Commitment

richard This is It GOLD
richard This is It GOLD

September 26th, 2002, 8:55 am #1

For our newbies... and beyond....

With thanks to Patticake for these words:

"Quitting nicotine usage is one of the most important and enjoyable things a person can do for themself. My heart breaks for those who relapsed but I am of the opinion that an individual sets themself up for relapse due to lack of total commitment and education; I guess you could say they get blind-sided and never knew what hit them.................they weren't prepared, they hadn't built a defense, they weren't totally commited. Commitment involves learning everything possible about nicotine addiction, preparing onesself to take that first big step, start forward and never look back. There will be those times when relapse is only a trigger away, but again, commitment and preparing onesself for those times will get us through."
Taken from: WHY DOES IT GET HARDER???
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Geo Gold
Geo Gold

September 26th, 2002, 9:56 am #2

Hi Richard,
Thanks for bringing up those words of wisdom from Patticake. I had a friend tell me during the first week of my quit not to be too hard on myself if I relapsed and started smoking again! That kind of thinking is like giving ourselves permission to relapse! It is only when we have learned that having a cigarette is no longer an option that we will succeed. That is what commitment is all about and that is the only way. I've never heard of anyone that is halfway addicted!
Geo
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Toast GOLD
Toast GOLD

September 26th, 2002, 10:05 am #3

Thanks Richard for pulling up a great point from Antonia! And Geo, you got that right - half-way addicted to nicotine?!

"I'm only half pregnant. I've got this thing under control. I can be pregnant a couple times today and not again til the weekend when I'm out with my friends."

Commitment it is. Some days that commitment seems a little pricey, but folks it is SO worth it! YOU are so worth it! Hug yer quit tight!

Melissa
16 months
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Zengirl SILVER
Zengirl SILVER

September 26th, 2002, 10:00 pm #4

Richard,

Right, right, right you are. Although I am new to the Freedom family, I'm no stranger to quitting. I chose Freedom because of its solid view on commitment and relapse. For a few days prior to my joining, in my lurking phase, I was actually involved in another group, elsewhere. The board was filled with people who were semi-serious about their quits. One woman, who I really tried to reach out to, kept sneaking cigarettes, feeling guilty about it, and then posting - knowing that everyone would give her the ole, "hey, no biggie, keep trying, it's alright..." I understand the cycle. I lived the cycle [minus the posting part]. However, I was looking for a group of serious "this is my final quit" folks. Because I need this to stay quit for life. We all do.

So, to all silver and gold, green and double green folks - THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE!!!!! Your commitment to your quit is admirable...but your commitment to help your fellow quit sisters and bro's is invaluable.

-Zengirl [2 weeks, 10 hours, 59 minutes, 44 seconds and counting....]
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Rickgoldx5
Rickgoldx5

September 26th, 2002, 10:39 pm #5

Richard,
Thanks for the post. I needed it this morning!
Last night I completely came unglued at my daughter. She getting married in a couple weeks and driving me nuts. There are alot more things going on here but I won't go into them here. I just want you to know that she got mad went outside and quickly lit up. I was upset and was thinking ,"****, I need a smoke!" Then I sat down and thought what a stupid thing to think! First, if I go light up it won't solve this problem.
And then I'll have another more horrific problem and that would be a complete addiction to cigs again! Not, only would I still be mad at my daughter but now I would be real mad at me for starting again. I can't and I won't try to see if I have another quit in me. I'm quit now and nothing except ME taking another puff will change that! So thanks for letting vent alittle and say for me "Once a pickle, always a pickle. I will never be a cucumber again
Rick
Four months, three weeks, one day, 2 hours, 39 minutes and 42 seconds. 11899 cigarettes not smoked, saving $1,778.91. Life saved: 5 weeks, 6 days, 7 hours, 35 minutes.
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Gormo Gold
Gormo Gold

September 26th, 2002, 11:01 pm #6

jackrabbit

Your education is showing. Well Done!

Gormo
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Parker GOLD
Parker GOLD

September 26th, 2002, 11:19 pm #7

Rick, just lost a nice long reply to your great post. Where do these things go when they just phooosh off the screen????

Want to congratulate you on moving past a huge trigger last night. Anger and frustration are the ones that make my little junkie brain immediately say, "Let's smoke!" But the educated part of my brain now counters with, "Absolutely not! It will not make you feel better about this situation. You will simply be mixing in self-disgust with the other emotions."

The reading absorbed from this site has made the difference for me. The more I exercise those "absolutely not" muscles, the stronger they get. So, my hats off to you -- that was a noteworthy achievement, Rick

Best wishes,
Parker - 111 days of lovely freedom
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SammymnGOLD
SammymnGOLD

September 26th, 2002, 11:27 pm #8

RAGING CORRECTNESS ABOUNDS IN THIS THREAD! That's all I have to say on the matter.

