Eunice Lam Remembers Bruce Lee (Pt.1 of 2)

LJF
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April 9th, 2016, 8:08 am #1

Eunice Lam Yin-Nei (31st January 1943 - ), better known as Peter Lee’s ex-wife and sister-in-law of Bruce Lee, is also a famous HK celebrity, columnist, renowned writer, tv/radio host, producer etc. Eunice graduated from the University of Berkeley (U.S.A.) with a Bachelor's Degree in Genetics and possesses a Master Degree in Chinese Literature from the University of Hong Kong.

Below is a translated article from her Cantonese interview in “Nam Dou Dai Pai Dong” (aka “Small Food Restaurant in Southern City”) in commemorating BL’s 40 anniversary. Eunice shares some rare stories of Bruce with the audience and provides a more human side of Bruce Lee solely from her perspective which is quite different from his widely known silver screen image.

Photos of Eunice Lam: http://postimg.org/image/676louhd7/

Eunice Lam’s family photos: http://postimg.org/image/ykl4fx5ep/

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Part I:
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1.1 The Bruce Lee connections
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“I’ve never felt that I was Bruce’s sister-in-law all the while. Firstly, it was because he was older than me. Secondly, we have been friends for some years before I married his elder brother, Peter Lee. To me, he wasn’t a superstar but just an ordinary human being. From my perspective, he was a defiant, proud yet very hardworking guy with a never-say-die attitude. Also, Bruce was very kind hearted and liked to defend those weaker ones who had suffered injustice. When I first got to know him, I didn’t know that he was a child star in HK. In fact, I only saw his famous childhood movie, “The Orphan” on TV after his death. I think that was his best film. When I first knew him, he was a nobody who possessed nothing. In Seattle, he stayed in a small attic on top of Ruby Chow’s restaurant. I remembered there was a wooden dummy at the patio where he would keep practicing his Wing Chun by hitting it with his fists, yet his joints didn’t seem to be in pain.”

“Back then, Bruce didn’t even own a car and his pocket money was very limited. Yet he brought me for strolls, meals, movies and we got along very well. Of course, he talked a lot, I supposed a hundred times more than I did. No wonder those books which were published after his death, seem so familiar to me. I was surprised to see the texts in those books were exactly the words which he had said to me everyday.”

1.2 Meeting with the dragon
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“I enrolled into the summer class in the University of Washington (note: circa 1961) and his brother, Lee Chung-Sam (Peter Lee) told Bruce to take good care of me (note: Bruce was in Seattle and Peter was in San Francisco then). I didn’t go there alone and I didn’t intend to go to Seattle initially. But the children of my mother’s good friend (one son and two daughters) planned to go to Seattle, so, I accompanied them. We rented an apartment. My mother was quite rest assured because those three siblings were well-behaved holly Christians.”

“After we had settled down in that rented apartment, someone knocked on the door one afternoon. I’ve forgotten who opened the door. Then, a guy stuck his head in from outside the door and glanced through the house. He then quickly introduced himself, ‘Hi! I’m Bruce Lee!’ After introducing to one another and chit-chatting for a while, Bruce brought me out.”

“He didn’t seem to have a sense of strangeness and started to joke as our conversation began. He jovially said, ‘I’m guessing how my brother’s girlfriend looks like? If she is ugly, I’ll immediately turn away and disappear. Anyway, you look okay!’ I thought to myself, What!? Of course, I look okay! Much better than you do. You think you look very handsome? Uhhh….’ At that time, Bruce’s face was full of tiny pimples.”

1.3 A great companion
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“Bruce didn’t like to go back to Ruby Chow’s restaurant and thus, kept me strolling along the street. He would either joke or talked to me about martial arts. Upon reaching a big tree, he suddenly jump and kicked straight up at the leaves. ‘It’s child’s play to break a board. Board is stiff and someone would be holding it in a fixed position. So, it’s easy to break them. But look at those leaves; they are soft and swaying in the wind. They are variable. If I’m able to kick them down, then that’s really something!’ He kicked as he explained. During the meal at a Chinese cook house, I remember his favorite dish was fried beef with onions. He ate a lot and sweat profusely.”

“We then talked about movies. Frankly, I’d never seen a movie which he had mentioned to me. My family and I never watch Cantonese movies in HK, so, I knew nothing about his childhood stardom. This really annoyed him. I knew nothing at all because his elder brother, Chung-Sam (Peter Lee) had never mentioned anything to me about his movie star brother before. Thus, the first day I knew Bruce, he was just a nobody to me. I only found that he was a funny and ordinary youngster. Bruce and I hit off very well. You know, I’m not a person who usually got close very fast with a new friend but it seemed like I had known Bruce for a long time.”

“Bruce told me, ‘There’s an exhibition and I’ve a lady Japanese friend named Takemasu who is looking after a stall. If I bring you there, her face will turn sour.’ So, Bruce really brought me there and that Japanese lady’s face really became awful on the spot. Bruce was very proud then.”

“Bruce usually talked to me about martial arts, philosophy, girls but he never talk about his study. Therefore, if you want him to keep quiet, the best way is to talk to him about his study. This will definitely shut his mouth up.”

“Chung-Sam (Peter) seldom talked about Bruce. He only mentioned that Bruce was too mischievous and had angered some HK people who were ‘untouchable’ (triad society members). Hence, their mother, Grace Lee and father, Lee Hoi-Chuen hastily sent him to his birthplace – San Francisco in the U.S.

“As to how he got to Seattle, I’d no idea. He came to look for me everyday. I was most pleased to hang out with him since he was an active person and there’s no boredom at all. As I was required to attend a 2 hours French lesson only, therefore, I’ve plenty of free time.”

1.4 Dragon with a glib tongue
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“As said earlier, the three friends who stayed with me were the children of my parents’ friends. I got along with the youngest girl very well. She has a second elder brother and an eldest sister. Her eldest sister disliked Bruce as she found him to be too frivolous. Her brother on the other hand, didn’t care much and had no opinions about Bruce. Sometimes, in order to let me go out with him, Bruce would curry favor with the eldest sister and kept sweet-talking to her. He would even sit besides her and discuss bible with her for an hour or two. Bruce was an eloquent fellow but when I saw him sitting down there obediently and talked to the eldest sister very religiously really made me laughed.”

“Bruce really had the ability to easily make friend with whom he liked. The strange thing is he worshipped his elder brother and would often ask me, ‘Among the guys you know, is my brother the most good looking? ‘Is my brother the most outstanding in his study?’ He would not let you give him a negative answer. In fact, both the brothers were only eleven months difference in their age which meant their age gap was very small.”

“Bruce once took me to his small room in the attic of the Ruby Chow’s restaurant. I didn’t find a single book or notebook in his room. As I’d only been to the U.S. for only half a year then and sometimes looked a bit silly and I had never asked Bruce whether he was studying in University of Washington or not. That was school’s summer vacation then and it wasn’t strange for someone not attending classes.”

“Gradually, I found Bruce to be a lonely person. Besides Taky Kimura who opened a grocery store, I didn’t see him hanging around with any male friend. He surely had girlfriends but not permanent ones, just flirting with them only. Not forgetting Bruce had received an order from his elder brother - Peter i.e. to look after his girlfriend - me during the summer vacation.”

1.5 The furious dragon
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“One night, he brought me to a restaurant that played live music. I heard a familiar melody which reminded me about my ex-boyfriend who broke up with me in HK. I felt upset and tears began to roll in my eyes and I became very quiet then. Bruce saw and was very mad. He scolded me, ‘I brought you out here not to miss your ex-boyfriend in front of me!’ From the time I knew him, this was the first time I saw him fumed.”

“The second time he was outraged was because of another incident. One day, my three room mates and I found that the carpet in our rented apartment was old, worn and mold. Hence, we took the initiative to throw it away and put on a new one. However, when the landlord came to collect the rental and saw his old carpet had gone, he was very upset and reprimanded us. He yelled at us and demanded us to return his old carpet. But it had already been thrown away, there’s no way we could return him. He continued to threaten and insult us. Making a fuss for a long time and yet he didn’t want to stop. It looked like he was going to beat us up then.”

“Out of the four, three of us are girls and only the second brother is a guy. Nevertheless, he is a nice guy with a good nature and was almost scared to death by the big, rugged landlord. Desperately, I called Bruce up and told him we had been bullied by the landlord. In a short while, Bruce arrived with a gun in his hand. He stared at the landlord and his brows were drawn together in a frown. He not only scared the landlord out of hell but we were also traumatized by his act. What if he was impulsive and used his gun to kill the landlord? After seeing the gun, the landlord ran the hell out of the apartment as fast as he could. The bully was gone! It was almost evening then and Bruce hadn’t cool down yet. He grabbed the second brother’s collar and admonished him. He rebuked him as gutless, coward and not knowing how to protect girls. He reproached him while the timid second brother kept silence out of fear.”

“The eldest sister had cooked dinner for all of us. At the dinning table, the other two girls and I didn’t know what to do. Second brother was even more embarrassed. He is a rich man’s son who is a well-mannered boy and had never been scolded by anyone in his life before except Bruce. He remained very quiet. The five of us including Bruce, stared at the food on the table without speaking a single word. Quite a while later, Bruce took out a paper and wrote five letters on it: ‘T H I N K’. Then, he passed it over to second brother. Bruce knew he was too reckless just now. He used that as a form of apology to admit his mistake to second brother who accepted the paper with his trembling hands. Finally, we could have our dinner. I had only seen gun in the movie and this time round, someone really came with a gun and rescued us. It was really fun. That was really the immature thinking of a teenage girl then.”

1.6 Martial Arts’ Lone Ranger
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”The summer vacation was 3 months and Bruce had to accompany me throughout the vacation. We talked a lot. He was a Kung Fu fanatic and told me many theories and ideas of martial arts. He said, ‘In those HK action movies, it’s ridiculous to see the actor holding the sword horizontally and exposed his chest widely as it would be vulnerable to attacks.’ ‘Come, clench your fist and let me see,’ he said to me. I did as he instructed. But he laughed at me and said, ‘Why do girls always put their thumbs inside their palms? You will break your thumb first if you were to hit somebody. Remember, put your thumb outside…yeah, that’s right. The distance of striking has to be close, punch from the center line, don’t throw the punch from an arc angle, that will be too slow….You’re not only using the strength from your hand but also, the force from the entire upper body…..’ Bruce also taught me how to kick but when I raised my leg, he would just hold unto it without letting it go. Then, I’d be standing on one leg, hopping slightly for quite a while before he released my leg. Sigh! I’ve really no martial arts talent and always disappoint him.”

“I think that Bruce was a ‘Lone Ranger’ in the path of martial arts in his whole life. He believed that Chinese martial arts shouldn’t be divided into different forms and schools and they would be more powerful once they are united and merged into one. He thought for days and nights and through countless researches, explorations and experimentations which later led him to finally found Jeet Kune Do. Think about it, in an exclusive martial arts circle where various schools do not accept one another, who else would accept Bruce? Even his original Wing Chun School may not be able to accept his revolutionary ideas. He just walked alone. There was only resistance but no encouragement in that path. It is hard to maintain his fortitude beliefs. Furthermore, he had no support from behind to back him up.”

1.7 Babysitting for 90 days
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“Seeing each other everyday, we became ‘hardcore buddies.’ Bruce revealed to me almost everything about himself. He spoke in English more than Cantonese. He didn’t seem to have many Chinese friends. No, I should say he had no friends. I feel the one who treated him the best was his Japanese American friend (note: Taky Kimura) who was very reliable and trustworthy.”

