Finding Cigarettes

Finding Cigarettes

Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

07 Apr 2006, 02:12 #1

I wrote the below commentary specifically about people offering you cigarettes after you quit. Another similar issue is for people who repeatedly "accidentally" leave their cigarettes in your home, office or car. If this ever happens it is best to destroy the person's cigarettes. Again, the same concept applies--whether you smoke them or destroy them, the cigarettes are no longer going to be available for the person who has carelessly left them behind. The first time if you really feel bad you can reimburse the person the cost of the cigarettes. After that though the person should clearly know not to be so careless with his or her cigarettes.
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If ever you have a family member, friend, co-worker or any other acquaintance offer you a cigarette it is best to politely say no and just let the person know that you do not smoke any more nor do you even want to smoke any more. Basically say you have no interest or desire for one. That should be the end of the offers if it is from any person who was just making what he or she thought was a friendly gesture.

If the person pursues asking you about how you quit and why you feel as you do, you may want to take the opportunity to share some of what you learned here about how important quitting smoking is and how much better you feel about yourself since you have quit smoking.

If on the other hand the person continues to offer you a cigarette or is obviously actually pushing you to take one it is best to give it one or two more tries to politely say no and ask the person not to offer any more for you truly have no intention of smoking one. If this doesn't end the pressure being put on you to take a cigarette it is time to change your tactics. Look at the person, maybe even with a little bit of sadness and defeat in your eyes, and say to him or her that you can't take the pressure anymore and sure give me a cigarette if you must. When he or she hands you the cigarette, walk over to the nearest garbage can, crumble it up and throw it out.

Now you have an option of how you want to proceed. You can either wait for the next offer to come or you can say, "Thank you, that felt great. Would you like to give me another one." If the person is gullible enough to offer you another take that one too and repeat the destruction and disposal. Keep it up for as long as the person keeps offering. At some point you may want to say that this could go a whole lot faster if you would like to give me your pack. You can destroy all of the cigarettes that way in one fell swoop.

I can assure you that if you stick to this game plan the person is eventually going to stop offering you cigarettes. Cigarettes are just to expensive to keep up this kind of routine over a long time period. By the way, you should not feel any guilt for destroying the cigarettes of another person. Once a person is offering you a cigarette he or she should not be expecting to get it back. If you smoke the cigarette it is no longer available for the person or if you destroy the cigarette it is no longer available either. If the person is indeed making the offer to somehow give you some sort of pleasure the odds are you will get some sort of pleasure out of destroying them. If not pleasure you should get a little amusement out of the reaction from the person as they see their hard fought efforts to get you to smoke get instantly trashed.

This action will likely result in the other person feeling a whole lot more irritated by the altercation than you will. More importantly though, you will by example be proving to the person and to yourself that your quit is strong and your resolve is totally intact to stick to your personal commitment to never take another puff.

Joel
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Jacqui672 Gold
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

07 Apr 2006, 04:12 #2

What timing! Last night, my husband (A smoker) went out. He had been using my computer, because his was down. I went to my computer to pop in here and read, and OH THE HORROR! He had left a pack of smokes with 5 cigs in it on my keyboard! At first I freaked! Then I laughed at myself, and calmly got up and threw them away.

He came home...late. Shook me awake, where were his cigs? I told him I tossed them. Sure enough, like I've done 1000 x before, he dug em out and smoked them.
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Jacqui672 Gold
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

07 Apr 2006, 04:12 #3

Forgot-One week, two days, 5 hours, 12 minutes and 27 seconds. 368 cigarettes not smoked, saving $101.38. Life saved: 1 day, 6 hours, 40 minutes.
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Starshinegrl Gold
Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:00

07 Apr 2006, 15:55 #4

Oh, Joel, you have already linked the short funny clinic story. Image

Still would like to add Just Found a Cigarette. Image

Gitte
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Zinnia987
Joined: 12 Jan 2009, 22:15

