Everything feels a bit boring...

Everything feels a bit boring...

webvida
Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:15

13 Apr 2008, 01:45 #1

I used to like to socialise and have a drink every so often, but since I quit (round a month a 2 weeks ago) I have found myself a bit bored with life... I don't seem to get tyhe same enjoyment out of things like I used too...

The impulse to smoke is basically gone, with only a few triggers coming up every so often and I do NOT feel like smoking, but I have the bored, "what is the use" type feeling a lot and I was wondering if anyone else gets this...

-Adam
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butterflybeth82
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

13 Apr 2008, 01:56 #2

Hey Adam,

I think we've all been at that point in our quit. But don't let your gaurd down. It seems like you are going through a Complacency stage and it's a dangerous place to be. No, there are no urges, but you still want one. Yes life is good, but now it's boring.

My advice for you is to maybe get into something else. The weather is starting to get really nice, there are baseball teams, basketball teams, or any sort of groups that meet up that you can join. Take up hiking. Take up the gym. Rent a beach house with the extra cash your not wasting on smokes. Do something. Before you know it that void will be filled and that bordem will be gone.

Hope that helps! Keep your chin up, keep reading, and NTAP!

Beth
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Stayingfree6
Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:09

13 Apr 2008, 02:36 #3

Hi Adam,
Just wanted to say, that I also went through a time (still do from time to time) when I really felt BLAH. I wouldn't call it depressed, but more disinterested, even in things that I used to like to do.Very unmotivated....even going out to dinner with my husband (one of my favorite things to do)...just didn't really care. All by itself my attitude started to change, but I have also looked at how I used to spend my time, and so much of it was geared around having my cigarette, that I have needed to start to do quite a few things in a different way. I t is improving thoughImage

Joanna - Free and Healing for One Month, Seventeen Days, 4 Hours and 51 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 3 Days and 8 Hours, by avoiding the use of 964 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $234.24.
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Tracy
Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:02

13 Apr 2008, 03:02 #4

Hi Adam,
I went back to look at your quit date. Not that all of us follow an exact time line, but we do have similiar experiences within similiar time frames. I felt EXACTLY the same way too. I think it is part of the depression phase. I find myself wobbling between one phase and another. I move from depression to bargaining and every once in a whole I live in the land of acceptance.

I love the land of acceptance and I really believe that as time goes on I will get to spend more time there. But...in the meantime I will be dragged from one phase to another at my minds whim and I will read read read and wait wait wait and just not take another puff. Cause regardless of what we tell ourselves or how we are feeling or which phase we are experiencing or what life is serving up to us the only important but we all need to do is just not take another puff!!!

Tracy - Free and Healing for One Month, Nineteen Days, 11 Hours and 20 Minutes.
It isn't always easy, but it is always simple.
Never take another puff or dip!
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Lburgguy1
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

13 Apr 2008, 03:25 #5

Heck I feel that way with or without nicotine. But I'd rather feel this way without nicotine. Who said that??? Oh, that's me the ex-smoker.
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Chipits GOLD.ffn
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

13 Apr 2008, 05:31 #6



"this isn't what it feels like to be "you" but then neither was it "you" when nicotine controlled the neurochemical show....John(Gold)
Hi Adam,
Welcome to Freedom!
ImageHere are a few articles you will find helpful in regards to the blahs. Although all people are susceptible to blah times, smokers, non-smokers, and ex-smokers alike; having recently quit, your body and mind are readjusting and healing from the effects of nicotine use. Seeing your doctor should this become troublesome would be wise. (though I know of some uninformed professionals who would recommend nicotine patches to alleviate the withdrawal symptoms, which as you know will only perpetuate the cycle of addiction again). It is not uncommon for emotions to run the gamut from high to low to indifference when we first quit. Keep reading to reinforce your motivations, keep reading to strengthen your quit with knowledge and keep reading to solidify your awesome decision to better your life. These temporary adjustments are just that- temporary -and are no indication of how you will feel down the road when comfort settles in. Every day is reason for being proud because getting rid of nicotine is a great accomplishment. So good for you Adam!!! You have given yourself the best gift ever, because it will give back hundred-fold.
Smile Image just because you can.
And above all Image No Nicotine Today............w.

Nicotine - a neuromodulator- this explains some of the 'why'
Emotional Loss Experienced from Quitting Smoking
Normal depressive reaction or a real organic depressive episode
Patience
Life goes on without smoking
Medication adjustments
Wendy&Randy-Using our smarts!Healing our parts! for 21 mths. &16 mths.
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Chipits GOLD.ffn
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

13 Apr 2008, 05:43 #7

P.S.Image
Congratulations on being GREEN AND A HALF!!!
Wendy
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smilingthyme0
Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:02

13 Apr 2008, 22:16 #8

Hi AdamImage
I agree with everyone else, also a couple more threads for you - which you may have already checked out.....Turning the Corner... Acceptance really helped me when I felt like you described, and I just turned green, so why am I blue? kind of helped me to see I was not on my own which gave comfort.Image

Don't lose sight of the awesome achievement that is 2 and a half months free of nicotine. That is just such a huge thing Adam - truly! ImageAll I can say is, you wont always feel the way you do at this stage. Things can, will and do change - I don't see any posts from oldies and goldies that say "Boy it sure gets worse further down the road of no nicotine!! "
I don't see many bronze and onwards posts that say that either come to think.....
Keep on growing quit bro, you are doing it, the rewards will come.
All the best
yqs
JuliaImage
FREE for 91 days. (3 Months, 18 hours and 1 minute) By Avoiding the use of 1,835 nicotine delivery sticks. Reclaiming 6 Days, 8 hours and 55 minutes To do with as I choose
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Sandyr
Joined: 09 Jan 2009, 00:17

13 Apr 2008, 22:20 #9

I hear you loud & clear Adam. That is my greatest fear. It has happened in past quits for me & has been the reason that I started smoking again (then, not now). The way I am trying to get through this now is by focusing on how I am no longer a social outcast. Yes you like to have a cig when you go out for a drink or two but think about it. When you did go outside to have a fix you had to leave the people you were with then come back in smelling of smoke. Sometimes you could talk to strangers while outside in the cold or rain. It isn't the fun part of the social function. I was having a lot of anxiety recently because I am going on vacation this week. I used to like to sit on the beach with a drink & a cig. How is it going to be the same???? Well I decided to walk the beach if I get anxious. I figure that i didn't sit & smoke non-stop anyway. When i wasn't having my cig i was just sitting there enjoying it. So try & do the same. Remember that the majority of the time you are out doing things aren't with a cig. The nicotine fixes were just that so try & skip the thoughts you have for one, one by one. It makes it a little easier when you know that you are not the only one thinking & feeling these things. Trust me, we'll get through this together with the help of whyquit.com & Freedom.
Sandyr
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Sandyr
Joined: 09 Jan 2009, 00:17

13 Apr 2008, 22:26 #10

I forgot to mention to download one of the quit meters. It's so inspiring to keep track of how well you are doing on a daily basis. It really helps to keep you focused.
Sandyr
I have been quit for 2 Weeks, 5 Days, 10 hours, 28 minutes and 17 seconds (19 days). I have saved $58.30 by not smoking 233 cigarettes. I have saved 19 hours and 25 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 3/25/2008 12:00 AM
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