Bargaining is probably the most dangerous stage in the effort to stop smoking. "Oh boy, I could sneak this one and nobody will ever know it." "Things are really tough today, I will just have one to help me over this problem, no more after that." "Maybe I'll just smoke today, and quit again tomorrow." It may be months before these people even attempt to quit again. I could have added this one to the paragraph above:
"Maybe its just too dangerous for me to quit smoking."
Hi Joel and all others who have contributed to this forum. Deb - Free and Healing for Twenty Five Days, 3 Hours and 1 Minute, while extending my life expectancy 1 Day and 7 Hours, by avoiding the use of 377 death sticks that would have cost me $207.50.
You would think I had hopefully zoomed past these stages as I have now been nicotine free for 25 days. I seem to be experiencing a huge problem with craving, for the last 2 - 3 days I feel like I absolutely must have a cigarette. So much so that I have not been able to focus on my work, my poor family have had the sharp end of the stick. My husband was supposed to be quitting nicotine with me but has had a relapse and I'm sure I am feeling like I have been left behind. Why does he get to enjoy (lol) the evil monsters if I can't. I have been fixating on situations where we used to enjoy a nice hot coffee (it's winter here in Oz). I have come to realise it is the situations I am missing and not the cigarette. The crave has been so strong yesterday and today, I nearly went and bought a packet this morning. Thank heavens I didn't. And I have been reading lots of info on the whyquit site but hadn't stumbled across the right thing until now. After reading the info on emotional loss I am stuck, stuck, stuck in the "Depression - "Looks like I'm going to make it but how can I possibly function without smoking nicotine?" "I don't feel like smoker and I'm no comfortable ex-smoker either." "I feel lost." "I feel so alone." stage.
I have been feeling incredibly isolated as my husband is smoking and I feel like I have no-one to share the trials, tribulations and successes with. This has most definitely helped me a great deal today and prevented an almost certain relapse.
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Just so you know you are not alone, I found weeks 3 and 4 to be what I describe as "very tedious". The newness and adreneline rush of the first days is over, but you aren't far enough along to be feeling a lot of comfort yet. I was never in danger of smoking, but there were times when I was really tired of working thru crave/triggers. Honestly, you just have to keep trudging along, using the same tools that have gotten you this far. Count each day as a win and know that its a dynamic process. Today isn't like yesterday and tomorrow won't be like today.
[font=ARIAL, GEORGIA, 'TIMES NEW ROMAN', TIMES, SERIF]Research shows quitting smoking often helps depressionApril 2013 - by BeyondBlue.org
Quitting smoking can significantly improve people’s mental health, according to research, which has uncovered a series of important findings.
The beyondblue-funded research underpins a new booklet, Depression and quitting smoking, which addresses the unique challenges that people with depression face when trying to give up.Quit Victoria Executive Director Fiona Sharkie said the perception that people with depression can’t or don’t want to quit is wrong.
“With the right support, not only can people with depression quit, but their depression often improves,” she said. “We know that people often smoke to ease stress or boost their mood, but the opposite is actually true. Research has shown quitting smoking eases depressive symptoms and those effects can last for as long as the smoker stays off the cigarettes.”
The research findings include:
- Smokers are more than twice as likely to report that they regularly feel depressed when compared to ex-smokers who gave up six months earlier.
- Many people with depression quit successfully, but overall are a third less likely to do so than people who aren’t depressed.
beyondblue CEO Kate Carnell said the research has been used to create the free booklet that is aimed at people with depression who want to quit. Ms Carnell said that, despite seeming hard, quitting is the best thing smokers can do for their health.
“We’ve always known the physical benefits of giving up, but this study shows the impact that quitting smoking can also have on people’s moods,” she said. “This study shows that while 37% of smokers say they recently had a prolonged period of feeling down, this number is more than halved to 16% among those who quit six months ago. The figure is 34% for those who try to quit but fail within the first six months, suggesting that even quitting temporarily has some mental health benefits.
“This book advises people with depression that they are capable of giving up cigarettes – just like people who aren’t depressed. It gives information about why they smoke, how to make a plan to quit and strategies they can use to quit once and for all. I urge anyone with depression who smokes to order a copy of the booklet and read it.”
The research was conducted by Dr Catherine Segan from The University of Melbourne’s School of Population and Global Health. For a six-month period, it tracked more than 800 people who contacted Quitline for advice on how to quit, including a quarter with depression.
The research found while people with depression found it more challenging to quit than other people, many were still successful, with one-third having quit successfully six months after first contacting Quitline. This compared with about half of other participants in the research who weren’t depressed.
On the down side, the research also found that 18% of participants with depression reported a significant increase in depression symptoms within two months of quitting compared with 5% of people who had never been depressed. However half of those who had an increase in depression symptoms said they believed it was unrelated to the quit attempt. The research was also unable to draw a direct link between any increase in depressive symptoms and quitting.
Ms Carnell said the findings are a reminder that people with depression who try to quit should do so in consultation with their doctor.
“We know from the research that a third of people with depression have quit successfully six months after first contacting Quitline,” she said. “Quitting can be a challenge for someone with depression, but as this research shows, it can be done.”