“One day, Bruce and I went to a fun fair. He played the rings and darts’ throwing games and won a prize – a white plush toy doggy. He gave it as a gift to me. But I don’t like plush toy, therefore, I anyhow placed it in the living room. Second brother saw and took it as his pillow. He hugged it during his afternoon nap. Not long later, I received a letter from my mother. Its content was roughly about the eldest sister reporting to my mother about me hanging out with a ‘hooligan.’ I had not much reaction to it. Bruce was a bit arrogant sometimes but I thought he was a good chap. Imagine in my 90 days summer vacation, he had to look after me just like a babysitter, do you think it was an easy task?”

1.8 Cha Cha
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“Bruce gave up teaching me martial arts. He borrowed a car from someone and taught me how to drive. When I turned left or right, he would tell me, ‘Stop the car! You’d damage other’s car by the way you drive. I’d teach you Cha Cha instead.’ He believed Cha Cha was one of his secret skills. One day, he carried a big water-melon (for quenching thirst during breaks) and brought me to an apartment where no one was around. He borrowed the apartment from someone else. After playing the music, he told me to pay attention and listen, ‘Hear that? Open the steps after the sound of the two drums.’ It was not difficult for me to dance but it’s strange to listen to the music so meticulously with the ears. He’s a person who liked to perform and show-off.”

“Once, there was a function which he was invited to perform Cha Cha. He got me to be his dancing partner. I picked the favorite skirt that my ex-HK boyfriend liked most. But Bruce hated that skirt most. ‘Is there anything else? This one doesn’t look good.’ I didn’t bring any suitable skirts to Seattle. Thus, whether he liked it or not, he still had to bear with it and let me wear that skirt.”

“Actually, that Cha Cha performance wasn’t that important and it lasted only several minutes (note: circa 1961 in Chinatown, at Ruby Chow’s husband – Ping Chow’s request; Eunice and Bruce’s names appeared in a local Chinese newspaper which carried report on that event). At that time, Bruce really had not many opportunities, so, when someone requested him to perform Cha Cha, he would be overjoyed. Sometimes, this iron man looked really pitiful. If he didn’t ask me, I definitely wouldn’t dance in this kind of event during interval.”

1.9 Women & sex
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“I continued to stick around with Bruce. We became very good companions. One day, Bruce received a postcard and screamed for help. I asked him what happened. He showed me the postcard. There’s a sentence that says, ‘I’m not dead yet! –- Margaret.’ ‘Who’s she?’ I asked. ‘She’s the Cantonese movie star who is older than me….I lost my virginity to her…,’ Bruce replied. I was curious, ‘What?’ Bruce told me, ‘I was only 14,…you know at the studio one day, only she and me, she dragged me into a room and had sexual relationship with me.’ It seemed he had some female ‘sex tutors’ who were older than him. Talking about another lady actress who used to play weak female role in the movie, Bruce then told me another story, ‘At that time, I was only a young teen, sitting at the long sofa in her home, she said my shirt was too tightly buttoned that made her felt really uncomfortable. So, I took off my shirt. The next thing, you should know what happened…’ ”

“For women whom he just had a fling, Bruce would speak impudently. There was also a female star whom he liked initially but hated eventually. He would comment, ‘She was a slut, a public urinal, anyone could use it. No, I don’t want a public urinal.’ Towards his favorite lady, he would behave like a little boy. There was a lady who was like a dream goddess to him and once she kissed him gently. Bruce was over the moon and rushed to tell his elder brother about it. But there was no touching of hands or legs, nothing (body interaction) really happened. In fact, he would never force the girl whom he really liked and admired to have sexual relationship with him unwillingly. This is the typical Bruce Lee, if he wasn’t able to get his love ones, he would rather write poems, think of them bitterly and miss them from afar. Then, there was another young girl who hung out with Bruce for several months, wrote to him and told him that she enjoyed the ‘fun’ time with him. But Bruce seriously replied to her, ‘I don’t look it this way and I don’t find it ‘fun’ at all!’”

“Bruce was really good at telling stories. With him around, there was no boredom. I was in my late teen years and he was in his early 20s. So, he was more authoritative. I listened to all the stories between him and other women. I’d no special feeling about that. Anyway, I didn’t know who all those HK women or female stars were.”

“Bruce sometimes was a bit naïve. He always thought that he wouldn’t make women pregnant just because he had only one testis as the other one was hid in the intraperitoneal. He showed me to prove it. As a student studying Genetics, I found it to be very normal. I’ve a good knowledge about the human body. I told him with just one testis was enough to create millions of sperms and made a woman pregnant. Whether he believed it or not, I don’t care. As a matter of fact, the content of our chatting regarding this topic actually was not sexual or erotic at all. It really depends on what your mind are thinking. I’m a good listener and that’s why he told me a lot of his personal stuffs. However, I found him to be quite a self-centered person. He thought it was perfectly alright for him to say what he wanted to say but whatever you said which weren’t related to him, he wouldn’t be interested to know.”

1.10 Only respect virtuous ladies
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“Once, Bruce brought me for double rounds movies, i.e. the patron with one ticket were allowed to watch four movies continuously from morning till evening. After the movies, Bruce suddenly recalled something and jumped up from his seat. ‘Oh no, I’d forgotten to pick someone up from the airport!’ Bruce told me he should have gone to the airport to pick up this lady who was two years his senior. Her family had a close tie with the Lee family. The worse thing was that he told that girl to fly from the East Coast to Seattle yet he had forgotten everything. It was getting dark and the girl was so pissed off that he flew to San Francisco.”

“Bruce knew where she would be at and thus, made numerous telephone calls over to apologise and seek her forgiveness. The girl was so exasperated that she couldn’t forgive him. It’s really hard to forgive as if you were to fly from the East Coast for five hours and then see no one to pick you up after waiting for a long, long time. You surely would be infuriated. Bruce was terribly sorry especially she was a virtuous lady. I gradually understood that although Bruce liked women but he really loved and respected virtuous ladies only.”

1.11 The prank master
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“I’ve never seen Bruce working as a waiter in the restaurant before, yet he offered me to become a waitress for a night. He was good at playing pranks on others. I think his greatest joy was making fun of me. The waitress’ job was arranged by him. It was a Saturday. He picked the Cheongsam which he liked most from my cupboard and asked me to wear it to work. The restaurant boss (note: Ruby Chow) saw me and thought I looked presentable, hence, she ordered me to attend to the customers inside a room. She told me to try and persuade the customers to place more orders but the customers didn’t want to order the expensive dishes on the menu. I was a greenhorn and had no experience in dealing with that kind of situation. Then, I glanced and saw that damn Bruce sat right on a chair, laying on the back rest and stretching his legs out and he was laughing at me. I was clumsy in holding the plates, bowls and pouring the soy sauce. Bruce watched me all the way for several hours as if he was watching a comedy and he kept laughing every now and then. The boss was unhappy as the customers had spent too little. I got my hourly pay in the end but I’d forgotten how much I received. It surely wasn’t much. This was the only time that I worked as a waitress in my whole life and thanked to Bruce for his kind recommendation.’”

“One day, Bruce drove a car to pick me up. After driving for a while, he said, ‘I’m not feeling so hot!’ I replied, ‘Yeah, today isn’t that hot.’ Suddenly, he couldn’t stop laughing and said, ‘I mean I’m not feeling too well today, who’s talking to you about the weather?’ After teasing me for not understanding that idiom, he looked as if he was feeling much better. So, we continued our journey. Not long later, he seriously glanced at my skirt and said, ‘Eunice, your skirt is stained.’ I turned to look on my left and then right side of my skirt but couldn’t find any trace of stains. Bruce said, ‘It’s right in the middle of your skirt, you couldn’t see it.’ But I wore a clean skirt that day, how could it be dirty? I wondered. He said, ‘You see, my friend vomited in the car last night and I haven’t clean it, yet you just sat right onto that spot!’ My goodness, he meant there’re remains of vomitus on the seat. I felt really disgusted. He stopped the car at a petrol station. I got up from my seat and was astonished to find something that looked like a lump of nauseating vomitus that stuck onto the seat. Bruce told me, ‘You better go to the washroom at this petrol station and wash the stains off your skirt quickly. I’ll clean the seat.’ Without further delay, I dashed into the station’s washroom. I looked at the mirror to check the left and right sides of my skirt, and then took off my entire skirt to have a clearer look but there wasn’t any stain on it. I was baffled and returned to the car. There, I saw Bruce laughing aloud and in his hand was the plastic vomitus prop that looked like the food residue. He successfully played prank on me again. I was so mad at him that I held my fist and punched him as hard as I could. He held his chest, pretended to be in pain and cried, ‘Oh…it’s so~so painful!....Haha, how you wish, hahaha,… the punch was not good enough even for a massage.’ His body was hard like a rock and I held my hand in pain.”

“Apart from that mischievous act from Bruce, we had an enjoyable car ride and as the night fell, he drove me home. On the way back, I suddenly told Bruce, ‘I want to fire a gun.’ I knew he carried a gun with him. But he asked me, ‘Have you fire before?’ ‘No, but I want to try,’ I said. He then stopped the car, passed me a gun and told me, ‘Now, hold the gun, stretched your hand outside the window and open fire to the sky. But I warn you, it’s not fun if you kill anyone.’ I took the gun and just fired a shot at the sky. ‘BANG!’ It was quiet at night then. We didn’t expect the gunshot to be as loud as an explosion of a cannonball. ‘Hurry! Let’s get out of here!’ After telling me, Bruce quickly stepped onto the accelerator and sped off the car to another place. Actually, the street where I opened fire just now was at a residential area. I wasn’t an adult yet, so, if anyone were to call the police, Bruce and I would be in trouble.”

1.12 His sentimental side
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“Bruce told me about his dream. Besides martial arts, he couldn’t forget about making movies. I always listen to his words attentively. When he didn’t move about, he’s real gentle. Unfortunately, most of his Kung Fu films were filled with plenty of actions and yelling. Thus, the audience didn’t get a chance to watch his quiet side. The words - ‘Kung Fu’ were introduced to the world by Bruce. Kung Fu and Bruce had since become conjoined twins. Back then, his future was unclear and he looked very weary. He once told me, ‘You know, sometimes, in the middle of the night, I would wake up and sit on the bed and cry my heart out.’ I was really surprised to hear that. Who said man doesn’t shed tears? Indeed, Bruce was quite a sentimental person.”

“Moreover, I found that he was a gentle but not euphemistic person. One afternoon, he came to my apartment and only I was around as all my roommates had gone out. It was very warm and he took off his shirt and squat on the floor. I didn’t know what he was thinking. When I saw there were many pimples on his back, I playfully used my hand to touch them. He impatiently said, ‘What’s this? You wanna touch? Then press harder, please. Your touch is like ‘reaching my larynx but not my lung’ (Cantonese words, meaning too mild), really ridiculous! I stopped and didn’t go on any further. It’s true that I’m a bit ridiculous as I just wanted to poke his pimples for fun only.”

Days passed by. I had a very pleasurable and arbitrary summer vacation. Besides his wife, Linda, I think I was the only one who had such a long and innocent time with the pre-famous Bruce Lee. After the summer vacation class ended, I scored an ‘A’ for my French. Bruce intended to study Mandarin but quitted after a lesson. He was unable to pronounce the word “Re” (meaning Hot) in Mandarin. He curled his tongue and tried to pronounce, ‘e….e…what the hell! No more of this shit!’ He cursed and said.”

