Becoming An Ex-Smoker

The emotions that flow from nicotine cessation
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29 Dec 2002, 15:24 #11

You're not silver are you (hillbilly(silver))?
Anyways if you are or not, what you are talking about will come with time. The more experiences you go through not smoking, the faster the transition will be. At least that is what happened to me. And it just goes that the more time goes by, the more experiences you will have without smoking, and the better it will get!! Don't worry about that far down the road, it will come! Take it one day at a time, you will get there!

hoop

I have chosen not to smoke for 7 Months 6 Days 14 Hours 12 Minutes 45 Seconds. Cigarettes not smoked: 3308. Money saved: $537.69.
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25 Jun 2004, 09:36 #12

This is an excellent way of looking at it. I am still a newbie, so I am still a smoker who is trying to quit. Everything I do is a trigger and a struggle. I am even afraid of the thought that I will never have another cigarette in my life. So really it is one day at a time. I just focus on not taking another puff from the time I wake up in the morning until the time I go to bed. Every day that passes is quite an achievement for me. I even inhale in the air and exhale as if I am smoking!!?? would you believe that? Reading your posts gives hope that the future is not going to be all struggle. Perhaps one day I will reach my comfort zone. Meanwhile, I am a smoker who is trying to be an ex-smoker.

Aida
One week, three days, and some hours.
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10 Mar 2005, 08:42 #13

While doing history research (Uh Huh BG) I sometimes take a moment to stop and gawk as I cruise through hundreds of posts (not too diff from part of my job) if a title or favorite writer catches my eye. It's kinda like rooting through the toy chest when you were a kid, looking for just the thing that will strike your fancy (what a weird term BTW). Hey Guys, look what I found . Enjoy all, Thanks brother from the hills.

My name is JoeJFree a nicotine addict and Ex-smoker for 1 month, 28 days, 9 hours, 26 minutes and 27 seconds (58 days)
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10 Mar 2005, 10:46 #14

JoeJ,

Great work pulling this one up, as it really hit home today. The last week or so I felt as if I was in a bit of a funk. From my Freedom Education, it seemed like the 'depression phase' with a lot of bargaining mixed in. However, last night it occurred to me that not smoking was the natural thing to do. Today, I referred to myself, without hesitation, as an ex-smoker, rather than saying "I'm trying to quit." This is not to say that the cravings aren't there, but I had a strange feeling that Hillbilly has put into words better than I could have hoped.

Thanks Dave and Joe.

DragonSlayer (formerly Ish9184)

Free and Healing for One Month and One Day, while avoiding the use of 798 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $181.85.
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22 Jan 2006, 13:20 #15

Thanks to JoeJ for keeping this in his archival index of which complexities I fear. He mentioned it in another thread today.

Cannot believe I never read this classic by Dave. I had what most people would call an "easy" quit this final successful time. The worst of it was the month before quitting and the first two weeks of my actual quit. (I guess I would say plus a few months of "low lying fog".) And STILL I spent far too many months long telling people (and myself) that I was quitting, when I had actually already quit! That change in mindset changed everything for me.

For our dear Newbies... comfort is coming.

Kay (Gold x 2)
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11 May 2006, 02:10 #16

I certainly understand the difference in the mindset of "trying to quit" and "not smoking". I once heard somone explain how to "try". He said to sit in a chair and "try" to get up. No, don't get up, just "try" to get up. "Trying" is not doing is it? In the past during my feeble attempts to quit smoking I would say "I am trying to quit". This time I refuse to make that statement. This time "I quit", "I do not smoke", "I am a recovering nicotine addict". Which ever statement I use now it must reinforce to me that just for today, "I do not smoke".

Kathy I am at work and do not have my quit meter but I have been nicotine free for 6 weeks and 1 day.
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26 Aug 2006, 04:04 #17

I sometimes think there is magic going on here. I was having a bad evening, posted about it then read this string which had gone to the top of the list from the beginning of the string and much of it spoke directly to me. It is magic!

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26 Aug 2006, 04:35 #18

Thanks JoeJ. I had already read this a long time ago, but don't think I'd hit the "first" button and read everything. With the passage of time since then and with then and with the benefit of reading all the other posts to this thread, an enormous light has just turned on for me. I am realising that there are many things in life which people deal with and approach differently. As an "ex/non-smoker", I have envied all those who were able to report quite early on that it was "easy", that they "hardly ever thought about smoking", I envied that they achieved comfort so quickly.

Re-reading this entire post, I was thinking about how many of the cherished events in life do not conform to a set timetable. Pregnancy and childbirth, study and attainment, emotional loss and healing, working out and getting fitter, loving and losing, setting goals and seeing them through. ....they are all life events with no timescales attached. The satisfaction they provide make all the effort worthwhile, they are all joyful experiences, although each person will take their own time to achieve them. And so, I think, it must be with dealing with this addiction. Patience and knowledge will ensure that comfort arrives for each of us when we are ready to accept and celebrate it.