11 Jul 2006, 08:40 #5

Joel,
I love that! I'm going to try that, because I have friends who smoke! Thank you, that made me chuckle amongst myself!
-Zinnia
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Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

21 Feb 2007, 17:56 #6

This video talks about the issue of offers for cigarettes or people leaving their cigarettes around where you may will likely them:
Dealing with people who try to undercut your quit Dial Up
6.52mb
High Speed
19.52mb
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17:42
11/12/06
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Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

27 Apr 2007, 20:10 #7

This is a good post to attach to this string considering the above example:

Short funny clinic story

A couple of years ago I had a clinic graduate relate an incident to me. He had come in the third night of one of my clinics for reinforcement after he had been off for a number of months. He told me that a couple of days earlier he found himself tempted to have a cigarette. He was in a men's room at his work where he saw a a single cigarette (his brand) and a lighter sitting on top of the urinal and all of a sudden thought to himself how tempting it was and how easy it would be to just light the cigarette and take a puff. I asked him when was the last time he ever saw anything else on a urinal in a men's room that he was somehow tempted to put into his mouth. At that he smiled and said, "point well taken." He has been fine since that realization.

This video talks about the issue of offers for cigarettes or people leaving their cigarettes around where you may will likely them:
Dealing with people who try to undercut your quit Dial Up
6.52mb
High Speed
19.52mb
Length
17:42
11/12/06
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Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

17 Jul 2007, 06:40 #8

This is a good post to attach to this string considering the above example:

Short funny clinic story

A couple of years ago I had a clinic graduate relate an incident to me. He had come in the third night of one of my clinics for reinforcement after he had been off for a number of months. He told me that a couple of days earlier he found himself tempted to have a cigarette. He was in a men's room at his work where he saw a a single cigarette (his brand) and a lighter sitting on top of the urinal and all of a sudden thought to himself how tempting it was and how easy it would be to just light the cigarette and take a puff. I asked him when was the last time he ever saw anything else on a urinal in a men's room that he was somehow tempted to put into his mouth. At that he smiled and said, "point well taken." He has been fine since that realization.

This video talks about the issue of offers for cigarettes or people leaving their cigarettes around where you may will likely them:
Dealing with people who try to undercut your quit Dial Up
6.52mb
High Speed
19.52mb
Length
17:42
11/12/06
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Nyniane SparrowSong
Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:17

18 Jul 2007, 10:57 #9

May I share?

Bearing Joel's advice in mind, when my husband repeatedly left his cigs in the garage, I decided to go with a "Winston Lynching." I drew a face on one of them, tied a string around it's "neck," snapped it at the filter, and hung it from the lawnmower handle. That still didn't seem like enough, so I stuck a few straight pins through it, for good measure.

By the time I was done, the things must have learned not to whisper to me anymore. And, I have never found a pack laying around since. Image

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Regards,
Beth - Free and Healing for Five Months, Fifteen Days, 19 Hours and 57 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 11 Days and 12 Hours, by avoiding the use of 3317 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $576.03.
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Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

13 Dec 2007, 21:39 #10

This is a good post to attach to this string considering the above example:

Short funny clinic story

A couple of years ago I had a clinic graduate relate an incident to me. He had come in the third night of one of my clinics for reinforcement after he had been off for a number of months. He told me that a couple of days earlier he found himself tempted to have a cigarette. He was in a men's room at his work where he saw a a single cigarette (his brand) and a lighter sitting on top of the urinal and all of a sudden thought to himself how tempting it was and how easy it would be to just light the cigarette and take a puff. I asked him when was the last time he ever saw anything else on a urinal in a men's room that he was somehow tempted to put into his mouth. At that he smiled and said, "point well taken." He has been fine since that realization.

This video talks about the issue of offers for cigarettes or people leaving their cigarettes around where you may will likely them:
Dealing with people who try to undercut your quit Dial Up
6.52mb
High Speed
19.52mb
Length
17:42
11/12/06
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