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No Crutches - Especially Ones Likely to BreakFreedom's almost 40% six-month continuous nicotine cessation rate may sound rather amazing and it may very likely be the highest Inter net recovery rate in the world, but it still means that the majority of all new members will relapse.
Although it's great to see new members encourage and support each other, it is extremely dangerous to psychologically link their quest to yours. Root for each other, pull for each other but also know with every fiber of your being that your recovery belongs only to you and that their relapse will not stop you from completing this temporary journey of adjustment and tasting lasting comfort.
There was always only one rule, no nicotine today! John
The uneducated and unsupported quitter has roughly 1 in 20 odds (5%) of succeeding in remaining nicotine free for one year. Two new quitters buddying-up can all too easily become heavy reliance crutches for each other, which if one relapses spells relapse for both. Why lean upon a crutch with 95% odds of breaking? If we want to have another quitter support us in this journey it makes sense to select a person who does not face substantial odds of craving, caving and relapsing themselves.
Millions of words here at Freedom but just one guiding principle determining the outcome for all ... no nicotine today, Never Take Another Puff. John (Gold x5)
Many of us have lived this Joel lesson in prior quits. Every now and then we'll see it here at Freedom, where two quitters are leaning so heavily upon each other that when one encounters trouble they both do.
It is ok to quit with friends or loved ones. It is ok to offer them support and encouragement along the way. What is extremely riskly is in allowing them to become your key source of motivation.
In your mind, insulate yourself now. See yourself as being fully able to continue on regardless of whether or not they relapse. Picture yourself, if need be, being the leader and fully willing to go the distance to show your smoking friend or loved one that life without nicotine is entirely do-able, and far far easier than living an endless stream of mandatory chemical feedings.
Let this be your loving gift of you to you. Hold it close and protect it above all else.