Freedom - Your Journey to Comfort

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October 31st, 2004, 9:33 pm #51


Freedom!

Although each passing day transports each of us further and further from once vivid memories of active daily dependency and from the early challenges of this temporary journey of re-adjustment, no matter how comfortable we become or how much we forget, our arrested dependency travels with us. The common bond between each of us is that we remain just one powerful puff of nicotine away from trading places and again vividly smelling, seeing and recalling what the endless cycle of feedings and our own self-destruction was like.


Quality support is a beautiful self-discovery and reinforcement trade between those still in physical recovery and heavy subconscious reconditioning, those waiting on conscious fixations to dwindle from often to rare, and those who've found that deep rich inner calmness and mental quiet that was impossible to savor while more than 200 of our body's neurochemicals rode an endless roller-coaster of highs and lows, as we each struggled to keep pace with nicotine's two-hour chemical half-life within our bloodstream. We also have some recovered members for whom the circumstances of life, fading dependency memories, and the arrival of conscious junkie thinking is beginning to create a serious need for quality reinforcement. And then we have our "reluctant quitters," those who, for whatever reason, insisted upon clinging to and taking with them a few romantic fixations about the chemical they left behind, that likely require a bit more ongoing long-term reinforcement than most.

Although crisis or temptation may arrive at a moment's notice for any of us, the challenge before each group varies greatly in intensity, frequency and duration. Although crisis or challenge at six months can pose an immediate and very real threat, intentionally causing Freedom's new quitters to believe that your challenge compares to what they are going through is wrong, misleading and can actually deprive many of them of their desire and motivation to continue.


It is impossible to again experience the symptoms of chemical detox six months after ending all nicotine use. Impossible! It is also almost impossible to postpone encountering and reconditioning all but our most remote or seasonal subconscious triggers for six months (unless in a coma).
Yes, a crisis or event can thrust any of us into a situation where thoughts of smoking again briefly take center stage in the mind. Yes, having not fought any such battle in weeks or months may catch us off-guard and feeling unprepared but to compare a brief period of challenge to what a newbie is going through is like calling a gust of wind a full-blown hurricane. It just isn't right.
It's rare when we see a seasoned member try to convince new members that they've got it just as tough as them, but it does happen now and then. The crisis of a long-term quitter can be every bit as real as any moment of early challenge. But I hope all of our long-term members at least try to remain mindful of the full scope of the early challenges and take care to be as factual as possible about how long it had been since they last experienced such conscious fixation, the time of onset, and the intensity and actual duration of their challenge. Doing so will provide our newer members with honest perspective that hopefully leaves most smiling in envy over having such infrequent encounters.

It is normal to feel that in order to connect with new members that we need to somehow convince them that we vividly remember what they are going through. Frankly, it's hard to do. The mind suppresses the hurt, anxiety and pain of life, just as it should. Imagine what it would be like inside these minds if it didn't.


Instead, what the new arrival needs and begs is for us to tell them exactly what it's like to go for hours, days, weeks, months, or, for a few of us, even years, without ever experiencing anything that they would remotely classify as a crave.

The moment you begin feeling you've forgotten the early challenge and no longer have anything to offer is the moment when your potential offering becomes greatest. It is exactly what they yearn to hear - that recovery is temporary and it does get better. They want to hear about our boring craveless day and how we wish we could vividly remember and relate to what they're going through but that we find it increasingly difficult to do so.


Again, we don't ever want to discourage any long-term member from returning and posting in time of challenge but only ask that we make such posts as factual as possible. Although I have not had anything that any newbie would consider a crave since December of 2001, I promise to return and post should junkie thinking ever begin occupying this mind.

I know any such post would likely have newbies smiling but they need to understand that although everything is relative and it was only a gust of smoke-filled wind blowing through my mind, that I deeply cherish my freedom, healing and health, that encountering such a gust would scare the heck out of me, and that I would never hesitate to turn to each of you to help set me straight.
We know that we don't say it often enough but sincere thanks to each of you for helping keep Freedom's focus as intense and single-minded as it was when we arrived. Millions of words but only one rule ... just one day at a time ... Never Take Another Puff, Dip or Chew!

