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It may be difficult at times to understand Our Courtesies and Freedom's constant request that the language used in all posts be suitable for reading by children and teens. It has always been our dream that Freedom will grow in use as a window that our young can look into to learn what nicotine dependency and recovery are all about.Today we received the below e-mail that Joel thought it might help some to better appreciate our language concerns if shared. As WhyQuit gradually moves deeper into youth dependency prevention our contacts with youth groups continue to increase. We again thank each of you for keeping the language in your posts suitable for young and old alike.Breathe deep, hug hard, live long, Freedom! JohnI am a school nurse at a middle school, and I used your website to create a presentation on smoking prevention and smoking cessation. The students have responded even better than I expected. I want to thank you and the families who shared their stories for taking time to create this website. I really feel that some of these children will choose not to smoke because of your efforts. Thank you!
Yes, this is ...deadly serious businessThere was a time here at Freedom when tough love was the rule, when words of new members where seen as the eye to a junkie mind and each member did all they could to lay it on the line as openly, honestly and sometimes as bluntly as possible. With half of adult smokers smoking themselves to death, each an average of 5,000 days early, this is no place to take offense to the extremely serious business at hand.We wish it wasn't so serious, but it is. We wish we never again received word that another member or former member has died, but we will. We wish we had more time for pleasantries but most of us don't and many here give above and beyond, some for years.Everyone here is here to help you. We ask that you check your sensivities at the door as we do not expect our members to walk on eggs in teaching and supporting our members. In fact, in times of apparent crisis you'll often see them make some extremely creative arguments in trying to pull the member though. It may not pretty or appear kind, we're human and we make mistakes, but we promise you one thing, we'll do our best to help you stay free today.Millions of words but only one rule ... no nicotine today, Never Take Another Puff! John (Gold x5)
Freedom is DifferentIf you are a new arrival to Freedom, looking in and trying to compare what you see here to what you'll find at other forums it's really rather simple. This is one place on the Internet where the actively feeding nicotine addict gets no voice. We each already know most of the excuses used by the nicotine addict in order to justify that next fix and the time for games is over.
If you're looking for a fun filled place to make lots of new friends, a place that celebrates birthdays, anniversaries, hundreds of national or religious holidays, or where each new world current event gets discussion, focus or tribute, this isn't it.
But if you're looking for a place that attempts to take your freedom, health and life expectancy as seriously as the risks posed by your addiction warrant, then you're in the right place. The risk that continuing dependency upon smoking nicotine will permanently impair or cripple your mind and health is tremendous. The risk that smoking will deprive you of 13 to 14 years of life is 50%.
Only in a drug addict's mind is an exchange of 5,000 sunrises for one chemical a rational trade. If you're not afraid to explore an addict's mind then you're in the right place. We ask that you check your ego at the door as words are the only window we have to the junkie mind. Honesty may feel like tough love but do expect our members to notice and explore every potential denial minimization, rationalization and blame transference they see, even if wrong. It's what we do.
This can be the most amazing adventure you'll ever make if only you'll open your mind to the possibility that the real quitting took place on the day nicotine took control. Millions of words here at Freedom but all boil down to one rule that determines the outcome for all ... no nicotine today, Never Take Another Puff, Patch, Dip, Drink, ****, Lick or Chew!
We know we don't say it enough but without a half a decade of educated and caring givers here at Freedom -- givers whose insights live on long after their own personal challenge subsides -- this site would not have evolved into the empowering resource it is today. Simple truths seem to have a way of building on each other. Thank you Freedom!
Our Sincere Thanks!What you see here at Freedom truly is a team effort and a gift from countless caring and sharing hearts. Tended and cared for by a growing army of highly educated and seasoned volunteers, all of us extend our sincere thanks to all new arrivals as you travel and explore Freedom's well-beaten paths. May future arrivals always find the same deadly serious lessons and highly focused support that was present when we arrived.There is absolutely no reason why the entire Class of 2006 cannot still be healing and free in 2007. Still just one guiding principle for all, no nicotine today, Never Take Another Puff!"Your" Team
Our sincerely thanks to each of you for helping maintain Freedom's focus on the life and death task at hand. Focus is an easy thing to lose. Our goal is really rather simple. Should a visiting smoker, frustrated by their Internet search and dying for cessation insights, click upon any Freedom thread, that they will immediately realize that we're as "lively serious" as the the deadly serious risks they face. Thanks to each of you for working to help keep Freedom the highly focused forum that was present when we arrived! Still just one binding principle ... no nicotine today, Never Take Another Puff! John
Why Freedom Doesn't Do BirthdaysWhy would any forum whose focus is devoted to nicotine dependency recovery be opposed to its over 3,000 members each starting a new thread to celebrate their birthday, a wedding anniversary, a divorce, a new job, our pet's birthday or the birth of child or grandchild?Imagine being a 25 year heavy smoker who started young and that unknown to you, you are now less than 48 hours away from a massive heart attack that would add your name to the list of over four million claimed by smoking this year. Imagine somehow being able to sense that time was running, hearing about an online forum called Freedom and deciding to take a look.Imagine arriving and clicking upon the top thread and stepping into the middle of a birthday party. Imagine scrolling to the bottom of the party, clicking on the "Next Discussion" link and arriving inside a 30th wedding anniversary celebration. Imagine clicking "Next Discussion" once more and landing in the middle of a job hunt discussion. Three tries, three strikes, as you find no help or insight into how to help save your own life. Imagine growing discouraged, turning off your computer and two days later being found dead on the bathroom floor with a half-ash burned cigarette lying on the tile beside you.Freedom's subject matter posting rules are designed to keep the focus on recovery. This forum exists so that each member might enjoy thousands of extra days of life and scores of wonderful celebrations. But if we each bring those celebrations here then the effectiveness of the very tool that is helping enhance the prospect of years of additional celebration will soon be lost.Why would any of us intentionally attempt to diminish this forum's appeal to those desperate to break nicotine's grip upon their mind, health and life? Why would any among us intentionally try to dilute the life-saving message being shared? I don't think we would. What happens is that a growing sense of comfort makes it easy to forget the early challenge and just how deadly serious this battle is.We beg each of you to resist that natural inclination to want to celebrate life's other milestones in a place reserved for nicotine dependency recovery. Sincere thanks. Only one rule, no nicotine today, Never Take Another Puff!John
We fully appreciate that the forum's focus rules constrain natural desires to socialize and divert. Our sincere thanks to each of you for understanding that for many here this is statistically a life or death period in their life. Time has run out and failure means becoming a statistic. If at times we seem far too serious, please forgive us as over the years we've seen what happens when time runs out.
John (Gold x7)
Part of our responsibility here at Freedom is to prepare member expectations for those magic days when these quickly healing brains, pumping out natural dopamine "aaah" memories, so bury or displace nicotine "aaah" memories that it becomes hard to appreciate why this place continues to stay so intensely focused on the early challenges.
When you think about it, it's a wonderful problem to have. As the time between challenges continues to grow, we sincerely thank each of you for making sure that each new arriving generation finds the same focused and intense support that was present when we arrived. Still just one rule for each of us ... no nicotine today!
John (Gold x8)