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Ok. I've been thinking of coming out to my parents.
It takes up a fair bit of effort on my part to keep up tihs lie. I know it's something I have to do eventually and I think that I'm as mentally prepared as I'm ever gonna be. I don't see how waiting any more time is gonna change anything. Well, it won't change anything from my end.. I really don't know how they're gonna react and I'm scared shitless.
There's never really a good time to tell your parents your gay, is there?
Yesterday I was so down. I hit the biggest slump I've hit in the last year I think. It's been nearly a year since I told my first friends actually... It's just so hard to bring myself to say those few words, I know it's gonna start a chain reaction of events that'll change my life so drastically.
My mum is chinese. My dad is mauritian. And they're both strong christians. None of these make things any easier.
So I was listening to a song yesterday. "Respect ft Hannah Jones - I Am What I Am." I don't know if any of you guys have heard this song before. But the lyrics really got to me.
So here I am. On the verge of sanity. Just thought I'd share.MRk MRK n FnK Mz

Ya gots to do what you gots to do
I have no say in what ya do however be ready to take responsibility for your actions. If your parent shun you or disowns you then that is something you have to be prepared for. Hope the best for ya though.good luck.

Thought that was a Popeye reference, at first.
Go for it. Worst that'll happen is probably that you'll be invited home less, but that hasn't really bothered my brother. Better than living a life of subterfuge that will inevitably crumble as the years pass and your parents begin piecing things together for themselves.---
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It's okay, sweetie...if they disown you, you can always come live with me...
...unless you're really stinky!
No, seriously...I think it is better to tell them ASAP than not be able to be yourself. If they love you, they will understand. (Maybe not right when you tell them, they might even try to convert you and stuff, but eventually, they will understand...)

I don't understand why sexual preference is such a big deal in our society, but oh well(I do, rather, but it doesn't really make a whole lot of sense). :i My advice would be to stop caring; I never told my mom I liked girls, so I don't see why you bother telling them you like boys. If you even bother; I mean, it's your life dude. Do what you want, who cares what your parents think?
If you're really set on sitting them down and telling them, though, do it in a cocktail dress.not allowed

Yea there's nothing quite like using humor to lighten a situation like that. Or you can be all like, "I'm gay. YEA WHAT!"
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I guess it's kind of hard for any of us to give advice on this situation because (as far as I'm aware) none of us have had to do it. If you haven't already, talk about it to your boyfriend. I know you said he had an easier time of it when he told his parents, but at the very least he can give you the moral support you need.
I think you're right about the idea of telling them now rather than living with the secrecy. I've done that (albeit with something a little less serious than this) and after a while I just couldn't keep going with it. I really hope that if your parents are Christian they won't reject you outright for your decision. Obviously I don't know them and there's no point hypothesizing on what they're going to say because of that, but I hope they remember that you're their son first and foremost.
Good luck, and give me a shout if you're on messenger some time.

Gest.. you never told your mum that you liked girls because it was assumed that you did, right?
I happen to care what my parents think.. which is why I want to share this with them.
I'll let you guys know how things go.
(hehehhe cocktail dress? maybe I can borrow someones.. ) MRk MRK n FnK Mz

BuMz, my point was that people put way to much emphasis on sexual preference in our society. It's not that big of a deal, it's like religion.not allowed

Couldn't agree with you more on that buddy.
It really doesn't matter to me what your sexual orientation is. (I don't like the term 'preference') But to my parents it would just be a huge shock, and a huge deal due to religious beliefs. MRk MRK n FnK Mz