1.13 From Seattle to San Francisco
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“Finally, the three roommates (siblings) had moved out from our rented apartment and Bruce made a funny face at me and said, ‘They’re moving out, I’m moving in!’ I said, ‘No way!’ I wouldn’t let him move in and play pranks on me all the time. Soon later, I was going to San Francisco to further my study. The flight from Seattle to San Francisco takes about 2 hours. ‘No flying,’ Bruce shook his head and said, ‘I’ll drive you there.’ Okay, I could sight-seeing along the way. However, a car ride from Seattle to San Francisco takes more than 30 hours. I didn’t know where he got a small car from but the car owner stated a condition, i.e.: Need to bring along another passenger who was a middle-age woman to San Francisco.”

“Bruce and I sat in the front seats while the middle-age woman at the back. Driving wasn’t as pleasant as I thought because it was like bathing under the hot sun during the day. When the night fell, Bruce took the wrong road and drove the car up to the hunting area of a hill in Oregon. We didn’t check into any hotel but stayed in the car from morning till night. Bruce became frustrated when he lost his way. I didn’t know how to drive neither did the women at the back. Bruce was the only one who drove from the beginning of the journey to the end. Not to mention about transpassing the states and cities, but sitting in the car for the whole day was really uncomfortable and almost intolerable. As the hot sun rose the next morning, we were heated like roasted dried fishes. In those several dozens hours of journey, the three of us didn’t talk much because the feeling was really unpleasant as we felt like the sardine fish in the can. No, more appropriately, it was like putting the whole can of sardine fish in an oven. At that time, I knew man would easily get frustrated and irritable during the long haul drive.”

“Ultimately, San Francisco was in sight. After passing by my beloved Harbour Bridge, we would be reaching our destination. Most people like Golden Gate Bridge, yet I love Harbour Bridge. It wasn’t straight but it’s a S shape slanting upwards. The sky appeared to be pinkish red during sunset and I felt our car was as if travelling towards the heaven. ‘Oh, no!’ Bruce suddenly shouted while driving passed the bridge. I asked him, ‘What’s the matter?’ He said, ‘One of my contact lens has fallen out!’ He’s a big short-sighted owl. ‘I’ll help you find it,’ I said. ‘No, you can’t find it,’ he said. As the car couldn’t pause at the bridge, he had no choice but to continue driving with an eye.”
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LJF
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April 9th, 2016, 8:24 am #2

Part II:
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2.1 Enter Chung-Sam (Peter Lee)
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“We put the middle-age women down somewhere and then proceeded to Auntie Sing’s house. Auntie Sing was a friend of Bruce’s mother, Grace Lee. She was a local Chinese who always welcome all her friend’s children to stay at her house and served them with great hospitality. Chung-Sam (Peter) stayed there before his school commenced. Chung-Sam (Peter) welcome me with high spirit while Bruce was liked a frustrated rooster. He then told me, ‘I’m starting a Cha Cha class in San Francisco. My friends have made all the necessary arrangement. Tomorrow night, the class will be full. All the people will be rushing to learn from me.’ He proudly looked up with full confidence.”

“To welcome me, Chung-Sam (Peter) had booked a two person’s dinner at the Fair Mont Hotel in Nab Hill. It was the most expensive place at that time. Bruce didn’t get a chance to go there. But he borrowed a Tuxedo suit from Peter and wore it. When Peter and I passed by the block of every street, Bruce would always stuck his head out from the corner suddenly and said, ‘Hi!!!’ He walked very fast and would be ahead of a street before us. Peter said, ‘Hey, Bruce! What’re you doing? Stop fooling around!’ Bruce didn’t care and said, ‘This Tuxedo is mine, mine!!’ Peter couldn’t stop his roguish acts and let him carried on impishly. I was laughing inside my heart each time I saw his sudden and funny appearance out from the blocks.”

“The next day was Bruce’s big day. In the evening, Bruce, me and a few friends walked into the classroom where Bruce was supposed to conduct the Cha Cha lesson. We thought we had gone to the wrong place when we stepped into the classroom. There wasn’t any notice on the wall; the chairs and desks were all stacked up messily and the classroom was in total darkness, there weren’t any lights; not a single student show up or any person-in-charge could be found. We took a second look and were sure that we didn’t go to the wrong place. It’s the right one. After waiting for about fifteen or twenty minutes, there still wasn’t a single soul to tell us what really happened to the Cha Cha class. Bruce stood there very calmly. Suddenly, he said, ‘Let’s go, no class today.’ I didn’t know what to say to console him. Like the rest, I really wanted to know what’s going on. On the way home, Bruce was very quiet and I could tell that this was a big blow to him and he was deeply affected by this incident.”

“My school soon started and I felt my time was really not enough. I attended classes in the morning, went to the lab for experiments in the afternoon and practiced dancing at night. I really had a hard time juggling all these activities and didn’t know how to fork out time to do my homework. Chung-Sam (Peter) and Bruce would call me often. One night, I picked up Chung-Sam’s (Peter) phone call. I was very please to chit-chat with him. But after exchanging a few words, I heard laughter – ‘hahahaha…’ over the other end of the phone. ‘Hey, you’re so happy to hear my brother’s voice! It’s me, Bruce!’ The voice of these two brothers sound alike and Bruce had made use of this advantage to pretend to be his elder brother. He could mimic many personalities each time he called. Sometimes, he would imitate an old uncle with a ‘Tai-Shan’ (a kind of Chinese dialect) accent; sometimes, he would impersonate his friend to pass on a message. His voice impersonation was so good that I was fooled by him almost every time.

2.2 Jealous over Bruce’s blonde girlfriend
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“Easter day (note: circa 1963) was a long holiday. Bruce hoped that I could go to Seattle and meet him. He told me frankly, ‘Well, I only have enough money to buy you a one-way ticket. Is it alright for you to pay for the return ticket yourself? ‘No problem!’ I told him and flew there later. He promised that he would come and pick me up at the airport. Nonetheless, I didn’t see a single soul when I reached the Seattle airport. I stood there for an hour and he didn’t show up. I knew he had moved his house. I called his number but no one picked up the phone. I was very anxious and even more enraged. If I left the airport, who should I look for? Suddenly, I got an idea. I remembered his Japanese friend’s (note: Taky Kimura) number and called his grocery store. His friend said to me, ‘Come to the grocery store, I’ll help you to look for him.”

“When I reached the grocery store, that ‘son of the gun’ was nowhere to be found. I asked his friend, ‘Where’s Bruce?’ He said with assurance, ‘Don’t worry, he’ll be here in just a moment.’ Judging by his look, he should know where Bruce was from the time he received my call. I suddenly recalled the day when Bruce and I were watching movie together and consequently, he had missed picking somebody up from the airport. The same thing happened again but this time round, he missed picking me up from the airport. I knew what’s going on. He must be busy dating a lady and thus, forgot to pick me up. I became infuriated when I thought of this. Half an hour later, Bruce came with a bright, wide smile. My face was totally sour, of course. He drove me to his new house. That wasn’t a single storey house but a spacious garage house instead. He told me he taught lesson at the front and lived at the back.”

“Entering his bedroom, I abruptly saw a female round-shape needle box on the bed. It was as big as a one pound cake. ‘Bruce, this isn’t yours? Is it?’ I asked him. ‘Oh, probably my friend has left it behind.’ He replied. He couldn’t even know how to lie. Why would a girl carry such a big needle box to a guy’s house? Unless she was helping him to mend his shirts and pants everyday. She should have frequent his house and so, leaving it behind. Yet, my dear friend had forgotten to put this needle box away while tidying his bed. Men would never clear the things which they think of no significance. I was fed up with him and didn’t bother to talk to him the entire day.”

“The next day, after his martial arts lessons, he called a female student with short blonde hair to come over. ‘She’s a very nice girl.’ Bruce told me. Then he said to her, ‘Linda, please demonstrate the monkey fist to us.’ She performed it gracefully with an innocent smile over her face. ‘She’s only seventeen, very obedient.’ Bruce told me after she left. Indeed, the girls in Seattle obviously are simpler as compared to the young girls in HK. She would do whatever was told. My anger still hadn’t subsided yet, so, the next night, I nagged at him that I wanted to leave. He was partially baffled and partially pleading me, ‘I feel upset the way you treat me. I’ve brought you out for meal and treated you with warm hospitality, didn’t I?’ Whatever he said. Why should I stayed at his place and see that ‘eyesore’ - needle box? The very next morning, I was gone. I didn’t mean to have a fall out with him, but I just didn’t want to stay. I could tell that he was very unhappy. Serve him right!”

2.3 Summer vacation in HK (circa 1963)
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“Our friendship remained unchanged. He liked to write letter. His handwriting looked very gentle, just like a lady’s handwriting. He used to tell me about his disappointments and frustrations. He knew that I would definitely support him and cheer him up. Sometimes, he would draw his new haircut in his letter and showed it to me. Once, he told me he would be returning to HK to make a movie during the summer vacation. Bruce really returned to HK that summer so did I. However, his father and his old acquaintances couldn’t help Bruce out much as most of them had retired from the film industry. He was unable to get through the coded door. That wasn’t the time for knocking the door, you ought to know the Sesame’s password in order to open the door.”

”Sometimes, Bruce would come to my house and initially, I was worried that my father wouldn’t welcome him. But there was no problem at all. Bruce not only cracked plenty of jokes but he was very good at imitating a running gorilla. He truly knew how to please my parents. My parents were only in their early 40s then and were still as playful as children. My father liked western humour particularly. Bruce spoke English with my father and both got along very well. I didn’t mean to scorn at Chinese but Bruce’s Chinese in fact, was a hundred times better than my father. Moreover, there’s no sense of humour in China, so, cracking jokes in English was simply like a great liberation to us. Once, Bruce told me, ‘Your parents seem to like me very much and I think I’m fully qualified to be the son-in-law of the Lam’s family. But, whether I want you is still another matter.’ I wasn’t angry at all as I knew he was joking.”

“In addition, both Peter and Bruce had been to our house together quite often. I remember once, my father who was still in his prime years then, took on the two brothers one after another in arm-wrestling. My mother took out her camera and snapped their photos while they arm-wrestled. Both the brothers played cheat as they used their right hand to wrestle with my father while their left hands were gripping to the edge of the table to generate more force. My mother took many photos where the brothers were caught playing cheat. The photos are still in my parents’ family photo album. My mother refused to tear (take) down these photos which she had arranged very nicely in the album. Every time while recalling the past, my parents would sigh at the untimely passing of Bruce.”

2.4 Dragon whips its tail – beat up four ruffians
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“I always feel that my parents were truly a pair made in heaven. My father was a charming gentleman and my mother was a graceful and shapely-figure beauty. It was pleasant to see this pair going out at night holding hands in hands. One night, they went for dinner and dance at the ‘Eagle Nest’ in the Hilton Hotel located at HK Island. That was the most ‘In’ and luxurious place back then. They brought me and Bruce along too. Bruce was overwhelmed with joy and excitement. He wore a new black formal suit with a shimmering purple shirt inside. After dinner, he was able to perform his unique Cha Cha’s dragon footsteps and moved with great flexibility and mobility, and became the center of attraction in the dance hall there. It was very sensational! Later, my parents were tired and so, went home early, leaving Bruce and I to continue enjoying ourselves. We left the hotel before midnight.”

