Being tempted watching others smoke

CharmedDancer86
CharmedDancer86

May 23rd, 2005, 12:17 am #41

This post helped save my quit when my smoking housemates moved in...(friends of my husbands...definitely not my choice)...and it was so hard watching them all...including my husband go outside with their cocktails (which I don't drink either)...and have their smokes. At first I was jealous with envy...not because of the smoking but because my choices were making me "Not part of the group"...the same feeling I had struggled with while I was smoking...only right then I felt like the table had been turned on me. That was originally in the fall when the weather was nice. I live in San Diego...The weather is actually rather nice all year...but it does tend to rain during the winter. And we had a very wet season this year!!!! So, as the rain began, I just sat back and realized that "No, I was not part of "that" group"...but nor did I want to be...for a multitude of reasons...first I dislike being around alcohol...second I dislike being around smoke...Third...I always hated having to stand out in the pouring rain to feed my addiction (even when I was an active addict).

So, Nope, I'm no longer part of "that" group...but who cares...I'm a member of the "Gold" club now...a group that I'm proud to belong to...and as long as I never take another puff...I'll never have to stand out in the rain feeding my addiction again.

And once again...Thank you for forever ruining smoking for me!!!! If the picture in this post don't do it...then nothing will!

Forever Grateful,

~Kerri
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Carinamarie2
Carinamarie2

January 4th, 2006, 10:02 am #42

My two best friends smoke. We have ben in the habit for the last five years of calling each other for smoke breaks. "Hey, wanna smoke a cigarette with me?," either of them would ask and I would say, "Sure." And then we'd smoke together. Last night, Brooke called me for a smoke break and my boyfriend thought it s was mean. She knows that I quit. But I explained to him that she doesn't even know what she's doing. She needed her fix, part of that habit was calling me and that's what she did. I still said, "Sure" but I just listened to her smoke.

Thanks for the graphic. It's great to see something that breaks niccotine addiction into simple brain mechanisms.
Carina
smoke-free for 1 week, 6 days, 23 hours, 1 minute
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SmokefreeJason
SmokefreeJason

January 4th, 2006, 10:31 am #43

But I explained to him that she doesn't even know what she's doing. She needed her fix, part of that habit was calling me and that's what she did. I still said, "Sure" but I just listened to her smoke.

Carina,

You did the right thing in my opinion.
I tend to keep to go outside and watch my coworker smoke.
It gives me a chance to watch that cigarette burn down, it gives me a chane to see how much fumes the smoker inhales and how little comes out of that greyish colored poison.
Usually the people I watch smoking ask me if it's hard for me to watch them smoke and my honest answer is yet after 4 weeks (not green...) "I still like the smell but I hate the stink..." That sometimes triggers laughter and sometimes a coughing attack on the smokers side. Really depends on the temperature if the coughing attack is taking over or not... LOL
All I'm saying is that I am still not bothered militantly to fight anybody who lights up around me, in fact I stay close by when I could walk away. Why??? Because it refreshes my mind to the big lies associated to the smell of cigarettes (Raisins & Marzipan when fresh in Packs) and the color of the smoke that just goes of the cigarette, and then greatly different the smell it has when it comes out of smokers lungs or sticks to somebodies cloths...

When the passive smoke is over, I walk away, knowing that these sticks will never get me back into their grip, and smokers tend to talk about non smoking while smoking... So I use this as a chance to tell people that even they can quit. My Coworker has started to ask questions

NTAP!
JJ
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John (Gold)
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January 18th, 2006, 9:37 pm #44

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January 6th, 2007, 7:35 am #45

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July 17th, 2007, 3:26 am #46

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August 25th, 2007, 6:00 am #47

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PaulD51
PaulD51

September 11th, 2007, 4:11 am #48

An excellent thread. I had recently been watching people who smoke and at times feeling jealous that they were smoking. Some honest reflection revealed I was engaging in junkie thinking. This thread, and I can't believe I haven't seen it before, has changed the way I now look at people who smoke. Thanks,

I'll be silver in 10 more days
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November 8th, 2007, 9:48 pm #49



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CHARmander1989
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March 9th, 2010, 10:10 am #51

Reading through this thread, it's surprising to me that people don't develop cancer sooner!! Of course smoking causes cancer! Look how icky it looks and smells. I might have nightmares about tobacco tar tonight.
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FreedomNicotine
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March 16th, 2010, 1:04 am #52

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October 30th, 2011, 1:56 pm #53

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Joe J free
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March 16th, 2012, 8:37 pm #55

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indianscorpion29
indianscorpion29

December 25th, 2013, 6:49 pm #56

Hi,

I am more than an year into my quit.
Thought this might help someone going through this phase.

Sometime around month 3 or 4 into my quit, I always got tempted watching friends  around me smoke.  I think it was not temptation but more of a powerful trigger for me as most of my friends smoke.
So, It took about may be 3 or 4 instances of encountering this trigger to extinguish it. I think the more powerful the trigger, the more the number of times it requires  you to experience and remain smoke-free to extinguish it completely.

Now, I don't even remotely desire/crave a cigarette in this situation but rather,  I am disgusted to be around second hand smoke. I openly excuse myself from my friends when they are about to light up..

I would walk away to a distance where I cannot smell the cigarette.(NOT because of the fear of  being tempted, but research has shown that even if you can smell a cigarette, you are inhaling toxins. It wont addict you but would have toxic particles which are dangerous.) I would wait there and play around with my phone or something, After they are finished, I go back. It makes them feel like big time Losers and they admit their helplessness to break free from the grip of the addiction.

I am so thankful that I broke free from this dangerous drug addiction.
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Judy Anderson
Judy Anderson

December 27th, 2013, 1:11 am #57

Thank you for sharing your journey and experiences in overcoming a powerful temptation / trigger. 

I believe it helps those early on in their quit to see the changes that happen. It certainly helped me. As a fellow nicotine addict, just past the 6 month mark in my freedom journey, I relate to your experiences. Some of these more powerful triggers took me a few times to extinguish also. 

Thank you for posting!

Judy,
​Quit June 23, 2013
 
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Judy Anderson
Judy Anderson

December 27th, 2013, 1:30 am #58

I am a very happy ex-smoker. 

The every day triggers for me were taken care of because I had to do them, the rest of the triggers that were less frequent took a little longer. Joel and John and the Freedom staff are correct and life savers ... smarter, not stronger will get us to freedom, understanding and knowing "The Law of Addiction" ... and with this knowledge the fact that 1=ALL. The fine line, If I never take anther puff I will be free, it maybe difficult but really very easy one day at a time. 

I love the visual of the overflowing ashtray, butts everywhere, what place should this messy addiction have in our lives?  None. I am so thankful I have found the knowledge here. Should my computer crash, my power go out, I am educated!!!!!!

THANK YOU.
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Red79
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February 14th, 2016, 7:23 pm #59

I needed this today. This is such a fantastic site. I feel like everything here is just...understood and the answers are no holds barred and straight to the facts. Thank you.
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