Sammy (Committed mind, body and soul now for 83+days).
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Lilac Bronze
Lilac Bronze

September 27th, 2002, 4:06 am #9

It would be nice if someone would start a parade of phrases we say to ourselves when temptation looms.. Not the the long lecture type of temptation but the "out of the blue" ones. that respond to cue cards or sound bites. I imagine there would be a great diversity of them. Lilac 2m3w1d
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Rickgoldx5
Rickgoldx5

September 27th, 2002, 4:10 am #10

sorry Richard didn't mean to take away from your post
Rick
Thank everyone!
Thanks Freedom!
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richard This is It GOLD
richard This is It GOLD

September 27th, 2002, 2:23 pm #11

"It would be nice if someone would start a parade of phrases we say to ourselves when temptation looms.."
Ummmmmmmmmmmmmm.... I think I agree with you Lilac.. it would be nice wouldn't it..... somebody really should start such a parade don't YOU think Lilac... nudge nudge, wink, wink, hint, hint, you go girl...
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Lilac Bronze
Lilac Bronze

September 27th, 2002, 7:11 pm #12

Yeah, well, why don't you do it ,Richard? It will carry more authenticity. Everyone will affirm to you that I am poor at procedures Besides with my uncanny ability to stop a great thread dead in it's tracks my parade won't even get off the ground. Gratefully, Lilac
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Parker GOLD
Parker GOLD

September 27th, 2002, 11:11 pm #13

Nice try, Richard. Really, I admire the effort. However, I think she outmaneuvered you. Every once in a while she tries to pull that I'm-just-a-sweet-little-helpless-old-lady routine. Probably best not to fight it!
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richard This is It GOLD
richard This is It GOLD

January 29th, 2003, 4:48 am #14

For JulieA

My quit is precious to me.... I have bad days like anyone else.......I remember, and continue to remember to remember how many years I was under the total control of nicotine.... and I also now have the education to know that one puff will take me back there. Read, read, read, treasure your quit... one day at a time....


Today in the US is the Presidents "State of the Union" speech.... here's a quote from a former president which could be addapted/applied to our group here at Freedom......

"Freedom is a fragile thing and is never more than one generation away from extinction. It is not ours by inheritance; it must be fought for and defended constantly by each generation, for it comes only once to a people. Those who have known freedom, and then lost it, have never known it again."
--Ronald Reagan
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Jeanne Gold
Jeanne Gold

January 29th, 2003, 5:21 am #15

Without committment to oneself Freedom will never be had. I remember a time years ago when I tried to quit but failed and had the word "never" thrown back at me. Seems I had said that word (I'll never smoke again) and then didn't follow through with it. I was very, very careful after that not to ever say that ugly word again. It was like a knife through my heart to have the word come to mind, but quickly dismiss it before it hurt me. I thought anything was better than to claim I would never smoke again and then do it anyway. People can be so nasty when they rub that salt into your wounds.

It has taken me a long time to figure this one out, but here are my new, improved thoughts on the word never. Say it! Feel it! Sing it! Shout it! Mean it! and then do it. I will NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF and it will be because of my committment to myself not to. Not one puff, no matter what!

The truth of the matter is that if I were to relapse, then eating the word 'never' would be the very least of my worries.

~Jeanne
Day 109 and totally in love with my quit
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Trew Silver
Trew Silver

January 29th, 2003, 5:43 am #16

Dear Richard,
On behalf of JulieA, StevR, me and all the other newbies I'd like to Thank You Very Much for Patticake's words.

Knowledge is power, but we also need you (Freedom's Silvers and Golds). We are looking up to you. I scan all the message boards every day, and if I don't have time to read all the replies, I will at least read every Silver and Gold reply.

I'm doing well today, hope everyone else is, too! Time to go home!
Tracy <---updated my stats (I had calculated cigs smoked based on how many I had cut back on the last 2 weeks - I realized that wasn't really truthful in the whole scheme of things. )

I have been Quit for: 1W 2D 1h 25m 3s. I have NOT smoked 154, for a savings of $26.57. Life Saved: 12h 50m.
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Rickgoldx5
Rickgoldx5

January 29th, 2003, 7:44 am #17

thanks for bringing this up
Rick
8mo
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Joined: January 16th, 2003, 8:00 am

July 24th, 2003, 6:33 am #18

I've had this on my fridge for awhile. Don't know when he said it but he put it perfectly (probably for the first time ).

This was said by O'Bob sometime this year:

It's just really nice to no longer be compelled to do something that I knew was so harmful, yet felt powerless to stop doing.

Never take another puff. No matter what.
Sal
Six months, one week, four days
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richard This is It GOLD
richard This is It GOLD

August 30th, 2003, 5:17 pm #19

You go girl !!!!

You know who you are.... you can do it, you've done it before !!!!

We're rooting for you......

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richard This is It GOLD
richard This is It GOLD

June 16th, 2004, 4:14 am #20

For those struggling today with their commitment to never take another puff....



"Freedom is a fragile thing and is never more than one generation away from extinction. It is not ours by inheritance; it must be fought for and defended constantly by each generation, for it comes only once to a people. Those who have known freedom, and then lost it, have never known it again."
--Ronald Reagan
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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

May 19th, 2005, 2:43 am #21

The achievement of your goal is assured the moment you commit yourself to it.


For anyone who may be struggling today with their commitment to never take another puff....
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johnnynonic
johnnynonic

April 7th, 2006, 8:14 am #22

From: Sal-GOLD Sent: 7/23/2003 6:33 PM
I've had this on my fridge for awhile. Don't know when he said it but he put it perfectly (probably for the first time ).

This was said by O'Bob sometime this year:

It's just really nice to no longer be compelled to do something that I knew was so harmful, yet felt powerless to stop doing.

Never take another puff. No matter what.
Sal
Six months, one week, four days
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