SmokefreeLeeTron
SmokefreeLeeTron

April 12th, 2004, 11:47 pm #26

If we quit and continue to associate with people who continue to smoke, we are almost guaranteed to outlive a large percentage of those we care about. We have to be prepared for that eventuality and realize that our smoking will not make it better or easier.

My best friend died about a year ago of a heart attack at 55. The autopsy implicated smoking induced arteriosclerosis (hardening of the arteries) caused by smoking. He was a heavy smoker of Camel filterless. My continued smoking did not bring him back or really help with my emotional state in any way. It just made it tough to breath after I cried.

There is NO excuse for a relapse. There is NO good reason to smoke AT ALL!!!

NTAP!!!

I miss you Gary. Wish you were here.

Lee
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richard This is It GOLD
richard This is It GOLD

April 13th, 2004, 2:04 am #27

My sincere condolences RickRob....

Interesting you bring this post "to the top today" - it's exactly a year ago I received the phone call saying "get on a plane".

richard (another one, 2 years one month)
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Angelicrosegonegreen1
Angelicrosegonegreen1

April 13th, 2004, 2:52 am #28

Richard,

I am so proud that you didnt give in during such a difficult time. I send my most hearfelt sympathies and condolences out to you for the loss of your Father. Stay strong - you won't regret that you did.
Journey beyond comfort
The journey home
Acknowledge the negative--but dwell on the positive
I hope these help. Just remember - just for this day, you will not smoke. You are doing great!
Kathleen
I've been quit for 1 month, 10 days, 15 hours, 52 minutes and 14 seconds (41 days).
I've not smoked 610 death sticks, and saved $268.81.
I've saved 2 day(s), 3 hour(s) of my life.
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PaulW
PaulW

April 15th, 2004, 8:20 am #29

Thanks for bringing this thread to the top of the pile. I had never seen it before, but I am certainly glad to see it now.

I started a quit in October, 2002, and it lead to the first complete absence from nicotine for any period of time that I had known since 1960. I was so over-joyed, so certain of myself, so convinced from all I had learned, that relapse was not a risk.

Ny wife was diagnosed with a recurrence of breast cancer in April, 2003, and I did not smoke, or even think of smoking.

She died on the eve of our 35th wedding anniversary, July 12, 2003, and I did not smoke, or even thnink of smoking.

However, one day near the end of September, 2003, feeling a little depressed, I suppose, a little bored, I decided that "just one couldn't hurt".

I lost that quit, and could not start another until Ash Wednesday this year.

And that loss nearly killed me. Within three days, I had developed a head cold (I thought). More likely, allergic reaction to nicotine, it seems to me. It wouldn't clear up. I demanded two courses of anti-biotics (even though I suspected the smoking) and that did no good. I tried some over the counter meds to counteract what I called post-nasal drip, made me cough up phlegm all the time (even though I strongly suspected the smoking). I went to one doctor (about my 4th) who told me I had the beginnings of emphysema, if not something worse (but I didn't tell him I was smoking). I tried to cut down with the patch (even though I knew from past experience that I would never stop smoking on the patch, I would smoke AND patch, which I did). By Christmas, I had continuous chest pain, I was on some heavy duty anti-biotics and an advair puffer; and with all of that, plus three weeks in Florida, I was still not better. Coughing continously. Exhausted.

This continued all through January and into February.

Talk about the power of DENIAL and the power of this Addiction!

Then I remembered about this site, and the education I had obtained here as a lurker. I came "home". I am miraculously well again, in every particular, spiritually, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

And now I know: I wasn't prepared for the aftermath of my wife's death. Oh, I handled the details just fine, planned the funeral, sorted out the estate, comforted the children, did everything that had to be done -- except -- I broke the Law of Addiction, and very nearly paid the ultimate price for it.

Still reading, still learning.

Paul - Free and Healing for One Month, Twenty Days, 2 Hours and 46 Minutes, while extending my life expectancy 4 Days and 8 Hours, by avoiding the use of 1253 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $377.16.
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richard This is It GOLD
richard This is It GOLD

May 1st, 2004, 4:01 am #30

12 months ago today - this one kept me going
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Rickgoldx5
Rickgoldx5

May 8th, 2004, 12:53 am #31

I'm bringing this up for my Mother. She died on mothers day 1996.
Her story is on the wall in june 2003.
Rick
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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

January 8th, 2005, 12:30 am #32

 

Over a two year period Freedom was blessed in seeing true courage in action. We developed a deep admiration, respect and/or love for Kim and then came Kelly's devistating news that she'd left us. Although the sting was deep I doubt any of us thought for a second of using her passing as our mind's excuse for relapse. Just one more invaluable lesson from a most amazing woman. We miss you Kim!
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BillW Gold.ffn
BillW Gold.ffn

February 19th, 2005, 3:27 am #33

for Harlow Cat, with all our condolences.