“It was a bit warm then. So, Bruce took off his coat and hung it over his shoulder, and revealed his purple shirt which was real striking. He strolled with me before we boarded the ferry that was taking us back to Kowloon. On the ferry, Bruce’s dazzling purple shirt attracted the attention of four young ruffians (most HK young males didn’t wear such bright color shirts in those days). They teased him and said many foul languages. Bruce returned with a smile and told them to better shut their mouth otherwise they would be in trouble later. But they continued laughing, teasing and insulting Bruce. When the ferry reached the Star Ferry Pier at Kowloon, the four ruffians alighted first and waited for us near the flagpole at a corner of the pier. I was panicked when I saw the fierce looking ruffians surrounded us when we approached them. I looked up at Bruce and saw him standing coolly in a very relaxed and composed position. It looked as if he was not moving but when I turned my head, I heard screaming and to my bewilderment, I saw all the ruffians had fallen to the ground, lying in pain and one of them was trying to crawl for his life. Bruce smiled at me and said, ‘Just treat them with my sweep kick!’ I then realized that in a nick of time, Bruce had already launched the attack at the ruffians with his superfast kicking. I’ve repeated this incident which I witnessed personally many times and people would always ask, ‘Was Bruce really that fast?’ I responded, ‘What do you think?’”

2.5 More than just a friend
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“Sometimes, Bruce would be very sensitive just like girls. After not seeing each other for two weeks, I gave him a call. Bruce picked up and sounded unpleased and then complained to me, ‘It’s already two weeks! You know? You’ve not call me for two weeks!!’ ‘So? What’s so unusual? You already know long time ago that I’m not a person who likes to make phone calls,’ I told him forthrightly. Bruce said, ‘Do you know that I’m ill.’ I replied, ‘How would I know if you don’t say so?’ I was really unable to understand his logic behind that complaint. My goodness, two weeks already, he kept counting the number of days. Okay, I then personally paid him a visit at his house days later. By then, he had almost recovered from his sickness. When I went to the washroom, suddenly I saw someone trying to slip a very tiny folded paper through the crevice in the door to me. I knew it was Bruce. I took a glance at the folded paper and put it into my purse. But I couldn’t be staying in the washroom for half a day, so, I got out from there and initially planned to go home to read what he wrote to me. I knew it was a poem as he loved to express his feelings and emotions through poetry.”

“All of a sudden, I remembered a good place for chatting and I wanted to bring Bruce there. It was near CUHK (Chinese University of Hong Kong). ‘What for?’ he asked. I told him, ‘There’s a flinty beach not far from the CUHK campus but there’re many crushed stones. I knew of a good spot – a patch of grass ground that could accommodate the sitting of two persons comfortably. You bring a ground mat along with you.’ Some of my ex-middle schoolmates had pursued their study at CUHK. We were separated for a year and a half but still staying in touch then. My ex-boyfriend was from that university. He used to bring me there and sitting together to enjoy the beautiful sunset. Those scenes still remained in my memory. Bruce followed me there. However, I was bad in direction and didn’t know whether I had gone to the wrong place. We reached the flinty beach and there were a lot of crushed stones but nowhere of the comfortable sittings could be found. ‘This is it?’ Bruce asked and trying to place the woolen ground mat here and there without success. He cursed, ‘You came to this awful place for dating? What’s so good about the sittings? What’s so great about the scenery? It’s so horrible!’ I felt sorry as instead of revisiting my old dreams, we landed up in such a miserable state. We had no choice but to leave the place.”

“Bruce started the car engine and I asked, ‘Where’re we going now?’ He said, ‘Sending you home.’ ‘No, I don’t want to go home. I want to go for a yacht ride at the Causeway Bay Typhoon Shelter.’ Bruce made a U-turn and drove the car for a while without saying a word. I asked, ‘Where’re you bringing me to?’ He seriously replied, ‘Sending you back…..’ ‘No!’ I protested. ‘……back to Typhoon Shelter,’ he smiled at me roguishly. I was happy and returned with a smile. We were out to the sea soon. Lying on the yacht wasn’t very comfortable for me but Bruce did feel at ease and started to talk about his plans on film making. He also explained to me about how martial arts and philosophy complement each other. While pausing for a breath, he used his fingers to touch my long eye lashes. ‘Hey, Bruce! They’re real, stop pulling!’ I yelled to him and blinked my eyes. He kept on laughing and laughing.” That’s the jovial Bruce I knew.

2.6 Returned to the U.S.
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“Vacation was about to be over and Bruce was about to leave for Seattle. There wasn’t any news in HK. I didn’t understand why the HK film companies didn’t want to give him a chance. But, I firmly believe he would succeed one day. After departed from HK for several days, I received a letter from him. He wrote a Chinese poem to me, titled ‘The Sea and The Moon.’ It was well written and was mailed out from the San Francisco Airport. At the end of August, I needed to go back to the U.S. to continue my study. The summer vacation for the schools in the U.S. is very long, i.e. from May to the end of August. After returning to the U.S., I still do not know where to stay. The school hostel was full and there wasn’t any vacancy. Anyway, I used to look up for the apartment rental ads and co-rental info on the campus’ notice-board. If it’s co-rental, the female students might not know each other. It’s like living a little Gypsies’ life. Choosing the mentor/tutor also need to be fast otherwise you’d be left empty-handed. The dateline was only one day. This kind of training actually was pretty good as it helped to train a youngster to think and act independently.”

“During the lunar year, Auntie Sing gave everyone of us a red packet that contained 20 U.S. dollars. She passed the red packet intended for Bruce to me and told me to pass it to him since he wasn’t in San Francisco. I called Bruce and told him his red packet was with me. ‘Hand it over to me then,’ he said. ‘What if I don’t?’ I said. ‘Then, I’ll tell Auntie Sing that you took my red packet,’ he said. We were kidding. I later mailed it to him. Twenty bucks might really mean something to him as I thought he might be running short of money then.”

2.7 Bruce in Oakland
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“Not long later, Bruce moved to Oakland and stayed with James Lee’s family. James was also a martial arts practitioner. He and his wife were real nice persons. I’d been to their house. Once, I needed to take a shower at their house. After shower and dressed up, Bruce came into the shower room and wasn’t very pleased. ‘Why did you splash the water all over the place? It’s not good.’ Bruce took a cloth and wiped the floor while telling me that. He was busy wiping but didn’t ask me to help. Do you believe that Bruce would help other people to wipe the floor? Yes, he did. At my own house in HK, I’d never pay attention as to whether the water had been splashed all over the place after my shower because I had my maid to clean up everything. Bruce was the first person to remind me of such thing. I felt sorry for making him to help me wipe the floor that time.”

“After sometimes, Bruce still stayed in James’ house but I didn’t know what he was doing over there. Sometimes, they would come to Berkeley to visit me. There was once a grand ball party and I invited Bruce and James over. They gladly accepted the invitation. During that party, my male partner and I all wore very well so did the rest. However, Bruce and James just came in their casual clothes and felt a bit not fit in with the rest of the guests. I’d forgotten to tell them the dress code for the party and both of them felt awkward and embarrassed. After hovering for nearly half an hour, Bruce didn’t ask me for dance but he told me, ‘I didn’t know you already have a dance partner, I thought you asked me to come here is for….I’m not staying, I’m leaving!’ I didn’t stop him because I couldn’t leave my male partner alone just to entertain Bruce. I saw Bruce felt quite upset at the time of leaving and this made me felt very bad. But that bad feeling only lasted for a while, I’d forgotten about everything once having fun with so many schoolmates. After the party, I thought to myself that maybe I shouldn’t have asked him to come. I didn’t know what he was thinking and what I was thinking were different. He wanted to be the center of attraction but I just wanted to invite him for some fun.”

2.8 A dejected dragon
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“This reminded me of an incident that happened during our last summer vacation in HK. One evening, my parents brought me and Bruce to a country club for dinner. The sky wasn’t dark yet and Bruce and I were strolling along the big grass lawn near the beach. Suddenly, Bruce saw the former HK movie actress, Christine Pai Lu-Ming who had then been married to a big lawyer. Bruce told me, ‘We’ve played in the movies before (note: ‘The Wise Guys Who Fool Around - 1956’), she should be able to recognized me. Bruce bluntly went over and wanted to say ‘Hi’ to her but Christine Pai didn’t even bother to glance at him and she just walked past him. Maybe she really didn’t take notice of him. But Bruce was feeling terrible. Of course, if he was the renowned superstar Bruce Lee that night, I think even blind man would be aware of him.”

2.9 Bruce got married
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One evening (circa 1964), I received a call from Bruce and he said, ‘I’m getting married.’ I wasn’t surprised and asked, ‘With whom?’ ‘Linda. She’s pregnant,’ he replied and continued, ‘Wow! You know, her mother ticked me off as Linda was not able to continue her college…’ ‘Then, you better be a good husband!’ I told him. ‘Hey, this isn’t nice for you to say that,’ he protested. ‘Okay, then have some fun!’ I said. ‘That’s more like it,’ he giggled. I didn’t have much feeling about it since I wasn’t even twenty at that time and marriage to me was like an U.F.O. then.”

“I neither feel happy nor unhappy for an old friend who had just got married. Never did I expect Linda and him to abide their marriage vow and were together until his untimely death. After having a family, Bruce continued teaching martial arts for a living. Soon, Linda who was pregnant came to stay in James’s house too. I couldn’t imagine Bruce’s feeling of dependent and living under the shelter of someone else. But it didn’t affect his ambitious mind. We didn’t see each other as often as before but we still kept in touch through phone calls. He didn’t feel demoralized or depressed under whatever circumstances. Those were the difficult times and I really admired his fighting spirit and never give up attitude.”

One day, Bruce called me and told me that James’ wife had passed on. I met his wife before and I remembered she looked quite healthy and pleasant then. Never did I expect she just left abruptly like that. I asked Bruce, ‘Did she pass away peacefully?’ ‘Hmm…, no. It’s real dreadful but don’t ask me to describe, I don’t want to say.’ ”

2.10 Brandon was born
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“Time really flies, I did not really look at the dates on the calendar and it seemed like I’d just torn away another sheet as a new month had arrived. It’s already a few days after the new month. Brandon was born. Bruce sent me a photo of him holding the little hand of Brandon who was learning to walk. He had become a father and was full of joy. It seemed fated that Bruce had to return to the U.S., his birthplace, in 1959 to claim his American citizenship otherwise he wouldn't meet and married Linda, the blonde hair girl from Seattle and then had the cute Brandon later in 1965. I found Bruce to have became a more matured and responsible man after having a family. Yet, he was still the same old Bruce that I had known years ago. ”

2.11 The real Bruce that I knew
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“I used to call him Bruce and he would only call me Eunice. For writing convenience, I would write Lee Siu Loong, Siu Loong, Loong but those were not the names that I used to call him. In fact, his elder brother only addressed him as Bruce.”

“Bruce had no problem with his Chinese. He could read and write Chinese. He also had a deep affection for his Chinese nation. His mother, Grace Ho Oi-Yi was the daughter of Ho Kam-Tong, a wealthy and famous HK businessman cum philanthropist. Nevertheless, both the brothers had seldom mentioned about their mother’s background. Bruce’s mother was a Eurasian and only wrote letters in English. Why did Bruce insist that he was a Chinese? This got to do with martial arts and Chinese philosophy. He was able to merge martial arts and philosophy into one, I wouldn’t want to talk further about his theories, just get his books and you’ll be able to read them.”

“I knew him since his younger days and I’d seen his true personality during that period of time. If ‘The Legend of Bruce Lee’ were to be shot, the most exhilarating story about Bruce wasn’t the last few years where he gained superstardom in HK, instead it was those early years where he was striving diligently towards his success.”

“On the silver screen and through countless photos, most people see a Bruce Lee that was filled with energy, power, enmity and feud. As for me, I’ve seen his frustration and dejection, his naughtiness and passion. This was the real Bruce with blood and flesh. He walked alone in the path that filled with lots of obstacles. He was left in the cold, faced with many failures until his heart was bleeding. But he never give up, never slack off or idle. Bruce overcame the dark moments in his life and continued to be alive and kicking. He practiced martial arts daily and believed he was the best. He never grumbled nor doubted life too much. These two special traits enormously helped him to walk his way steadfastly. For a young man who pursued his dream but was stuck in the dilemma and was unable to break away, except for sincere friendship, what else could I give him?”