Breathe deep, hug hard, live long! John (gold x5)
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November 15th, 2004, 10:01 am #52

Middle-School Nurse Using Our Work
It may be difficult at times to understand Our Courtesies and Freedom's constant request that the language used in all posts be suitable for reading by children and teens. It has always been our dream that Freedom will grow in use as a window that our young can look into to learn what nicotine dependency and recovery are all about.
Today we received the below e-mail that Joel thought it might help some to better appreciate our language concerns if shared. As WhyQuit gradually moves deeper into youth dependency prevention our contacts with youth groups continue to increase. We again thank each of you for keeping the language in your posts suitable for young and old alike.
Breathe deep, hug hard, live long, Freedom! John

I am a school nurse at a middle school, and I used your website to create a presentation on smoking prevention and smoking cessation. The students have responded even better than I expected. I want to thank you and the families who shared their stories for taking time to create this website. I really feel that some of these children will choose not to smoke because of your efforts. Thank you!
xxx, RN
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December 2nd, 2004, 10:03 am #53

Yes, this is ...
deadly serious business
There was a time here at Freedom when tough love was the rule, when words of new members where seen as the eye to a junkie mind and each member did all they could to lay it on the line as openly, honestly and sometimes as bluntly as possible. With half of adult smokers smoking themselves to death, each an average of 5,000 days early, this is no place to take offense to the extremely serious business at hand.
We wish it wasn't so serious, but it is. We wish we never again received word that another member or former member has died, but we will. We wish we had more time for pleasantries but most of us don't and many here give above and beyond, some for years.
Everyone here is here to help you. We ask that you check your sensivities at the door as we do not expect our members to walk on eggs in teaching and supporting our members. In fact, in times of apparent crisis you'll often see them make some extremely creative arguments in trying to pull the member though. It may not pretty or appear kind, we're human and we make mistakes, but we promise you one thing, we'll do our best to help you stay free today.
Millions of words but only one rule ... no nicotine today, Never Take Another Puff! John (Gold x5)
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January 3rd, 2005, 12:59 am #54

Freedom is Different
If you are a new arrival to Freedom, looking in and trying to compare what you see here to what you'll find at other forums it's really rather simple. This is one place on the Internet where the actively feeding nicotine addict gets no voice. We each already know most of the excuses used by the nicotine addict in order to justify that next fix and the time for games is over.

If you're looking for a fun filled place to make lots of new friends, a place that celebrates birthdays, anniversaries, hundreds of national or religious holidays, or where each new world current event gets discussion, focus or tribute, this isn't it.

But if you're looking for a place that attempts to take your freedom, health and life expectancy as seriously as the risks posed by your addiction warrant, then you're in the right place. The risk that continuing dependency upon smoking nicotine will permanently impair or cripple your mind and health is tremendous. The risk that smoking will deprive you of 13 to 14 years of life is 50%.

Only in a drug addict's mind is an exchange of 5,000 sunrises for one chemical a rational trade. If you're not afraid to explore an addict's mind then you're in the right place. We ask that you check your ego at the door as words are the only window we have to the junkie mind. Honesty may feel like tough love but do expect our members to notice and explore every potential denial minimization, rationalization and blame transference they see, even if wrong. It's what we do.

This can be the most amazing adventure you'll ever make if only you'll open your mind to the possibility that the real quitting took place on the day nicotine took control. Millions of words here at Freedom but all boil down to one rule that determines the outcome for all ... no nicotine today, Never Take Another Puff, Patch, Dip, Drink, ****, Lick or Chew!

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March 27th, 2005, 9:00 pm #55

Thank You!

We know we don't say it enough but without a half a decade of educated and caring givers here at Freedom -- givers whose insights live on long after their own personal challenge subsides -- this site would not have evolved into the empowering resource it is today. Simple truths seem to have a way of building on each other. Thank you Freedom!
Freedom's Managers
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December 23rd, 2005, 10:24 pm #56

This forum is unusual in many regards. In most cases it isn't by chance but design. Over the past few years we've learned that six-month quit smoking rates for most online message board type quitting forums are less than 15% at six months. It's what Freedom experienced prior to an amazing giver's arrival on January 20, 2000 - less than 1 victory for every seven new posting members.

As you may know, over-the-counter nicotine replacement products such as the patch and gum generate an avearge rate of 7% at six months. Unlike cold turkey, from there rates dramatically decline with repeat NRT use. You may have heard or read those marketing NRT tell you that adding NRT to a quitting program can double your chances. If the program's effectiveness is at least 14% it's true, at least for first time NRT quitters.

