Crave episodes: the bigger the better

Subconscious use cue extinguishment
Joined: 16 Jan 2003, 08:00

11 Jul 2008, 08:05 #21

Excerpt from above:
For purposes of discussion only, let's pretend that during days 14, 15 and 16 that although you remained occupied in dealing with an almost steady stream of conscious thoughts about wanting to smoke that you did not encounter any un-extinguished nicotine feeding cue. Although unlikely that you'd notice, wouldn't it be normal to begin to relax and slowly lower your guard?

And then it happens. On day 17 you encounter a subconscious crave trigger that wasn't part of normal daily life. It catches you totally unprepared, off-guard and surprised. You scramble to muster your defenses but it's as if they too are being swallowed by a fast moving tsunami of rising anxieties. You feel as if you've been sucker-punched hard by the most intense crave ever. It feels endless. Your conscious thinking mind tells you that things are getting worse, not better. The thought of throwing in the towel and giving-up suddenly begins sloshing through a horrified mind.

It is then, when things seem worst, that we need to briefly pause and reflect upon what we're really seeing. Things are not getting worse but better. Think about how long it's been since your last significant challenge and how relaxed you've allowed yourself to become. It's likely that this episode is no more intense than prior craves. But you'd taken off your life jacket and you couldn't quickly locate it and put it on. You panicked.

If an event similar should happen to you I'd encourage you to stop, reflect and then celebrate!!! You've reclaimed so many once conditioned aspects of a nicotine dependent life that serious challenges are growing rare. Oh you'll still encounter remote or even seasonal triggers but with the passing of time they'll grow further apart, shorter in duration and generally less intense.

Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:00

11 Jul 2008, 10:11 #22

Little did I know that worrying about quitting was much worse than the actual temporary period of adjustment we commonly call quitting. ... comfort comes to all who are stubbornly determined enough to get through a couple of tough patches and break on through to a calm state of mind that will bring a lifetime of comfort being who we were meant to be by staying nicotine free.
It really is as elemental as NTAP.

From above - JoeJFree - Message 13

Joined: 16 Jan 2003, 08:00

01 Oct 2008, 06:13 #23

From post #25 within Embracing craves :
That next crave can't hurt you and it won't make you bleed!
It won't last longer than it took to smoke a cigarette!
Relax, embrace it, and say goodbye to your needless fears!
This isn't what it feels like to be a comfortable ex-smoker.
This is what it feels like to say goodbye to your former master!
Smile! The calmness ahead is permanent and deep!

Joined: 17 Aug 2010, 16:35

26 Aug 2010, 15:38 #24

A fabulous thread with which to end my time on line today. Thank you all!
Gratefully Gold

I escaped from the prison of smoking on August 14, 2010.  
[font]The best revenge is quitting well![/font] 

Joined: 11 Nov 2008, 19:22

13 Oct 2012, 11:40 #25

Think about it, crave episodes are good not bad.
At the end of each is a reward, the return of a
time, place, emotion, person or location that  
once served as your mind's cue to use nicotine.
Extinguish all use cues and take back your life!

Baby steps, yes you can!