CHV Lives On

ok, seems like a suitable thread to ask on...
wondering if anybody here ever tried having a serious relationship using the internet and if it worked or not?Damn it all to hell... I need to pay for a HTML sig?

*waves*
My boyfriend and I met on CHV and have been "together" for two and a half years now. We met in person for the first time last year. I've been out to Texas to see him three times now, including three months this summer, and provided I can find a job I'll be moving out there once I've finished at Oxford. We generally keep in touch on MSN...actually I think we talk more than most couples who live near each other do.
Yeah so, that's us.

Good, there's hope for me yet then.
Kinda fell into a relationship with somebody I only really know through IRC and feeling the hardship. Plans for visits in May when she graduates, and she's coming here so I can take here away to Paris. Been together for a longish time but havn't you ever felt that it's all the harder for being just online?Damn it all to hell... I need to pay for a HTML sig?

Dude, good for you! Whereabouts does she live?
But yeah, a lot of the time it does make you feel like the world played a really mean trick on you putting the person you love on the other side of the planet. I actually found it a lot harder to cope with before we met because, well, you know, it's difficult to understand how you can be in love with someone you've never met, even when you know you are. But it is possible to make something of it if you're committed to each other.

She travels between Kentucky and Florida. And it's good to see these relationships working around me, I'm best man at a wedding between to close friends who live in the states and here in the uk. And knowing other people have done it to makes it easier.
We talk alot, normally about 5 hrs a night and my sleeping pattern is really f****d up just so I can spend more time with her.
It's hard to invision being with her and loving her yes, but doesn't want me want it any less. Things seem like they can only get better and life is finally on the up
In short, yay me!!
Note: I apologise for serious talk here Damn it all to hell... I need to pay for a HTML sig?

I totally know what you mean about the sleep patterns, I'm the same. I think doing it this way gives you a good basis for a relationship though, even if it is painful. Daniel and I get on so well because we fell in love with each others' personality first.
You can do it though, I'm sure. If you're committed enough to the relationship, you'll do everything you can to make it work, and that'll stand you in all the better stead for when you can be together all the time.

Yeah, I sleep 4 hours, do an 8 hour shift, sleep like 2 more hours in the day, and by friday I'm a zombie but it's really worth it.
Have the week off this week and guess what, she's out monday, needs to be in bed early tuesday to drive home to Kentucky, where she'll be for 2 days, when she gets back she'll be tired... so a good week off then
The test of time, something I am sure we'll get through, we've already been through alot and it's all good from here on inDamn it all to hell... I need to pay for a HTML sig?

You know what? It does get a lot better once you've met in person. Things just become so much more serious once you've made that big committment. It also made me feel a lot more proud about the whole thing, especially in front of other people I was always scared people were going to think I was some kind of social retard because I found a boyfriend on the internet, but the fact is I wasn't actually looking for one, it was just a friendship that clicked.
Meeting in person is a brilliant step though, if it works it's just the best feeling. I remember being amazingly close to fainting when I met Daniel for the first time in the airport lounge in San Antonio. Apparently I was shaking like a leaf too, but it's all just one big blur in my head now. ^_^;;
The weeks when you don't get to talk to each other suck, but at the very least send her lots of emails. It's not as good, but at least then she knows you're thinking about her, and that's always a good feeling.

Oh, know that feeling. But since I've been with her I've stopped going out as much to be with her and my life has changed alot. This week we started reading a book together, chapter by chapter, and discuss it when we are together. So far there hasn't been a point where the conversation dries up too, which is unusual for me cos I never know what to say lol. Such a good and natural feeling and yet most would shun it because it's online.
Oh well, late her now and I've just sent her to bed so she can do her homework etc.. tomorrow so time for me to head off too... the sweet refreshment of sleep awaits Damn it all to hell... I need to pay for a HTML sig?

Heh, it's so good to hear all this from someone else who's going through the same thing we are...