I Am What I Am

Gestahr · Sep 12, 2003#112003-09-12T03:13

Sorry about that, I wrote in a rush and accidentally put "preference" instead of "orientation".not allowed

BuMz187 · Sep 12, 2003#122003-09-12T03:17

MRk MRK n FnK Mz

Miso Soup · Sep 12, 2003#132003-09-12T15:40

Dude, i've been going to a lutheran domination school(s) for the past 12 years. Even though highschool put me off christianity, I do know that christianity is about acceptance. They won't disown you, but it will be hard for them to accept. There are heaps of gay people in church (as you've probably noticed in these past few headlines) and if you get thrown out, come live me yo.
Some things are better not known by your parents (IE. $250 speeding ticket), but if you don't tell your parents - eventually you WILL regret it.
Best of luck.

Gestahr · Sep 12, 2003#142003-09-12T16:58

Alot of Christians don't practice what they preach.not allowed

The Soul Hunter · Sep 12, 2003#152003-09-12T23:00

I feel for you bumz. I myself am bi and nobody, not even close friends, know about it.
It drives me mad sometimes but that's just how things are. I hope it goes well.Damn it all to hell... I need to pay for a HTML sig?

Delilah Darkheart · Sep 12, 2003#162003-09-12T23:12

One thing I'm really curious about (and I don't mean this in a bad way...) is why do yall feel so comfortable telling us about it, but not your close RL friends and family? If anything, people you don't know all that well are more likely to judge you and/or go blabbing to someone you might not want them to... ( but not me of course!

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Gestahr · Sep 12, 2003#172003-09-12T23:22

Anonimity, I think. It's safer behind a screen. Also, even if we do go blabbing, who's really gonna care?

And even then, it's not like any of us really know all that much about each other. It's not like I could call up BuMz parents tonight and tell them he's gay.not allowed

doraemi · Sep 13, 2003#182003-09-13T05:00

Bumz: This is my own opinion. You're still young in age. you might be gay, and you might be now. Who knows for sure? Your orientation might change for some reason O_o. Anyway, i think you should put off telling ur parents until u hit your 20s. By then, you should be all "grown up" and your parents can't do no shit to you. At that age, ur parents would know that its ur choice. They would easier get over the shock cause they know u're actrually REALLY old enough to think for yourself. As for your friends, you can tell them. Its actrually better to tell them cause they give more support and can always back you up for anything....
Just my own opinions...
Hahaha...I've been going out with my bf for more than 5 months now, and nobody knows....it sometime drives me nuts too~

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Ospiosis · Sep 13, 2003#192003-09-13T06:44

Actually, I disagree.. I think it better to tell your parents when you are younger, and still under their support system, providing they are loving parents. It is not as easy to ignore and forcefully make "go away" by shunning or banishing. They'll also have the time to adjust, under the same roof, to it.
I grew up in a very pro-gay, liberal household... so for me it would not have been a problem.. but my best friend's brother is going through this exact same thing you are bumz. He's told his mother, and she freaked out a bit I believe, but I'm not sure he'll ever tell his father straight up.
I encourage you to be open and honest with your family, if that is what you want. If YOU WANT them to know, tell them with love and understanding, knowing it might not be easy for them to take in...
Your sexual orientation (personally, I do prefer preference) has nothing to do with who you are as their son, you need to remind them of that should you tell them.
Ren

Gestahr · Sep 13, 2003#202003-09-13T06:52

BuMz doesn't like "preference" because when one says "sexual preference" it implies that one has a choice as to whether they want to be gay or straight or etc. I prefer "orientation" as well.not allowed

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