2.12 His poetry I
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“Besides martial arts and philosophy, Bruce loved writing letters and was a person with extreme sensibility. Sometimes, he would write poetry for his friends. It doesn’t matter whether they are poems, short essay or lyrics, most importantly, is to remember the other sides of Bruce. Below is a rare Chinese poem (translated), titled, ‘The moon and the sea,’ that he wrote me and it had never been published before:

‘Meeting each other in silence,
Just waiting to call out gently from within,
Until the quietness condensate,
For fear that others might notice;

Tonight, the moon above the sea
Shimmers like gleaming silver,
And the promise of love
Are witnessed by the heaven and earth;

Please don’t hurried to wake up from this good dream,
Yet the ruthless water has to flow to the west,
And the beautiful scenery beneath the eyes are slipping away,
It’s time to part again;

The remains of the fragrance
Stay around after this parting,
Maybe fresh greenery
Will surround again the next time;

Disbelieving fate will continue in three lifetimes,
So, lower the heads
To say take care and goodbye,
Hopefully, there would be a happy reunion soon;

While there is sorrow today,
There is sweetness in togetherness too,
Yet who really knows
The bitterness of parting?’

“As Bruce was a sensible person, this work reveals the inner side of him. Don’t be surprised that he wrote it in Chinese. Although he usually wrote letters and poetry in English but that didn’t mean he couldn’t write Chinese. In fact, Chinese culture and philosophy influenced him greatly. Bruce was proud to be a Chinese as he often told his friends and associates. Perhaps under the influence of his father who was a famous Cantonese Opera actor, he used to listen to Cantonese Opera songs lyrics since young and thus, became so familiar that he could recite them easily. I also wasn’t aware that he had read the first part of Nalan’s poem, ‘Tonight the moon above the sea shimmers like silver; And the promise of love are witnessed by the heaven and earth’ as well as ‘And the beautiful scenery beneath the eyes are slipping away’ which were all adapted from the number one poet, Nalan Sing-Tek of the Ching dynasty. It doesn’t matter where those words were originated from but the main thing is Bruce sincerely expressed his feelings from the bottom of his heart. He wasn’t a litterateur, yet he knew how to combine words from his memory and his creativity bank to express his true feelings and touch the hearts of the readers.”

2.12 His poetry II
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“The Chinese poems which Bruce wrote always filled with a feeling of melancholy so did many of his English poems. They’re rather dark – reflecting the deeper, less exposed recesses of the human psyche. These poems reflect another side of Bruce: the sensitive soul, calling out for understanding, love and companionship. Unlike his poetry, the martial arts materials which he wrote on the contrary, are very inspirational and positive. I remember there was a similar poem which he wrote in English but personally, I thought has different depth and appeal as his Chinese poem. Below is the one titled ‘Rain’ adapted from his book – ‘Artist of Life’:

‘Rain,
Black clouds,
Fallen blossoms and pale moon,
The hurried flights of birds
The arrival of lonely Autumn
The time for us to part.

The cloud above are floating across the sky
Swiftly, swiftly passing,
Or blending together.

Much has been said, yet we have not
Come to the end of our feelings.
Long must be this parting, and
Remember, remember that all
My thoughts have always been of you.

The good time will probably never come back again.
In a moment – our parting will be over.
When days are short and dull nights long

Read this poem I leave you, read it
When the silence of the world possesses you,
Or when you are fretted with disquiet.
Long must be this parting, and
Remember, remember that all
My thoughts have always been with you.’

2.13 Dragon forever
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“Bruce not only practiced martial arts but also read a library of books and thus, possessed great wisdoms. He used to tell me many of his philosophies frequently which many could be found in the books published after his death. I remembered he once said, ‘A man built a bamboo raft to cross the river, but after crossing the river, he abandoned the raft. He must let it go as it would be a burden to carry the heavy raft on his back and walk on.’ This quote is similar to a chapter in the ancient Buddhist scripture – ‘Kam Gung Sutra’ – “Abandon the raft upon crossing the river; Dhama’s way is to discard while Evil’s way is to retain…’ Another well-known philosophical quote which he often said to me is, ‘Voidness is that which stands right in the middle between this and that. The void is all-inclusive, having no opposite--there is nothing which it excludes or opposes. It is living void, because all forms come out of it and whoever realizes the void is filled with life and power and the love of all beings.’ – Tao of JKD.”

“Many people have asked me, ‘If Bruce is still alive, would he accept a younger and more renowned martial arts star?’ My personal view is that this won’t be a problem. If he didn’t die, his achievement in philosophy will be greater than his martial arts. This is a newer perspective towards Bruce. Even if there isn’t a martial arts star that is on par with him, but at this point of time, he would have totally turned towards philosophy and indulge in publishing books and giving talks. He would be a very outstanding speaker because of his eloquence, wisdom and unique charisma which were much brighter than his martial arts’ radiance.”

“Looking back, when I first met Bruce, he was only in his 20s but was already quite a matured thinker yet his brilliant martial arts skills tend to make people ignore the thinker’s sides of him. Bruce’s life is too short but his image will lives in our hearts forever. Every time, when I see the two words, ‘Little dragon’ appearing in foreign magazines and newspapers, I can’t help but to feel a sharp pain inside my heart. Is little dragon resting in peace now? Did this dragon with an iron will ever feel lost and frustrated by the troubles he faced in the last few years of his life? Was he summon by Lord to the heaven just to stay away from these wearies and to rest peacefully for a while? Maybe, one day, we’ll meet again…..”
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April 9th, 2016, 2:39 pm #3

Outstanding. Tanks a lot.
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April 9th, 2016, 4:07 pm #4

Eunice Lam Yin-Nei (31st January 1943 - ), better known as Peter Lee’s ex-wife and sister-in-law of Bruce Lee, is also a famous HK celebrity, columnist, renowned writer, tv/radio host, producer etc. Eunice graduated from the University of Berkeley (U.S.A.) with a Bachelor's Degree in Genetics and possesses a Master Degree in Chinese Literature from the University of Hong Kong.

Below is a translated article from her Cantonese interview in “Nam Dou Dai Pai Dong” (aka “Small Food Restaurant in Southern City”) in commemorating BL’s 40 anniversary. Eunice shares some rare stories of Bruce with the audience and provides a more human side of Bruce Lee solely from her perspective which is quite different from his widely known silver screen image.

Photos of Eunice Lam: http://postimg.org/image/676louhd7/

Eunice Lam’s family photos: http://postimg.org/image/ykl4fx5ep/

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Part I:
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1.1 The Bruce Lee connections
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“I’ve never felt that I was Bruce’s sister-in-law all the while. Firstly, it was because he was older than me. Secondly, we have been friends for some years before I married his elder brother, Peter Lee. To me, he wasn’t a superstar but just an ordinary human being. From my perspective, he was a defiant, proud yet very hardworking guy with a never-say-die attitude. Also, Bruce was very kind hearted and liked to defend those weaker ones who had suffered injustice. When I first got to know him, I didn’t know that he was a child star in HK. In fact, I only saw his famous childhood movie, “The Orphan” on TV after his death. I think that was his best film. When I first knew him, he was a nobody who possessed nothing. In Seattle, he stayed in a small attic on top of Ruby Chow’s restaurant. I remembered there was a wooden dummy at the patio where he would keep practicing his Wing Chun by hitting it with his fists, yet his joints didn’t seem to be in pain.”

“Back then, Bruce didn’t even own a car and his pocket money was very limited. Yet he brought me for strolls, meals, movies and we got along very well. Of course, he talked a lot, I supposed a hundred times more than I did. No wonder those books which were published after his death, seem so familiar to me. I was surprised to see the texts in those books were exactly the words which he had said to me everyday.”

1.2 Meeting with the dragon
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“I enrolled into the summer class in the University of Washington (note: circa 1961) and his brother, Lee Chung-Sam (Peter Lee) told Bruce to take good care of me (note: Bruce was in Seattle and Peter was in San Francisco then). I didn’t go there alone and I didn’t intend to go to Seattle initially. But the children of my mother’s good friend (one son and two daughters) planned to go to Seattle, so, I accompanied them. We rented an apartment. My mother was quite rest assured because those three siblings were well-behaved holly Christians.”

“After we had settled down in that rented apartment, someone knocked on the door one afternoon. I’ve forgotten who opened the door. Then, a guy stuck his head in from outside the door and glanced through the house. He then quickly introduced himself, ‘Hi! I’m Bruce Lee!’ After introducing to one another and chit-chatting for a while, Bruce brought me out.”

“He didn’t seem to have a sense of strangeness and started to joke as our conversation began. He jovially said, ‘I’m guessing how my brother’s girlfriend looks like? If she is ugly, I’ll immediately turn away and disappear. Anyway, you look okay!’ I thought to myself, What!? Of course, I look okay! Much better than you do. You think you look very handsome? Uhhh….’ At that time, Bruce’s face was full of tiny pimples.”

1.3 A great companion
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“Bruce didn’t like to go back to Ruby Chow’s restaurant and thus, kept me strolling along the street. He would either joke or talked to me about martial arts. Upon reaching a big tree, he suddenly jump and kicked straight up at the leaves. ‘It’s child’s play to break a board. Board is stiff and someone would be holding it in a fixed position. So, it’s easy to break them. But look at those leaves; they are soft and swaying in the wind. They are variable. If I’m able to kick them down, then that’s really something!’ He kicked as he explained. During the meal at a Chinese cook house, I remember his favorite dish was fried beef with onions. He ate a lot and sweat profusely.”

“We then talked about movies. Frankly, I’d never seen a movie which he had mentioned to me. My family and I never watch Cantonese movies in HK, so, I knew nothing about his childhood stardom. This really annoyed him. I knew nothing at all because his elder brother, Chung-Sam (Peter Lee) had never mentioned anything to me about his movie star brother before. Thus, the first day I knew Bruce, he was just a nobody to me. I only found that he was a funny and ordinary youngster. Bruce and I hit off very well. You know, I’m not a person who usually got close very fast with a new friend but it seemed like I had known Bruce for a long time.”

“Bruce told me, ‘There’s an exhibition and I’ve a lady Japanese friend named Takemasu who is looking after a stall. If I bring you there, her face will turn sour.’ So, Bruce really brought me there and that Japanese lady’s face really became awful on the spot. Bruce was very proud then.”

“Bruce usually talked to me about martial arts, philosophy, girls but he never talk about his study. Therefore, if you want him to keep quiet, the best way is to talk to him about his study. This will definitely shut his mouth up.”

“Chung-Sam (Peter) seldom talked about Bruce. He only mentioned that Bruce was too mischievous and had angered some HK people who were ‘untouchable’ (triad society members). Hence, their mother, Grace Lee and father, Lee Hoi-Chuen hastily sent him to his birthplace – San Francisco in the U.S.

“As to how he got to Seattle, I’d no idea. He came to look for me everyday. I was most pleased to hang out with him since he was an active person and there’s no boredom at all. As I was required to attend a 2 hours French lesson only, therefore, I’ve plenty of free time.”

1.4 Dragon with a glib tongue
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“As said earlier, the three friends who stayed with me were the children of my parents’ friends. I got along with the youngest girl very well. She has a second elder brother and an eldest sister. Her eldest sister disliked Bruce as she found him to be too frivolous. Her brother on the other hand, didn’t care much and had no opinions about Bruce. Sometimes, in order to let me go out with him, Bruce would curry favor with the eldest sister and kept sweet-talking to her. He would even sit besides her and discuss bible with her for an hour or two. Bruce was an eloquent fellow but when I saw him sitting down there obediently and talked to the eldest sister very religiously really made me laughed.”

