Numbers - The Truth of Partner's Acceptance

A place for significant others or family members to talk about issues they face understanding and relating to crossdreamers
Emmasweet
Joined: 20 Dec 2015, 20:48

23 May 2017, 23:12 #11

Yes it did, Jack, but the hurt is decaying with time. And what's most frustrating for me is that she is unable to express what she finds so troubling about me. We tried exploring this with her therapist, my therapist, and both her and I in a meeting some months back. She just found it all very threatening, and pulled back defensively. I've tried so hard to gradually and calmly show her things, as if through this she might see it all as less of an issue. But she refuses. It's like she just wishes is would go away and we could return to our marriage. To me this is what is most tragic since, at this point, having worked out our divorce details and my having driven away, I am not inclined to return to the old status quo under any circumstances.
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April
Joined: 17 Nov 2015, 16:32

24 May 2017, 00:11 #12

My situation has been complicated and remains so. I have alluded to some of it here in the past, but I don't know if I am at a point where I can talk about it in any greater detail. But I will say that if you could measure an SO's reaction on a one to ten scale, with one being "oh, that't no big deal", and ten filing divorce papers, my wife's reaction was about 23. Until she came to her senses a few months down the road, she pretty much tried to destroy me in a every way she could, with huge impact on our joint finances. That led us to living apart for almost a year before reconciling. At this particular point in time, I will say that I am still married and living with my wife. Yet we are in sort of a wait and see mode, taking one day at a time.
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Emmasweet
Joined: 20 Dec 2015, 20:48

24 May 2017, 04:27 #13

Wow, April, I'm so sorry to hear this. That had to be so awful for you, to live apart like that. My wife also suggested I move into an apartment and I refused. I felt like it would be like checking into jail. Good for both of you that you're back together. I hope it works out well for you both.
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