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A place to discuss personal experiences with crossdreaming
Cheryl Sussex
Joined: 17 Nov 2015, 10:51

17 Dec 2016, 10:24 #11

Generally all of my femme fantasies are perhaps extremely normal. Pretty much as all the photos show really.
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April
Joined: 17 Nov 2015, 16:32

17 Dec 2016, 17:40 #12

OnGoingUnnoticed wrote:
It was definitely an interesting point, and I found this a bit harder to do. The images that I found myself gravitating towards depicted social interaction that was fairly happy, with women just enjoying themselves:
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I like this one especially. I can personaly relate to the experience. There is an interesting group dynamic that happens on the dance floor of a club. You simply have to be willing to show and share the joy for admission. Girls generally have an easier time of just totally getting into it. Guys tend to be a little bit more restrictive. They seem to be more worried about it all looking right. 
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April
Joined: 17 Nov 2015, 16:32

17 Dec 2016, 17:57 #13

jackmolay wrote:
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For me gender dysphoria has caused me to disconnect from my body.It doesn't feel like my body, which means that a lot of things non-trans people do to feel good does not help me. A massage reminds me of who I am not and it becomes something negative, not something life affirming.

That's why I like this photo so well. It depicts women who are at ease with themselves, their bodies and each other and can use a simple spa visit for relaxation and bonding. That must be great!



 
Jack, It sounds like your dysphoria is primarily physical. Based on what I have read on reddit and elsewhere, I believe there are three forms of dsyphoria (physical, social, and emotional). Physical is the feeling of being in the wrong body. Social is the feeling that one's gender identity is not consistent with the perceptions of others. Emotional is a feeling that one's emotions are not consistent with their perceived gender. I would say that my dysphoria was initially physical and emotional, and then morphed into being social as well. I believe that the type of dysphoria we have determines our individual joureny 

I've done the night out with the girls thing a few times, but always with cis girls. I have never done it with trans girls for some reason. I have twice done a bachelorette party thing. Both times I got invited to join a bachelorette group that was out on the town. I suspect I was the cool older trans who was somewhat entertaining to them and made their night memorable. There is a fun dynamic to the girls night out on the town thing. It involves a lot of very open dialogue and the girls being pretty free with their emotions. There isn't the posturing that goes on with a bunch of guys doing the same thing. 
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April
Joined: 17 Nov 2015, 16:32

17 Dec 2016, 17:58 #14

Josie wrote:


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I absolutely love romance pictures.
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Josie
Joined: 11 Oct 2016, 05:27

17 Dec 2016, 18:04 #15

Cheryl Sussex wrote:
Generally all of my femme fantasies are perhaps extremely normal. Pretty much as all the photos show really.
I feel like my fantasies are extremely normal too. Basically me just going through everyday life but now experiencing at as a female. Sometimes I've been transformed but am still in the same life, same people, same places as my life now. Other times I imagine that I have been transported into an entirely knew life, new people, new places. 
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April
Joined: 17 Nov 2015, 16:32

17 Dec 2016, 18:26 #16

Josie wrote:
Cheryl Sussex wrote:
Generally all of my femme fantasies are perhaps extremely normal. Pretty much as all the photos show really.
............ Other times I imagine that I have been transported into an entirely knew life, new people, new places. 
I did that for very a long time. That would often happen when I was in a bar. I would see this woman across the room and just imagine leaving the place as her.
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Barbara Haskell
Joined: 14 Sep 2016, 12:12

18 Dec 2016, 17:19 #17

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April
Joined: 17 Nov 2015, 16:32

18 Dec 2016, 20:21 #18

For me, the trigger here is not this guy, but rather the guy's infatuation with the girl. She owns him, and she absolutely knows it. It was that element of power within female sexuality that was the key element of my crossdreaming, 

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Josie
Joined: 11 Oct 2016, 05:27

18 Dec 2016, 20:50 #19

April, while I know girls will use their sexuality as a weapon, I've never thought about it as a trigger for crossdreaming. Interesting.

Barbara, that girl's smile and lip bite in that gif I absolutely love.
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April
Joined: 17 Nov 2015, 16:32

18 Dec 2016, 21:24 #20

Josie, I wouldn't use the word "weapon" here to describe what I am talking about. Between being totally submissive and totally a bitch, there is middle ground that incorporates feminine empowerment, of which sexuality is a primary tool, but all tools have to be commanded accordingly to be effective. Being mysterious always helps in that regard. The actual crossdrreaming trigger here is the sexual tension going on, but it is the girl that is in control of it. The guy is crazy about her, that is clear. Her intentions are far less obvious, but the game is completely in her hands, and she can play it as she sees it. His attention may actually be turn on for her, or it may not.
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