Those selling replacement nicotine may think such rates are acceptable but my now thickened skin once witnessed such percentages here, at Freedom, and without borrowing an addict's denial the hurt was unbearable.

Although we've never been independently evaluated, my own tiny monthly samples a few years back have left me believing that our 6 month rate is probably in the 35% to 40% range. It may be vastly superior to other online forums but if in the ball park it means that we've watched at least 60% of our members relapse.

Although years of seeing so many relapse would thicken anyone's skin, there is one element that gives me piece of mind. I know that our ceaseless dedication toeducation results in nearly 100% of new members learning the law of addiction and that, sadly, for many, their relapse circumstances brought home its truth.

By the time you complete your first nicotine-free lap around the sun your mind and memory will have suppressed and hidden away most of the anxiety felt a year earlier. Once vivid memories of fear and crave episode intensity will have gradually been replaced by fresh air, life, freedom, and an occasional smoking related thought that will likely be so brief that you'll move beyond it in seconds.

As we journey to comfort the focus control within this group will probably begin to wear on you. It's normal. It's natural. It's expected. We'll want to let your hair down, to losen things up and socialize with those who've supported us or have made the journey with us.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with such feelings or getting together elsewhere but we do beg just one very important consideration, the new group of arrivals looking in through the windows who are dying (in record numbers) to know your secrets.

No matter how far we travel or how comfortable we become, our common bond will always be that our now arrested dependency traveled with us. Just one rule, no nicotine today, Never Take Another Puff!

Breathe deep, hug hard, live long Freedom!

John (Gold x6)
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January 5th, 2006, 12:00 pm #57

Thank You New Members!
We wish to thank all our new members for helping maintain rather intense focus on the task at hand, supporting each and every member and visitor in remaining nicotine free today. There is absolutely no reason why every new member cannot return at New Year's 2007 and join us in celebrating your first nicotine free lap around the sun.


If you have not yet done so please study Freedom's Courtesies and Rules.
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January 13th, 2006, 12:17 pm #58

Our Sincere Thanks!
What you see here at Freedom truly is a team effort and a gift from countless caring and sharing hearts. Tended and cared for by a growing army of highly educated and seasoned volunteers, all of us extend our sincere thanks to all new arrivals as you travel and explore Freedom's well-beaten paths. May future arrivals always find the same deadly serious lessons and highly focused support that was present when we arrived.
There is absolutely no reason why the entire Class of 2006 cannot still be healing and free in 2007. Still just one guiding principle for all, no nicotine today, Never Take Another Puff!
"Your" Team
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May 6th, 2006, 9:43 pm #59


Our sincerely thanks to each of you for helping maintain Freedom's focus on the life and death task at hand. Focus is an easy thing to lose. Our goal is really rather simple. Should a visiting smoker, frustrated by their Internet search and dying for cessation insights, click upon any Freedom thread, that they will immediately realize that we're as "lively serious" as the the deadly serious risks they face. Thanks to each of you for working to help keep Freedom the highly focused forum that was present when we arrived! Still just one binding principle ... no nicotine today, Never Take Another Puff! John


Why Freedom Doesn't Do Birthdays
Why would any forum whose focus is devoted to nicotine dependency recovery be opposed to its over 3,000 members each starting a new thread to celebrate their birthday, a wedding anniversary, a divorce, a new job, our pet's birthday or the birth of child or grandchild?
Imagine being a 25 year heavy smoker who started young and that unknown to you, you are now less than 48 hours away from a massive heart attack that would add your name to the list of over four million claimed by smoking this year. Imagine somehow being able to sense that time was running, hearing about an online forum called Freedom and deciding to take a look.
Imagine arriving and clicking upon the top thread and stepping into the middle of a birthday party. Imagine scrolling to the bottom of the party, clicking on the "Next Discussion" link and arriving inside a 30th wedding anniversary celebration. Imagine clicking "Next Discussion" once more and landing in the middle of a job hunt discussion. Three tries, three strikes, as you find no help or insight into how to help save your own life. Imagine growing discouraged, turning off your computer and two days later being found dead on the bathroom floor with a half-ash burned cigarette lying on the tile beside you.
Freedom's subject matter posting rules are designed to keep the focus on recovery. This forum exists so that each member might enjoy thousands of extra days of life and scores of wonderful celebrations. But if we each bring those celebrations here then the effectiveness of the very tool that is helping enhance the prospect of years of additional celebration will soon be lost.
Why would any of us intentionally attempt to diminish this forum's appeal to those desperate to break nicotine's grip upon their mind, health and life? Why would any among us intentionally try to dilute the life-saving message being shared? I don't think we would. What happens is that a growing sense of comfort makes it easy to forget the early challenge and just how deadly serious this battle is.
We beg each of you to resist that natural inclination to want to celebrate life's other milestones in a place reserved for nicotine dependency recovery. Sincere thanks. Only one rule, no nicotine today, Never Take Another Puff!
John
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August 14th, 2006, 12:34 pm #60



