_||Sent: 5/18/2003 6:03 PM|
|Maybe my head is still in a fog, because I have read this over and over and I don't get it. How do you embrace a crave? Does it mean to accept it for what it is (a crave) and deal with it the best you can? Today has been a bit challenging, but so far, I have rode it out. I felt like I was sure to lose it earlier, but I think I'm ok now, thanks to my husband. He talked me through it. I've had trouble getting anything done today. I didn't even want to get myself cleaned up, but I made myself do it anyway. I really feel abnormal in my way of thinking today. Anybody else felt this way too??|
This smile on my face belongs to you Debra, thanks! This is a very special time for all of us and to see members delighting it taking back control of the more than 200 neurochemicals that nicotine held hostage is special. Be proud of you! All that matters are the next few minutes and each is entirely within our ability to move beyond. We're beside each other in spirit. John
Meeting, greeting and reconditioning all of our subconscious nicotine feeding cues is a very necessary part of recovery. Calm those deep inner fears as there is absolutely no reason to fear this temporary journey of adjustment back to fully and comfortably engaging life as "us!" You're going home and there's only one rule, no nicotine today ... Never Take Another Puff!
Breathe deep, hug hard, live long! John