transitioning m to f

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transitioning m to f

zena
Joined: 04 Nov 2017, 06:50

05 Nov 2017, 13:50 #1

I've been trying transition little by little over yrs but seems everytime get ready crossover something gets in way or someone makes certain statement)zena
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jackmolay
Joined: 16 Nov 2015, 19:24

06 Nov 2017, 09:21 #2

I take it that those statements are negative, right? Well, there is a lot of transphobia out there. The good news is that there are more and more who understands and have sympathy for transgender people too.

Could you tell us some more about yourself? How old are you? And have you discussed this with other transgender people? If you want to transition you deserve all the support you can get.
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zena
Joined: 04 Nov 2017, 06:50

06 Nov 2017, 11:12 #3

sure I'll tell ya more only discussed it with one transperson who claim be one but think was a cd dressed up or posing as female transperson she or he was going try help me with my transition kinda ran into nag by time bout get back to her she/he had already found interest in someone else that wanted be with her other than that i really don't have no one count on or support me in my journey transition=zena
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Bobbi Dare
Joined: 18 Jan 2017, 06:49

06 Nov 2017, 21:05 #4

This is the place to open up and discuss it. I am going through it currently and it is a rollercoaster of emotions. On the one hand I have come out to some work/ professional colleagues and friends which feels great.  Unfortunately, my partner of 25+ years is not at all thrilled with this change which sucks a lot.

If you want to message privately that would be fine as well - I am an open person and do not mind talking about myself.

*hugs* Bobbi
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Tami
Joined: 19 May 2017, 00:28

06 Nov 2017, 22:58 #5

Zena, You have come to the right place.  You will find a lot of support and experience here. 💄👠👗
Tami
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zena
Joined: 04 Nov 2017, 06:50

06 Nov 2017, 23:20 #6

thanks tammie sooner the better I'm pretty sure there's some experienced ladies 🚺 on here with right advice n technique oh haven't forgotten bobbi yes I'll chat with you on any subject's if u want my email address just ask>zena
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Lost247365
Joined: 17 Nov 2015, 17:51

14 Nov 2017, 12:13 #7

zena wrote: I've been trying transition little by little over yrs but seems everytime get ready crossover something gets in way or someone makes certain statement)zena

Well, in my opinion it is like riding a bike. It’s not about how often you fall down learning, it is about how often you get back on and try again!

Sooner or later you will learn and be riding free!

Keep on trying and welcome to CDL!!!
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zena
Joined: 04 Nov 2017, 06:50

14 Nov 2017, 15:26 #8

Lost247365 wrote:
zena wrote: I've been trying transition little by little over yrs but seems everytime get ready crossover something gets in way or someone makes certain statement)zena

Well, in my opinion it is like riding a bike.  It’s not about how often you fall down learning, it is about how often you get back on and try again!

Sooner or later you will learn and be riding free!

Keep on trying and welcome to CDL!!!
i know how ride a bike an falling down don't do that unless it's money wise but even then i stumble part my problem is to many stones get in way if know what I'm talking bout or should i say wall block's my destination from getting there oh that statement doesn't help me>zena
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AllisonWunderland
Joined: 01 Mar 2017, 20:20

15 Nov 2017, 18:48 #9

Transition comes easier in some places, some locations, some situations . . .

I don't think I could transition around my parents (who are deceased). And then too, transition takes different forms. The whole definition of what "trans" is exactly is up in the air, squishy, dynamic, unsettled.

What I have learned about trans in 70 yrs is summarized by Popeye, "I y'am what I y'am & that's all what I y'am . . . "

There is a realm in the spectrum, between cis-M and cis-F. The male hegemonic, hetero-fascist normative-dyad enforces upon us that we MUST present/ID as one or the other, M or F.

I'm not comfortable presenting as male, cis-M. But that's my "Popeye" state of being. It's dysphoric on a lot of levels.

Personally, I cannot imagine myself transitioning to the extent that I present F rather than M. There's almost 70 years of M baggage I'd need to account for as an F. That's a loooong narrative biography.

You state, "I get ready to transition, and it gets sabotaged." -- words to that effect. Let me suggest that you get comfortable presenting as who you are. You don't need to "transition" -- Where you are is where you're at. You're not broken. You don't need to be "fixed."

Of late when I explain to someone that I am "trans" they often assume that I am F to M. I find that funny as hell. I have an agenda aimed at deconstruction and sabotage of the hetero-fascist dyad. If someone thinks I used to be female and am now male, that reinforces my agenda -- that gender is arbitrary.

I concede this doesn't work for everyone. "To thine own self be true."

Polonius: This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Remember the words of Popeye!
Allison Wunderland's Transcend Dance --
http://allisontranscend.blogspot.com/
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zena
Joined: 04 Nov 2017, 06:50

Yesterday, 04:14 #10

AllisonWunderland wrote: Transition comes easier in some places, some locations, some situations . . .

I don't think I could transition around my parents (who are deceased). And then too, transition takes different forms. The whole definition of what "trans" is exactly is up in the air, squishy, dynamic, unsettled.

What I have learned about trans in 70 yrs is summarized by Popeye, "I y'am what I y'am & that's all what I y'am . . . "

There is a realm in the spectrum, between cis-M and cis-F. The male hegemonic, hetero-fascist normative-dyad enforces upon us that we MUST present/ID as one or the other, M or F.

I'm not comfortable presenting as male, cis-M. But that's my "Popeye" state of being. It's dysphoric on a lot of levels.

Personally, I cannot imagine myself transitioning to the extent that I present F rather than M. There's almost 70 years of M baggage I'd need to account for as an F. That's a loooong narrative biography.

You state, "I get ready to transition, and it gets sabotaged." -- words to that effect. Let me suggest that you get comfortable presenting as who you are. You don't need to "transition" -- Where you are is where you're at. You're not broken. You don't need to be "fixed."

Of late when I explain to someone that I am "trans" they often assume that I am F to M. I find that funny as hell. I have an agenda aimed at deconstruction and sabotage of the hetero-fascist dyad. If someone thinks I used to be female and am now male, that reinforces my agenda -- that gender is arbitrary.

I concede this doesn't work for everyone. "To thine own self be true."

Polonius: This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Remember the words of Popeye!
if you're not trans and not one or other than what exactly ground u following or seem to be)as for that logic im not basing my theory on cartoon fiction he's not real however . use my judgement on real life decisions if you wanna live life in fantasy that's your choice
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