Thank you Freedom!

Sometimes we're accused that our admissions, focus and relapse policies take cessation far too seriously. Ask the loved ones of any of the nearly five million annual victims who are believed to have lost an averge of 13 years of life expectancy about "serious."
Our sincere thanks to all who daily help keep Freedom focused on the forum's single objective -- no nioctine today, Never Take Another Puff, Dip, Pouch, Patch or Chew!

Breathe deep, hug hard, live long!

John
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February 3rd, 2007, 12:26 pm #61

Those of you who have ventured out and visited other online forums have likely noticed that Freedom is different and it isn't by chance. This forum lives and breathes the expectation that every human dependent upon nicotine can come home. No exceptions, zero acceptable excuses for relapse, just one day at a time and then celebrate the full and complete victory that today was yours!

We fully appreciate that the forum's focus rules constrain natural desires to socialize and divert. Our sincere thanks to each of you for understanding that for many here this is statistically a life or death period in their life. Time has run out and failure means becoming a statistic. If at times we seem far too serious, please forgive us as over the years we've seen what happens when time runs out.

Sincere regards,

John (Gold x7)

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October 25th, 2007, 4:25 am #62



Thanks Freedom!

Part of our responsibility here at Freedom is to prepare member expectations for those magic days when these quickly healing brains, pumping out natural dopamine "aaah" memories, so bury or displace nicotine "aaah" memories that it becomes hard to appreciate why this place continues to stay so intensely focused on the early challenges.

When you think about it, it's a wonderful problem to have. As the time between challenges continues to grow, we sincerely thank each of you for making sure that each new arriving generation finds the same focused and intense support that was present when we arrived. Still just one rule for each of us ... no nicotine today!
John (Gold x8)
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September 18th, 2009, 1:36 pm #63



Freedom Courtesies and Rules Change:
Rules Apply to Profiles
Freedom's 2009 move from MSN to Yuku brought with it substantially more communication avenues than management had previously experienced. One such avenue is the ability of members to create multiple Yuku profiles, with the ability to switch between profiles, having a different profile for each Yuku group to which they belong. Each Yuku profile gives members an avenue to share links, off-board profile messages (**visible to all members and managers**), and images, and to send invitations to Freedom members to visit a member's profile page, where they can communicate and share messages away from Freedom's message boards (link to Yuku's "How do I" page).
While such extensive communication avenues sound great, the forum's purpose is to provide new arrivals the education and support needed to remain nicotine free today. This forum is built on the premise that understanding is the key to permanent abstinence. But what happens when new members are not reading and exploring education threads but instead being invited to leave the forum's message boards and engage in one-on-one conversations within member profiles? What are the consequences of new members being encouraged to follow links within member profiles and leave the site altogether?
Management has grown concerned that education oriented threads are no longer being read as they were at MSN. We're concerned that a few of our members seem determined to transform Freedom into a wonderful social experience. While management fully understands the desire to want to let our hair down and relax once recovery's primary challenges are behind us, for every member arriving on Easy Street there's another enduring those first few critical days.
We're sorry, but we cannot allow Freedom to lose focus. Many of our members are battling to save their lives. After much discussion, the managers and directors of Freedom from Nicotine have voted to extend Freedom's Courtesies and Rules into Freedom member profiles. What this means is that Freedom membership is now conditioned upon each member's active Freedom Yuku profile fully complying with all Freedom Courtesies and Rules.
We ask that all members work with management to help ensure that Freedom provides the same serious focus that existed when you arrived. Again, it is normal to want this place to relax a bit more once we reach Easy Street but we hope each member fully understands why management cannot allow that to happen.
Please help us keep new members on the boards, engaged and learning.