“Bruce really had the ability to easily make friend with whom he liked. The strange thing is he worshipped his elder brother and would often ask me, ‘Among the guys you know, is my brother the most good looking? ‘Is my brother the most outstanding in his study?’ He would not let you give him a negative answer. In fact, both the brothers were only eleven months difference in their age which meant their age gap was very small.”

“Bruce once took me to his small room in the attic of the Ruby Chow’s restaurant. I didn’t find a single book or notebook in his room. As I’d only been to the U.S. for only half a year then and sometimes looked a bit silly and I had never asked Bruce whether he was studying in University of Washington or not. That was school’s summer vacation then and it wasn’t strange for someone not attending classes.”

“Gradually, I found Bruce to be a lonely person. Besides Taky Kimura who opened a grocery store, I didn’t see him hanging around with any male friend. He surely had girlfriends but not permanent ones, just flirting with them only. Not forgetting Bruce had received an order from his elder brother - Peter i.e. to look after his girlfriend - me during the summer vacation.”

1.5 The furious dragon
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“One night, he brought me to a restaurant that played live music. I heard a familiar melody which reminded me about my ex-boyfriend who broke up with me in HK. I felt upset and tears began to roll in my eyes and I became very quiet then. Bruce saw and was very mad. He scolded me, ‘I brought you out here not to miss your ex-boyfriend in front of me!’ From the time I knew him, this was the first time I saw him fumed.”

“The second time he was outraged was because of another incident. One day, my three room mates and I found that the carpet in our rented apartment was old, worn and mold. Hence, we took the initiative to throw it away and put on a new one. However, when the landlord came to collect the rental and saw his old carpet had gone, he was very upset and reprimanded us. He yelled at us and demanded us to return his old carpet. But it had already been thrown away, there’s no way we could return him. He continued to threaten and insult us. Making a fuss for a long time and yet he didn’t want to stop. It looked like he was going to beat us up then.”

“Out of the four, three of us are girls and only the second brother is a guy. Nevertheless, he is a nice guy with a good nature and was almost scared to death by the big, rugged landlord. Desperately, I called Bruce up and told him we had been bullied by the landlord. In a short while, Bruce arrived with a gun in his hand. He stared at the landlord and his brows were drawn together in a frown. He not only scared the landlord out of hell but we were also traumatized by his act. What if he was impulsive and used his gun to kill the landlord? After seeing the gun, the landlord ran the hell out of the apartment as fast as he could. The bully was gone! It was almost evening then and Bruce hadn’t cool down yet. He grabbed the second brother’s collar and admonished him. He rebuked him as gutless, coward and not knowing how to protect girls. He reproached him while the timid second brother kept silence out of fear.”

“The eldest sister had cooked dinner for all of us. At the dinning table, the other two girls and I didn’t know what to do. Second brother was even more embarrassed. He is a rich man’s son who is a well-mannered boy and had never been scolded by anyone in his life before except Bruce. He remained very quiet. The five of us including Bruce, stared at the food on the table without speaking a single word. Quite a while later, Bruce took out a paper and wrote five letters on it: ‘T H I N K’. Then, he passed it over to second brother. Bruce knew he was too reckless just now. He used that as a form of apology to admit his mistake to second brother who accepted the paper with his trembling hands. Finally, we could have our dinner. I had only seen gun in the movie and this time round, someone really came with a gun and rescued us. It was really fun. That was really the immature thinking of a teenage girl then.”

1.6 Martial Arts’ Lone Ranger
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”The summer vacation was 3 months and Bruce had to accompany me throughout the vacation. We talked a lot. He was a Kung Fu fanatic and told me many theories and ideas of martial arts. He said, ‘In those HK action movies, it’s ridiculous to see the actor holding the sword horizontally and exposed his chest widely as it would be vulnerable to attacks.’ ‘Come, clench your fist and let me see,’ he said to me. I did as he instructed. But he laughed at me and said, ‘Why do girls always put their thumbs inside their palms? You will break your thumb first if you were to hit somebody. Remember, put your thumb outside…yeah, that’s right. The distance of striking has to be close, punch from the center line, don’t throw the punch from an arc angle, that will be too slow….You’re not only using the strength from your hand but also, the force from the entire upper body…..’ Bruce also taught me how to kick but when I raised my leg, he would just hold unto it without letting it go. Then, I’d be standing on one leg, hopping slightly for quite a while before he released my leg. Sigh! I’ve really no martial arts talent and always disappoint him.”

“I think that Bruce was a ‘Lone Ranger’ in the path of martial arts in his whole life. He believed that Chinese martial arts shouldn’t be divided into different forms and schools and they would be more powerful once they are united and merged into one. He thought for days and nights and through countless researches, explorations and experimentations which later led him to finally found Jeet Kune Do. Think about it, in an exclusive martial arts circle where various schools do not accept one another, who else would accept Bruce? Even his original Wing Chun School may not be able to accept his revolutionary ideas. He just walked alone. There was only resistance but no encouragement in that path. It is hard to maintain his fortitude beliefs. Furthermore, he had no support from behind to back him up.”

1.7 Babysitting for 90 days
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“Seeing each other everyday, we became ‘hardcore buddies.’ Bruce revealed to me almost everything about himself. He spoke in English more than Cantonese. He didn’t seem to have many Chinese friends. No, I should say he had no friends. I feel the one who treated him the best was his Japanese American friend (note: Taky Kimura) who was very reliable and trustworthy.”

“One day, Bruce and I went to a fun fair. He played the rings and darts’ throwing games and won a prize – a white plush toy doggy. He gave it as a gift to me. But I don’t like plush toy, therefore, I anyhow placed it in the living room. Second brother saw and took it as his pillow. He hugged it during his afternoon nap. Not long later, I received a letter from my mother. Its content was roughly about the eldest sister reporting to my mother about me hanging out with a ‘hooligan.’ I had not much reaction to it. Bruce was a bit arrogant sometimes but I thought he was a good chap. Imagine in my 90 days summer vacation, he had to look after me just like a babysitter, do you think it was an easy task?”

1.8 Cha Cha
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“Bruce gave up teaching me martial arts. He borrowed a car from someone and taught me how to drive. When I turned left or right, he would tell me, ‘Stop the car! You’d damage other’s car by the way you drive. I’d teach you Cha Cha instead.’ He believed Cha Cha was one of his secret skills. One day, he carried a big water-melon (for quenching thirst during breaks) and brought me to an apartment where no one was around. He borrowed the apartment from someone else. After playing the music, he told me to pay attention and listen, ‘Hear that? Open the steps after the sound of the two drums.’ It was not difficult for me to dance but it’s strange to listen to the music so meticulously with the ears. He’s a person who liked to perform and show-off.”

“Once, there was a function which he was invited to perform Cha Cha. He got me to be his dancing partner. I picked the favorite skirt that my ex-HK boyfriend liked most. But Bruce hated that skirt most. ‘Is there anything else? This one doesn’t look good.’ I didn’t bring any suitable skirts to Seattle. Thus, whether he liked it or not, he still had to bear with it and let me wear that skirt.”

“Actually, that Cha Cha performance wasn’t that important and it lasted only several minutes (note: circa 1961 in Chinatown, at Ruby Chow’s husband – Ping Chow’s request; Eunice and Bruce’s names appeared in a local Chinese newspaper which carried report on that event). At that time, Bruce really had not many opportunities, so, when someone requested him to perform Cha Cha, he would be overjoyed. Sometimes, this iron man looked really pitiful. If he didn’t ask me, I definitely wouldn’t dance in this kind of event during interval.”

1.9 Women & sex
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“I continued to stick around with Bruce. We became very good companions. One day, Bruce received a postcard and screamed for help. I asked him what happened. He showed me the postcard. There’s a sentence that says, ‘I’m not dead yet! –- Margaret.’ ‘Who’s she?’ I asked. ‘She’s the Cantonese movie star who is older than me….I lost my virginity to her…,’ Bruce replied. I was curious, ‘What?’ Bruce told me, ‘I was only 14,…you know at the studio one day, only she and me, she dragged me into a room and had sexual relationship with me.’ It seemed he had some female ‘sex tutors’ who were older than him. Talking about another lady actress who used to play weak female role in the movie, Bruce then told me another story, ‘At that time, I was only a young teen, sitting at the long sofa in her home, she said my shirt was too tightly buttoned that made her felt really uncomfortable. So, I took off my shirt. The next thing, you should know what happened…’ ”

“For women whom he just had a fling, Bruce would speak impudently. There was also a female star whom he liked initially but hated eventually. He would comment, ‘She was a slut, a public urinal, anyone could use it. No, I don’t want a public urinal.’ Towards his favorite lady, he would behave like a little boy. There was a lady who was like a dream goddess to him and once she kissed him gently. Bruce was over the moon and rushed to tell his elder brother about it. But there was no touching of hands or legs, nothing (body interaction) really happened. In fact, he would never force the girl whom he really liked and admired to have sexual relationship with him unwillingly. This is the typical Bruce Lee, if he wasn’t able to get his love ones, he would rather write poems, think of them bitterly and miss them from afar. Then, there was another young girl who hung out with Bruce for several months, wrote to him and told him that she enjoyed the ‘fun’ time with him. But Bruce seriously replied to her, ‘I don’t look it this way and I don’t find it ‘fun’ at all!’”

“Bruce was really good at telling stories. With him around, there was no boredom. I was in my late teen years and he was in his early 20s. So, he was more authoritative. I listened to all the stories between him and other women. I’d no special feeling about that. Anyway, I didn’t know who all those HK women or female stars were.”

“Bruce sometimes was a bit naïve. He always thought that he wouldn’t make women pregnant just because he had only one testis as the other one was hid in the intraperitoneal. He showed me to prove it. As a student studying Genetics, I found it to be very normal. I’ve a good knowledge about the human body. I told him with just one testis was enough to create millions of sperms and made a woman pregnant. Whether he believed it or not, I don’t care. As a matter of fact, the content of our chatting regarding this topic actually was not sexual or erotic at all. It really depends on what your mind are thinking. I’m a good listener and that’s why he told me a lot of his personal stuffs. However, I found him to be quite a self-centered person. He thought it was perfectly alright for him to say what he wanted to say but whatever you said which weren’t related to him, he wouldn’t be interested to know.”

1.10 Only respect virtuous ladies
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“Once, Bruce brought me for double rounds movies, i.e. the patron with one ticket were allowed to watch four movies continuously from morning till evening. After the movies, Bruce suddenly recalled something and jumped up from his seat. ‘Oh no, I’d forgotten to pick someone up from the airport!’ Bruce told me he should have gone to the airport to pick up this lady who was two years his senior. Her family had a close tie with the Lee family. The worse thing was that he told that girl to fly from the East Coast to Seattle yet he had forgotten everything. It was getting dark and the girl was so pissed off that he flew to San Francisco.”

“Bruce knew where she would be at and thus, made numerous telephone calls over to apologise and seek her forgiveness. The girl was so exasperated that she couldn’t forgive him. It’s really hard to forgive as if you were to fly from the East Coast for five hours and then see no one to pick you up after waiting for a long, long time. You surely would be infuriated. Bruce was terribly sorry especially she was a virtuous lady. I gradually understood that although Bruce liked women but he really loved and respected virtuous ladies only.”