Maria - 129 days free after 38 years
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15 Apr 2007, 23:52 #19

Wow that was an awesome post. I am now 11 days into my quit. I hope on day I can take on the mindset of an ex smoker it sure would alleviate alot of my stress and anger.
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12 May 2007, 08:13 #20

The Key to our success
resides within each of us.
It is acknowledging & accepting the Law of Addiction
while choosing to stay nicotine clean and Free.
Joel's Library
Click here to open Joel's entire 149 page library in PDF file format
(1.35 MB). Once opened, save a copy to your computer. You'll then
be able to search, print, and e-mail the library to friends who smoke.
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25 Mar 2008, 01:47 #21

Joel's Videos are priceless..........a must listen.....even his voice is informative, supportive, caring and humorist....always feel brighter and lighter (that means feel much better)
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03 Aug 2009, 01:15 #22

Becoming An Ex-Smoker
"As long as a person feels like a smoker trying not to smoke, he or she is going to have the psychological problems and play the little mind games of a smoker trying not to smoke. When you cross over to the frame of mind that you are not a smoker trying not to smoke but rather you are now an ex-smoker--and that is what you want to be--the psychological benefit can be both powerful and profound."

The above is an excerpt from Message No. 24 in the thread Carrying cigarettes . I read it for the first time today, and have not seen that teaching concept anywhere else in Freedom. It really got my attention.


For two months now, I have been successful in my quit by telling myself that "I am not going to smoke, just for today. I may smoke tomorrow, but today I'm not going to smoke."


Lately I have not had to argue with myself each morning about this decision, and it has become much less important to me. What I am trying to say is my mindset is changing, and I begin to look more at the long range picture of not smoking for the rest of my life. That idea has been particularly scary to me, but I have to accept that my baby steps are getting bigger.


This post that I quoted above really affected me. I have been thinking of myself as a smoker who is trying to quit. I now begin to realize that is time to begin thinking of myself as an ex-smoker. This is a major step for me and I wonder if anyone else has been through a similar experience.


The one thing I don't need to forget is the fact that I will never be an ex-addict.


Dave


Posted: 06/17/02 11:17
I have chosen not to smoke for 1 Month 4 Weeks 2 Days 18 Hours 12 Minutes 46 Seconds. Somewhere there are 2126 extra cigarettes

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28 Aug 2009, 18:35 #23

This thread really hit home for me. Not there yet, but I know it's coming. The day I can say I've found "the zone" and am an ex-smoker. Thank you Freedom, I'd be lost without this site!
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06 Nov 2009, 17:50 #24

A few days ago I faced a new trigger of some kind. Normally I am "talking to my craves". Speaking out loud, and telling them off.
But for some reason, I tried out a new strategy, this time.
I tried to imagine, what it would be like, to surrender to the craves.
Tried to picture my self go and get my coat, and go to the store to by that pack of cigarettes.
Tried to picture my self lighting up and inhale the smoke.
And then I realized some thing very odd... that picture just did not "feel" like me at all. It seemed so unreal, so wrong.
Isn't it amazing? After 25 years of smoking and just 1 month quit - now it actually feels like smoking never actually took place. Like it was just a bad dream.
This is hard to explain. Hope it makes sense.

My point is: I think, I have crossed that bridge all ready. I am not feeling like a smoker any more.
And since I realized that, my journey is getting much easier, since I really get the feeling, there is just no turning back to life as a smoker. Even if I would want to - I just can not go back no more.

Like a hermit crab who out-grew its shell. Once he left the shell, to search for a new and bigger shell, there is no going back. He will never be able to squeeze himself into that old shell again. Yet he might still feel a bit strange in the new shell.

(and I know, I still have to maintain my quit.. never feel to secure, and all...)
Benedikte - Free and Healing for One Month +4D
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20 Dec 2009, 13:46 #25

"As long as a person feels like a smoker trying not to smoke, he or she is going to have the psychological problems and play the little mind games of a smoker trying not to smoke. When you cross over to the frame of mind that you are not a smoker trying not to smoke but rather you are now an ex-smoker--and that is what you want to be--the psychological benefit can be both powerful and profound."

-Joel in a response to the string Carrying cigarettes
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06 Jan 2010, 20:08 #26

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05 Jul 2010, 03:46 #27

"As long as a person feels like a smoker trying not to smoke, he or she is going to have the psychological problems and play the little mind games of a smoker trying not to smoke. When you cross over to the frame of mind that you are not a smoker trying not to smoke but rather you are now an ex-smoker--and that is what you want to be--the psychological benefit can be both powerful and profound."

Joel Spitzer in the string: Carrying cigarettes
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