BillW
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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

April 15th, 2005, 9:42 am #34


Hundreds and hundreds of Freedom members have lost immediate family, including all of the managers. It is the most horrific and devastating experience that most will likely ever know. But the loss of the life that we may have loved most is never a legitimate reason to surrender our freedom and health. It certainly isn't what they would have wanted.
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enjoyinglifeJamie
enjoyinglifeJamie

March 2nd, 2006, 10:34 pm #35

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BillW Gold.ffn
BillW Gold.ffn

September 16th, 2006, 3:13 am #36

for someone who might draw strength from this today......

BillW
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Joel
Joel

November 2nd, 2006, 2:39 am #37

I meant to attach this link to as string that is now closed down for posting.
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Roger (Gold)
Roger (Gold)

February 18th, 2007, 2:45 am #38

 So often our lives can be an uphill struggle. These days, so many of us experience it in our personal lives as well as our virtual lives. I wrote the following thread after the loss of my Mother.

Journey beyond comfort



John Shared his personal loss with us as well by creating this thread.













Many of us allowed Kim to enter our hearts. She then shared herself & journey so freely with us. So many of us had a peice of our heart die with her when her sister Kelly broke the news of her passing. We shared in real time her message and struggle.

 Kim's Journey



We can't choose the time when we lose a loved one to life's natural cycle, but we can choose to keep a deadly drug from entering our blood serum.

One day at a time, You can if you think you can!

Roger

5 Years Golden
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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

June 9th, 2007, 5:44 pm #39

From a Prior Post:


We can't choose the time when we lose a loved one to life's natural cycle, but we can choose to keep a deadly drug from entering our blood serum.

One day at a time, You can if you think you can!
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JoeJFree Gold
JoeJFree Gold

February 4th, 2008, 6:41 am #40

From: JoeJFree-Gold- Sent: 6/9/2007 5:44 AM
From a Prior Post:


We can't choose the time when we lose a loved one to life's natural cycle, but we can choose to keep a deadly drug from entering our blood serum.

One day at a time, You can if you think you can!

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Dave
Dave

February 4th, 2008, 7:56 am #41

John

What a great post.

Unfortunately , I have had this happen, since being a non smoker.

Two deaths.

One on December 10th. 2007 Father in law.

One on December 31st 2007 Step Father.

This day 12/31/07 is also my quit date! one year! Wasn't as happy as I'd hoped.

I did feel prepared. I have spent the year , being aware of triggers, and I believe it got me through.

My quit is too important. I also believe the two great guys I lost, would have been crushed, seeing me start smoking. They were both soo proud of me.

I could have smoked, believe me! But they would still be gone. What would that have helped?

One interesting side note. While in Kentucky for one of the Funerals. We walked in the mortuary, and the smell of smoke could have knocked you down.
I live in Colorado, where you can't smoke in public places , (except airport bars) It's really strange to see states, that still allow smoking inside.

I pray I'll always be shocked at the smell!

Dave
GOLD
Thank GOD !
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Ilona
Ilona

June 7th, 2008, 3:27 am #42

John, thank you for addressing an issue that crosses all of our minds but that is sometimes difficult to talk about. I haven't lost anyone yet as an ex-smoker either but I have wondered about whether I would reach for nicotine if one of my children died. It shows you how nicotine addiction poses as a fix for despair. I say "poses" because, in reality, it is only creating the illusion of relief from despair caused by withdrawal... Unfortunately, grief also triggers loss of interest in oneself and one's own health. It's too bad, because this interest is bound to return as one heals from grief the natural way.

There is no good reason to stop quitting.

Ilona
(81 days)
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John (Gold)
John (Gold)

June 7th, 2008, 4:22 am #43

It is horrible for any mother or father to think about the loss of a child but should the  mind ever contemplate this horrific nightmare, let it do so still free and in charge. Ilona, Wednesday morning I received a nightmare phone call that my closest friend had died in her sleep at age 50. I'm still hoping this is some bad dream and I'll awaken soon and together we'll have a chuckle over it.

You may find this hard to believe but seeing this thread again was the very first time since learning of Harriet's passing 54 hours ago that the "thought" of smoking has entered this brain. Even now it isn't a "thought" of me smoking but my sincere hope that when life visits death upon each of you, and it will, that the insanity of adding active drug addiction to your grief will be as clear as it is to me. There was always only one rule ... no nicotine today!

Breathe deep, hug hard, live long,

John (Gold x9)
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eriley1
eriley1

June 7th, 2008, 8:53 am #44

I just got word my ex-mother in law died. We don't have enough time nor energy for me to type why my x-in laws are very near and dear to my heart. Trust me, I call him every night as she has been ill and in a nursing home. The x-father in law and I are close buddies. It's taken many years for this to happen. I am very sorry she has passed, she had a major stroke 14 years ago than another stroke last night. Bottom line is, after several emotionally charged conversations with family members and after hearing of her passing, I didn't even think of a nicotine feed. I got off the phone & started talking about it to my hubby and went, Oh my gosh, I didn't even think of a smoke....funny how it just sneaks up on you and the craves do go away. Tho the thunderstorms this afternoon did bring on a short crave....but very short....thanks for the rant, Jenna.....free for almost 27 days tonight at 11pm. yahoo.....!
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