1.11 The prank master
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“I’ve never seen Bruce working as a waiter in the restaurant before, yet he offered me to become a waitress for a night. He was good at playing pranks on others. I think his greatest joy was making fun of me. The waitress’ job was arranged by him. It was a Saturday. He picked the Cheongsam which he liked most from my cupboard and asked me to wear it to work. The restaurant boss (note: Ruby Chow) saw me and thought I looked presentable, hence, she ordered me to attend to the customers inside a room. She told me to try and persuade the customers to place more orders but the customers didn’t want to order the expensive dishes on the menu. I was a greenhorn and had no experience in dealing with that kind of situation. Then, I glanced and saw that damn Bruce sat right on a chair, laying on the back rest and stretching his legs out and he was laughing at me. I was clumsy in holding the plates, bowls and pouring the soy sauce. Bruce watched me all the way for several hours as if he was watching a comedy and he kept laughing every now and then. The boss was unhappy as the customers had spent too little. I got my hourly pay in the end but I’d forgotten how much I received. It surely wasn’t much. This was the only time that I worked as a waitress in my whole life and thanked to Bruce for his kind recommendation.’”

“One day, Bruce drove a car to pick me up. After driving for a while, he said, ‘I’m not feeling so hot!’ I replied, ‘Yeah, today isn’t that hot.’ Suddenly, he couldn’t stop laughing and said, ‘I mean I’m not feeling too well today, who’s talking to you about the weather?’ After teasing me for not understanding that idiom, he looked as if he was feeling much better. So, we continued our journey. Not long later, he seriously glanced at my skirt and said, ‘Eunice, your skirt is stained.’ I turned to look on my left and then right side of my skirt but couldn’t find any trace of stains. Bruce said, ‘It’s right in the middle of your skirt, you couldn’t see it.’ But I wore a clean skirt that day, how could it be dirty? I wondered. He said, ‘You see, my friend vomited in the car last night and I haven’t clean it, yet you just sat right onto that spot!’ My goodness, he meant there’re remains of vomitus on the seat. I felt really disgusted. He stopped the car at a petrol station. I got up from my seat and was astonished to find something that looked like a lump of nauseating vomitus that stuck onto the seat. Bruce told me, ‘You better go to the washroom at this petrol station and wash the stains off your skirt quickly. I’ll clean the seat.’ Without further delay, I dashed into the station’s washroom. I looked at the mirror to check the left and right sides of my skirt, and then took off my entire skirt to have a clearer look but there wasn’t any stain on it. I was baffled and returned to the car. There, I saw Bruce laughing aloud and in his hand was the plastic vomitus prop that looked like the food residue. He successfully played prank on me again. I was so mad at him that I held my fist and punched him as hard as I could. He held his chest, pretended to be in pain and cried, ‘Oh…it’s so~so painful!....Haha, how you wish, hahaha,… the punch was not good enough even for a massage.’ His body was hard like a rock and I held my hand in pain.”

“Apart from that mischievous act from Bruce, we had an enjoyable car ride and as the night fell, he drove me home. On the way back, I suddenly told Bruce, ‘I want to fire a gun.’ I knew he carried a gun with him. But he asked me, ‘Have you fire before?’ ‘No, but I want to try,’ I said. He then stopped the car, passed me a gun and told me, ‘Now, hold the gun, stretched your hand outside the window and open fire to the sky. But I warn you, it’s not fun if you kill anyone.’ I took the gun and just fired a shot at the sky. ‘BANG!’ It was quiet at night then. We didn’t expect the gunshot to be as loud as an explosion of a cannonball. ‘Hurry! Let’s get out of here!’ After telling me, Bruce quickly stepped onto the accelerator and sped off the car to another place. Actually, the street where I opened fire just now was at a residential area. I wasn’t an adult yet, so, if anyone were to call the police, Bruce and I would be in trouble.”

1.12 His sentimental side
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“Bruce told me about his dream. Besides martial arts, he couldn’t forget about making movies. I always listen to his words attentively. When he didn’t move about, he’s real gentle. Unfortunately, most of his Kung Fu films were filled with plenty of actions and yelling. Thus, the audience didn’t get a chance to watch his quiet side. The words - ‘Kung Fu’ were introduced to the world by Bruce. Kung Fu and Bruce had since become conjoined twins. Back then, his future was unclear and he looked very weary. He once told me, ‘You know, sometimes, in the middle of the night, I would wake up and sit on the bed and cry my heart out.’ I was really surprised to hear that. Who said man doesn’t shed tears? Indeed, Bruce was quite a sentimental person.”

“Moreover, I found that he was a gentle but not euphemistic person. One afternoon, he came to my apartment and only I was around as all my roommates had gone out. It was very warm and he took off his shirt and squat on the floor. I didn’t know what he was thinking. When I saw there were many pimples on his back, I playfully used my hand to touch them. He impatiently said, ‘What’s this? You wanna touch? Then press harder, please. Your touch is like ‘reaching my larynx but not my lung’ (Cantonese words, meaning too mild), really ridiculous! I stopped and didn’t go on any further. It’s true that I’m a bit ridiculous as I just wanted to poke his pimples for fun only.”

Days passed by. I had a very pleasurable and arbitrary summer vacation. Besides his wife, Linda, I think I was the only one who had such a long and innocent time with the pre-famous Bruce Lee. After the summer vacation class ended, I scored an ‘A’ for my French. Bruce intended to study Mandarin but quitted after a lesson. He was unable to pronounce the word “Re” (meaning Hot) in Mandarin. He curled his tongue and tried to pronounce, ‘e….e…what the hell! No more of this shit!’ He cursed and said.”

1.13 From Seattle to San Francisco
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“Finally, the three roommates (siblings) had moved out from our rented apartment and Bruce made a funny face at me and said, ‘They’re moving out, I’m moving in!’ I said, ‘No way!’ I wouldn’t let him move in and play pranks on me all the time. Soon later, I was going to San Francisco to further my study. The flight from Seattle to San Francisco takes about 2 hours. ‘No flying,’ Bruce shook his head and said, ‘I’ll drive you there.’ Okay, I could sight-seeing along the way. However, a car ride from Seattle to San Francisco takes more than 30 hours. I didn’t know where he got a small car from but the car owner stated a condition, i.e.: Need to bring along another passenger who was a middle-age woman to San Francisco.”

“Bruce and I sat in the front seats while the middle-age woman at the back. Driving wasn’t as pleasant as I thought because it was like bathing under the hot sun during the day. When the night fell, Bruce took the wrong road and drove the car up to the hunting area of a hill in Oregon. We didn’t check into any hotel but stayed in the car from morning till night. Bruce became frustrated when he lost his way. I didn’t know how to drive neither did the women at the back. Bruce was the only one who drove from the beginning of the journey to the end. Not to mention about transpassing the states and cities, but sitting in the car for the whole day was really uncomfortable and almost intolerable. As the hot sun rose the next morning, we were heated like roasted dried fishes. In those several dozens hours of journey, the three of us didn’t talk much because the feeling was really unpleasant as we felt like the sardine fish in the can. No, more appropriately, it was like putting the whole can of sardine fish in an oven. At that time, I knew man would easily get frustrated and irritable during the long haul drive.”

“Ultimately, San Francisco was in sight. After passing by my beloved Harbour Bridge, we would be reaching our destination. Most people like Golden Gate Bridge, yet I love Harbour Bridge. It wasn’t straight but it’s a S shape slanting upwards. The sky appeared to be pinkish red during sunset and I felt our car was as if travelling towards the heaven. ‘Oh, no!’ Bruce suddenly shouted while driving passed the bridge. I asked him, ‘What’s the matter?’ He said, ‘One of my contact lens has fallen out!’ He’s a big short-sighted owl. ‘I’ll help you find it,’ I said. ‘No, you can’t find it,’ he said. As the car couldn’t pause at the bridge, he had no choice but to continue driving with an eye.”
Many interesting stories of a young and raw Bruce. Got to see many other sides of Bruce.

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April 10th, 2016, 1:49 am #5

Eunice Lam Yin-Nei (31st January 1943 - ), better known as Peter Lee’s ex-wife and sister-in-law of Bruce Lee, is also a famous HK celebrity, columnist, renowned writer, tv/radio host, producer etc. Eunice graduated from the University of Berkeley (U.S.A.) with a Bachelor's Degree in Genetics and possesses a Master Degree in Chinese Literature from the University of Hong Kong.

Below is a translated article from her Cantonese interview in “Nam Dou Dai Pai Dong” (aka “Small Food Restaurant in Southern City”) in commemorating BL’s 40 anniversary. Eunice shares some rare stories of Bruce with the audience and provides a more human side of Bruce Lee solely from her perspective which is quite different from his widely known silver screen image.

Photos of Eunice Lam: http://postimg.org/image/676louhd7/

Eunice Lam’s family photos: http://postimg.org/image/ykl4fx5ep/

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Part I:
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1.1 The Bruce Lee connections
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“I’ve never felt that I was Bruce’s sister-in-law all the while. Firstly, it was because he was older than me. Secondly, we have been friends for some years before I married his elder brother, Peter Lee. To me, he wasn’t a superstar but just an ordinary human being. From my perspective, he was a defiant, proud yet very hardworking guy with a never-say-die attitude. Also, Bruce was very kind hearted and liked to defend those weaker ones who had suffered injustice. When I first got to know him, I didn’t know that he was a child star in HK. In fact, I only saw his famous childhood movie, “The Orphan” on TV after his death. I think that was his best film. When I first knew him, he was a nobody who possessed nothing. In Seattle, he stayed in a small attic on top of Ruby Chow’s restaurant. I remembered there was a wooden dummy at the patio where he would keep practicing his Wing Chun by hitting it with his fists, yet his joints didn’t seem to be in pain.”

“Back then, Bruce didn’t even own a car and his pocket money was very limited. Yet he brought me for strolls, meals, movies and we got along very well. Of course, he talked a lot, I supposed a hundred times more than I did. No wonder those books which were published after his death, seem so familiar to me. I was surprised to see the texts in those books were exactly the words which he had said to me everyday.”

1.2 Meeting with the dragon
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“I enrolled into the summer class in the University of Washington (note: circa 1961) and his brother, Lee Chung-Sam (Peter Lee) told Bruce to take good care of me (note: Bruce was in Seattle and Peter was in San Francisco then). I didn’t go there alone and I didn’t intend to go to Seattle initially. But the children of my mother’s good friend (one son and two daughters) planned to go to Seattle, so, I accompanied them. We rented an apartment. My mother was quite rest assured because those three siblings were well-behaved holly Christians.”

“After we had settled down in that rented apartment, someone knocked on the door one afternoon. I’ve forgotten who opened the door. Then, a guy stuck his head in from outside the door and glanced through the house. He then quickly introduced himself, ‘Hi! I’m Bruce Lee!’ After introducing to one another and chit-chatting for a while, Bruce brought me out.”

“He didn’t seem to have a sense of strangeness and started to joke as our conversation began. He jovially said, ‘I’m guessing how my brother’s girlfriend looks like? If she is ugly, I’ll immediately turn away and disappear. Anyway, you look okay!’ I thought to myself, What!? Of course, I look okay! Much better than you do. You think you look very handsome? Uhhh….’ At that time, Bruce’s face was full of tiny pimples.”

1.3 A great companion
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“Bruce didn’t like to go back to Ruby Chow’s restaurant and thus, kept me strolling along the street. He would either joke or talked to me about martial arts. Upon reaching a big tree, he suddenly jump and kicked straight up at the leaves. ‘It’s child’s play to break a board. Board is stiff and someone would be holding it in a fixed position. So, it’s easy to break them. But look at those leaves; they are soft and swaying in the wind. They are variable. If I’m able to kick them down, then that’s really something!’ He kicked as he explained. During the meal at a Chinese cook house, I remember his favorite dish was fried beef with onions. He ate a lot and sweat profusely.”