Still just one rule ... no nicotine today!
Freedom's Management





Courtesies & Rules

Members are limited to one Freedom membership per lifetime. Continuing membership is conditioned upon compliance with the below forum Rules within all member posts and within their Freedom Yuku profile, and adherence to Freedom's Relapse Policy.


Forum Courtesies

SUPPORT - A support group is a two way street of both giving and receiving. There is no support without givers. It feels great when a post of support is acknowledged.

CRISIS POSTING - Post to Freedom's Support Request message board should you ever feel that your recovery is threatened. Don't head for an ashtray, a pack, any nicotine delivery device, a smoker or store. Head for Freedom and share a quick and simple post seeking help. Also, once the threat has passed be sure to immediately post back so that members are not left with the false impression that your crisis continues. Our Support Request message board should reflect the true current state of affairs.


POSTING TO CRISIS POSTS - Members are asked to immediately cease posting to any crisis thread once the member posts back indicating that the crisis has passed.

GIF OR IMAGE SIZE - Many members have very slow computer connection speeds. If the combined size of all the images on a thread page is too great, opening the page can take minutes and become very discouraging. Please limit the combined size of all images you use within any one post to a thread to about 20,000 bytes. Each thread page holds 15 posts. If all posts contained the maximum of 20k it would require members using slow dial-up modums to wait for 380k in images to open. Right click over any image and then click "Properties" to learn its size. Larger gifs can be reduced or resized at free sites such as http://gifworks.com.

1ST POSTS/JOURNALS/DIARIES - We encourage new arrivals to make their initial post a permanent log and diary that not only allows you to quickly review and assess your recovery progress but will also allow Freedom's members to easily review your progress and render meaningful assistance. Remember, all member posts must relate to recovery whether on Freedom's message boards or on your Freedom profile page.

Forum Rules
RELAPSE PERMANENTLY REVOKES POSTING PRIVILEGES - Members are limited to one Freedom membership per lifetime. See Freedom's Relapse Policy.

MEDICAL ADVICE, MEDICATION, HERB, EXERCISE, OR DIETING RECOMMENDATIONS - Members are not permitted to render advice or make recommendations on these topics, whether on Freedom's message boards or on your profile page. If you have specific health concerns, medication or herb questions, or need exercise or dieting assistance, please seek the assistance of qualified professionals. Freedom is a nicotine cessation forum staffed entirely by cessation educators who are not physicians, pharmacists or dietitians.

HURT FEELINGS - MEMBER ATTACKS - Words on a screen are not always received in the same spirit and tone as intended. Most of us are not professional writers or skilled communicators. If you ever feel hurt, offended or concerned by any Freedom member post, comment or message please contact Freedom's managers at [url=mailto:managers@whyquit.com]managers@whyquit.com[/url].

OPINION DEBATES - Freedom is a nicotine free Cold Turkey support group. We know who we are! Our message boards are for giving and receiving support. It is not a place to engage in debate over Freedom's approach to cessation, to attack or vilify those within the tobacco or pharmaceutical industry, or to debate our tough love approach to relapse, the merits of specific tobacco control measures, or any other topic that does not support nicotine cessation or prevention.


RELIGIOUS REFERENCES - Freedom's members come from the world stage where, whether we like it or not, serious religious conflict divides people, nations and regions. Religious divisions and debate are contrary to the unity and focus needed to foster the unconditional group cohesiveness needed to meet the education and support needs of all members. While members are free to mention or thank God or a higher power, references that identify a particular religion or that reference specific religious teachings are not permitted.

PROFANITY - Freedom is a family channel with teens and children around the world being encouraged to visit and learn what nicotine dependency is all about. Neither profanity nor implied profanity (missing letters) will be permitted. In marketing Freedom as a youth dependency teaching tool our definition of profanity is rather broad. Generally, if you would question or hesitate using the word while addressing a large group of ten-year-olds then we ask that you refrain from using it at Freedom. Please refer to our email welcoming you to Freedom for a sample list of prohibited words.


ALCOHOL AND OTHER DRUGS - Freedom is a drug addiction recovery site. Some of our members have multiple drug dependencies which they may or may not have under arrest. Celebratory use references to alcohol or other drugs are not permitted. For example, we do not toast success at ending nicotine use by references to consumption of alcohol.

