An excerpt from my clinic welcome letter

An excerpt from my clinic welcome letter

Joel
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

22 Jan 2002, 21:54 #1


I saw where one of our newer members was asking why a couple of people had relapsed. I thought this excerpt from my stop smoking clinic welcome letter would address the issue of why it is not important to elaborate on how an individual relapsed. Everyone who has ever quit and relapsed did it the same way--they took a puff. The vast majority of them took that puff because they just thought they could and "get away with it." Get away meant they were only going to have one or smoke for a limited time or just smoke a controlled amount. These are all the same mistake, they let go of the concept of addiction. Anyway I think this portion of the welcome letter applies here very well.

Joel

The purpose of this program is to get you to the point where you have a choice about smoking. By the end of the two weeks one of two options will exist for you. These are:

1. If you decide you like not smoking, you will have the choice of staying off cigarettes for as long as you wish. It may be you will stay off the rest of your life, if this is what you desire.

2. If you decide you hate not smoking, and life is just too miserable without cigarettes, you will have the choice to go back to smoking at your old level, or maybe even higher.

Those are the options. Smoke nothing or smoke everything. But let's make something else perfectly clear.

There is no in-between choice. Smoking is now and always will be an all or nothing proposition. Don't delude yourself into thinking you can have just one cigarette or just one puff. You can have a puff anytime you want, you just have to be willing to take the other 20, 40, 60 or more cigarettes a day that goes with that puff! You must also be willing to accept all the consequences which accompany being a smoker!

This is a one day at a time program. Every day we will ask you if you made it all day without smoking. Answer "yes" if you had no puffs on a cigarette, cigar, pipe, nicotine gum, snuff, chewing tobacco, patches or any other creative ways you have of administering nicotine into your body. Answering "no" means you took some nicotine and you are out of the clinic. There is no difference between one puff or a thousand cigarettes. Once you take the puff feel free to take all the cigarettes that day you wish. We don't need to know specifics and there is no need to call with excuses. In fact, there are only two legitimate reasons for taking a puff:

You decide you want to go back to smoking until it cripples then kills you; or, you enjoy withdrawal so much you never want it to end. Just take one puff every third day, peak withdrawal will last forever.

One final note, if you see somebody smoking a cigarette tomorrow and you are tempted to ask him for one-don't. Rather ask him for his pack. Or, better yet, ask him for his carton, and if he would be kind enough to go out and buy you a case, you would appreciate that, too. Then be prepared to smoke them all. If you still want them under these terms, then take them. Otherwise, be on your way. When we see you at the next session and we ask if you made it all day, you can proudly proclaim-Yes! Good luck in your next day without smoking.

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PaulD51
Joined: 19 Dec 2008, 00:41

14 Apr 2007, 07:34 #2

Thanks for the truth. It will always set you free. Not recognizing that I was and always will be a nicotine addict is what has stopped me in the past. The education I have gotten has enabled me to never take another puff.
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dennyb2
Joined: 31 Mar 2006, 08:00

14 Apr 2007, 08:45 #3

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From: Joel.
Sent: 1/2/2002 9:00 AM
We are still getting applications from people who don't give the required information. We also get messages from people wondering why we limit who we let into Freedom. We do it because we want people who are totally committed to quit smoking.
We only want people who are deadly serious about quitting AND who only want to deal with people who are equally as serious. We keep our board as focused and on track on quitting smoking and only quitting smoking issues. We do want outside controversies to dilute the message of this site--quitting smoking.
We are single minded on this issue, quitting smoking, that is why our members sign up here and stay here. Because they have come to the point in their lives where they recognize that quitting smoking is a life or death effort and warrants a site that is solely dedicated to accomplish that effort.
As you see in my live clinics promotions above, I don't even want half-hearted quitters in my live clinics--and these people pay me to join! But taking in less than serious quitters, while being able to help my financial bottom line, will hurt the group's bottom line. The group's bottom line must take precedent over my own--for my bottom line is financial, the group member's bottom line is actual survival.
Never lose sight of this fact--your reason for joining here at Freedom is your own survival. Not Freedom's survival, your survival. Never let anything threaten your initial resolve to quit. To keep the commitment you first made to yourself when quitting smoking and joining up, always remember the way to stay smoke free, preserving your health and your life is to always know to never take another puff!
Joel

"Never lose sight.....never take another puff!" Timeless and priceless.

Free here at Freedom.

Denny B - After 38 years - Free and Healing for One Year, Nineteen Days, while extending my life expectancy 46 Days and 17 Hours, by avoiding the use of 13453 nicotine delivery devices that would have cost me $3,416.89.
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Suzi
Joined: 18 Dec 2008, 23:57

04 Sep 2007, 05:06 #4

Once again, I just want to THANK GOD and JOEL for this program!!! It is the only way I have been able to quit and stay off cigarettes, dealing with smoking like the addiciton that it is!!! Suzi

I have been quit for 1 Week, 6 Days, 18 hours, 6 minutes and 19 seconds (13 days). I have saved $55.01 by not smoking 275 cigarettes. I have saved 22 hours and 55 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 8/20/2007 10:00 PM
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Joel Spitzer
Joined: 13 Nov 2008, 14:04

25 May 2012, 00:34 #5

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