PERSONAL ISSUES - If any member ever feels that their quit is threatened by a factual situation then feel free to share the basic facts in your request for help. Posting details associated with personal issues, relationships, or controversial lifestyle choices or that express personal opinions on such issues as religion, gambling, drinking, drug use, marital problems, premarital or extramarital affairs, sexual orientation, sex, gun control, child rearing problems, caring for the elderly, politics, and a host of other real life issues, does nothing to promote Freedom's mission and is not appropriate. Such real life issues exist for all of Freedom's members. No one should ever feel that their inability to air such issues will in any way impede his or her ability to stay nicotine-free.



GENERAL SOCIALIZATION - Freedom's message boards (and member profile pages) are reserved for giving and receiving nicotine cessation support and not for general socialization or unrelated chatter. There are thousands of fun sites on the internet that are centered around socializing. Freedom is not a place to celebrate the birthdays of our thousands of members or to celebrate hundreds of national or religious holidays. Please help us keep Freedom a serious and supportive group that remains focused exclusively on the topic of freedom from nicotine.


SOLICITING OR SPAMMING - RECOMMENDATIONS FOR PROGRAMS, TAPES , BOOKS OR PRODUCTS - MENTIONING PRODUCT NAMES: Even though often well intended these practices are prohibited. Freedom from Nicotine is a totally free site with no purchases necessary. No post (or member profile page) may contain any product brand names or any product recommendations. However in that we are a nicotine dependency recovery forum, members may uset nicotine, tobacco or cessation product brand names.
USING OFFSITE LINKS OR POSTING ANY CONTENT FROM OTHER SITES - Links between threads, to WhyQuit, Joel's Library or Ask Joel are encouraged but all external links or copying of any content from web pages of others, including health information, news stories or studies, whether in messages or profiles, must first be cleared by a Freedom manager, who can be reached at [url=mailto:managers@whyquit.com]managers@whyquit.com[/url]. In posting any approved materials, a link to the material's original source and any copyright information must always be included.

VIOLATIONS - Violation of the forum's Courtesies and Rules may result in permanent loss of membership and posting privileges.
NO NICOTINE TODAY!

NEVER USE NICOTINE AGAIN!
Thank you,
Freedom's Staff


Contact: [url=mailto:managers@whyquit.com]Managers@WhyQuit.com[/url]
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November 8th, 2009, 1:42 am #64

We're concerned that a few of our members seem determined to transform Freedom into a wonderful social experience. While management fully understands the desire to want to let our hair down and relax once recovery's primary challenges are behind us, for every member arriving on Easy Street there's another enduring those first few critical days.
We're sorry, but we cannot allow Freedom to lose focus. Many of our members are battling to save their lives.
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October 8th, 2010, 12:59 am #65

From a reply found on Page 1 of this topic:

This is really an important string. I am embarrassed that I never read it quite thoroughly before. The real strength at Freedom is how it always stays focused on smoking cessation-even in the face of other major issues that may happen over time. I suspect at times people have areas in their lives that seem so important or so integral to their well being that they sometimes think that not smoking is of secondary importance. Or, sometimes a person may feel that they need to bring up personal problems at Freedom that seem of great importance to them because this is where they got so much help in what seemed such an insurmountable problem as quitting smoking. But such actions will dilute the power of Freedom.

What Freedom is so good at doing is getting a person who may be so distracted by other problems to come here and refocus their thoughts-that even in lieu of other big issues, not smoking still needs to still be given the utmost priority. The person's actual life depends on it.

A person's thought sometimes may be, "How can I quit smoking and not be able to discuss this lifestyle, personal issue, specific problem or belief which is so much an important part of my life right now?" This same question could be asked about issues involving things like family values, abortion, politics, religion, gambling, drinking, drugs, premarital or extramarital affairs, sexual orientation, gun control, child rearing problems, caring for the elderly and a host of other real life issues. Each and every one of our members does this everyday-we live our other areas of our life and deal with many issues of major importance and still reserve a little time at Freedom to focus on the importance of not smoking.

This same effort is crucial to sustaining a quit, while here at Freedom or even when people have moved on, keep not smoking a number one priority. To keep your Freedom, your health and your life always stay focused on the bottom line importance of knowing to never take another puff!

Joel
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