“We then talked about movies. Frankly, I’d never seen a movie which he had mentioned to me. My family and I never watch Cantonese movies in HK, so, I knew nothing about his childhood stardom. This really annoyed him. I knew nothing at all because his elder brother, Chung-Sam (Peter Lee) had never mentioned anything to me about his movie star brother before. Thus, the first day I knew Bruce, he was just a nobody to me. I only found that he was a funny and ordinary youngster. Bruce and I hit off very well. You know, I’m not a person who usually got close very fast with a new friend but it seemed like I had known Bruce for a long time.”

“Bruce told me, ‘There’s an exhibition and I’ve a lady Japanese friend named Takemasu who is looking after a stall. If I bring you there, her face will turn sour.’ So, Bruce really brought me there and that Japanese lady’s face really became awful on the spot. Bruce was very proud then.”

“Bruce usually talked to me about martial arts, philosophy, girls but he never talk about his study. Therefore, if you want him to keep quiet, the best way is to talk to him about his study. This will definitely shut his mouth up.”

“Chung-Sam (Peter) seldom talked about Bruce. He only mentioned that Bruce was too mischievous and had angered some HK people who were ‘untouchable’ (triad society members). Hence, their mother, Grace Lee and father, Lee Hoi-Chuen hastily sent him to his birthplace – San Francisco in the U.S.

“As to how he got to Seattle, I’d no idea. He came to look for me everyday. I was most pleased to hang out with him since he was an active person and there’s no boredom at all. As I was required to attend a 2 hours French lesson only, therefore, I’ve plenty of free time.”

1.4 Dragon with a glib tongue
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“As said earlier, the three friends who stayed with me were the children of my parents’ friends. I got along with the youngest girl very well. She has a second elder brother and an eldest sister. Her eldest sister disliked Bruce as she found him to be too frivolous. Her brother on the other hand, didn’t care much and had no opinions about Bruce. Sometimes, in order to let me go out with him, Bruce would curry favor with the eldest sister and kept sweet-talking to her. He would even sit besides her and discuss bible with her for an hour or two. Bruce was an eloquent fellow but when I saw him sitting down there obediently and talked to the eldest sister very religiously really made me laughed.”

“Bruce really had the ability to easily make friend with whom he liked. The strange thing is he worshipped his elder brother and would often ask me, ‘Among the guys you know, is my brother the most good looking? ‘Is my brother the most outstanding in his study?’ He would not let you give him a negative answer. In fact, both the brothers were only eleven months difference in their age which meant their age gap was very small.”

“Bruce once took me to his small room in the attic of the Ruby Chow’s restaurant. I didn’t find a single book or notebook in his room. As I’d only been to the U.S. for only half a year then and sometimes looked a bit silly and I had never asked Bruce whether he was studying in University of Washington or not. That was school’s summer vacation then and it wasn’t strange for someone not attending classes.”

“Gradually, I found Bruce to be a lonely person. Besides Taky Kimura who opened a grocery store, I didn’t see him hanging around with any male friend. He surely had girlfriends but not permanent ones, just flirting with them only. Not forgetting Bruce had received an order from his elder brother - Peter i.e. to look after his girlfriend - me during the summer vacation.”

1.5 The furious dragon
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“One night, he brought me to a restaurant that played live music. I heard a familiar melody which reminded me about my ex-boyfriend who broke up with me in HK. I felt upset and tears began to roll in my eyes and I became very quiet then. Bruce saw and was very mad. He scolded me, ‘I brought you out here not to miss your ex-boyfriend in front of me!’ From the time I knew him, this was the first time I saw him fumed.”

“The second time he was outraged was because of another incident. One day, my three room mates and I found that the carpet in our rented apartment was old, worn and mold. Hence, we took the initiative to throw it away and put on a new one. However, when the landlord came to collect the rental and saw his old carpet had gone, he was very upset and reprimanded us. He yelled at us and demanded us to return his old carpet. But it had already been thrown away, there’s no way we could return him. He continued to threaten and insult us. Making a fuss for a long time and yet he didn’t want to stop. It looked like he was going to beat us up then.”

“Out of the four, three of us are girls and only the second brother is a guy. Nevertheless, he is a nice guy with a good nature and was almost scared to death by the big, rugged landlord. Desperately, I called Bruce up and told him we had been bullied by the landlord. In a short while, Bruce arrived with a gun in his hand. He stared at the landlord and his brows were drawn together in a frown. He not only scared the landlord out of hell but we were also traumatized by his act. What if he was impulsive and used his gun to kill the landlord? After seeing the gun, the landlord ran the hell out of the apartment as fast as he could. The bully was gone! It was almost evening then and Bruce hadn’t cool down yet. He grabbed the second brother’s collar and admonished him. He rebuked him as gutless, coward and not knowing how to protect girls. He reproached him while the timid second brother kept silence out of fear.”

“The eldest sister had cooked dinner for all of us. At the dinning table, the other two girls and I didn’t know what to do. Second brother was even more embarrassed. He is a rich man’s son who is a well-mannered boy and had never been scolded by anyone in his life before except Bruce. He remained very quiet. The five of us including Bruce, stared at the food on the table without speaking a single word. Quite a while later, Bruce took out a paper and wrote five letters on it: ‘T H I N K’. Then, he passed it over to second brother. Bruce knew he was too reckless just now. He used that as a form of apology to admit his mistake to second brother who accepted the paper with his trembling hands. Finally, we could have our dinner. I had only seen gun in the movie and this time round, someone really came with a gun and rescued us. It was really fun. That was really the immature thinking of a teenage girl then.”

1.6 Martial Arts’ Lone Ranger
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”The summer vacation was 3 months and Bruce had to accompany me throughout the vacation. We talked a lot. He was a Kung Fu fanatic and told me many theories and ideas of martial arts. He said, ‘In those HK action movies, it’s ridiculous to see the actor holding the sword horizontally and exposed his chest widely as it would be vulnerable to attacks.’ ‘Come, clench your fist and let me see,’ he said to me. I did as he instructed. But he laughed at me and said, ‘Why do girls always put their thumbs inside their palms? You will break your thumb first if you were to hit somebody. Remember, put your thumb outside…yeah, that’s right. The distance of striking has to be close, punch from the center line, don’t throw the punch from an arc angle, that will be too slow….You’re not only using the strength from your hand but also, the force from the entire upper body…..’ Bruce also taught me how to kick but when I raised my leg, he would just hold unto it without letting it go. Then, I’d be standing on one leg, hopping slightly for quite a while before he released my leg. Sigh! I’ve really no martial arts talent and always disappoint him.”

“I think that Bruce was a ‘Lone Ranger’ in the path of martial arts in his whole life. He believed that Chinese martial arts shouldn’t be divided into different forms and schools and they would be more powerful once they are united and merged into one. He thought for days and nights and through countless researches, explorations and experimentations which later led him to finally found Jeet Kune Do. Think about it, in an exclusive martial arts circle where various schools do not accept one another, who else would accept Bruce? Even his original Wing Chun School may not be able to accept his revolutionary ideas. He just walked alone. There was only resistance but no encouragement in that path. It is hard to maintain his fortitude beliefs. Furthermore, he had no support from behind to back him up.”

1.7 Babysitting for 90 days
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“Seeing each other everyday, we became ‘hardcore buddies.’ Bruce revealed to me almost everything about himself. He spoke in English more than Cantonese. He didn’t seem to have many Chinese friends. No, I should say he had no friends. I feel the one who treated him the best was his Japanese American friend (note: Taky Kimura) who was very reliable and trustworthy.”

“One day, Bruce and I went to a fun fair. He played the rings and darts’ throwing games and won a prize – a white plush toy doggy. He gave it as a gift to me. But I don’t like plush toy, therefore, I anyhow placed it in the living room. Second brother saw and took it as his pillow. He hugged it during his afternoon nap. Not long later, I received a letter from my mother. Its content was roughly about the eldest sister reporting to my mother about me hanging out with a ‘hooligan.’ I had not much reaction to it. Bruce was a bit arrogant sometimes but I thought he was a good chap. Imagine in my 90 days summer vacation, he had to look after me just like a babysitter, do you think it was an easy task?”

1.8 Cha Cha
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“Bruce gave up teaching me martial arts. He borrowed a car from someone and taught me how to drive. When I turned left or right, he would tell me, ‘Stop the car! You’d damage other’s car by the way you drive. I’d teach you Cha Cha instead.’ He believed Cha Cha was one of his secret skills. One day, he carried a big water-melon (for quenching thirst during breaks) and brought me to an apartment where no one was around. He borrowed the apartment from someone else. After playing the music, he told me to pay attention and listen, ‘Hear that? Open the steps after the sound of the two drums.’ It was not difficult for me to dance but it’s strange to listen to the music so meticulously with the ears. He’s a person who liked to perform and show-off.”

“Once, there was a function which he was invited to perform Cha Cha. He got me to be his dancing partner. I picked the favorite skirt that my ex-HK boyfriend liked most. But Bruce hated that skirt most. ‘Is there anything else? This one doesn’t look good.’ I didn’t bring any suitable skirts to Seattle. Thus, whether he liked it or not, he still had to bear with it and let me wear that skirt.”

“Actually, that Cha Cha performance wasn’t that important and it lasted only several minutes (note: circa 1961 in Chinatown, at Ruby Chow’s husband – Ping Chow’s request; Eunice and Bruce’s names appeared in a local Chinese newspaper which carried report on that event). At that time, Bruce really had not many opportunities, so, when someone requested him to perform Cha Cha, he would be overjoyed. Sometimes, this iron man looked really pitiful. If he didn’t ask me, I definitely wouldn’t dance in this kind of event during interval.”

1.9 Women & sex
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“I continued to stick around with Bruce. We became very good companions. One day, Bruce received a postcard and screamed for help. I asked him what happened. He showed me the postcard. There’s a sentence that says, ‘I’m not dead yet! –- Margaret.’ ‘Who’s she?’ I asked. ‘She’s the Cantonese movie star who is older than me….I lost my virginity to her…,’ Bruce replied. I was curious, ‘What?’ Bruce told me, ‘I was only 14,…you know at the studio one day, only she and me, she dragged me into a room and had sexual relationship with me.’ It seemed he had some female ‘sex tutors’ who were older than him. Talking about another lady actress who used to play weak female role in the movie, Bruce then told me another story, ‘At that time, I was only a young teen, sitting at the long sofa in her home, she said my shirt was too tightly buttoned that made her felt really uncomfortable. So, I took off my shirt. The next thing, you should know what happened…’ ”

“For women whom he just had a fling, Bruce would speak impudently. There was also a female star whom he liked initially but hated eventually. He would comment, ‘She was a slut, a public urinal, anyone could use it. No, I don’t want a public urinal.’ Towards his favorite lady, he would behave like a little boy. There was a lady who was like a dream goddess to him and once she kissed him gently. Bruce was over the moon and rushed to tell his elder brother about it. But there was no touching of hands or legs, nothing (body interaction) really happened. In fact, he would never force the girl whom he really liked and admired to have sexual relationship with him unwillingly. This is the typical Bruce Lee, if he wasn’t able to get his love ones, he would rather write poems, think of them bitterly and miss them from afar. Then, there was another young girl who hung out with Bruce for several months, wrote to him and told him that she enjoyed the ‘fun’ time with him. But Bruce seriously replied to her, ‘I don’t look it this way and I don’t find it ‘fun’ at all!’”

“Bruce was really good at telling stories. With him around, there was no boredom. I was in my late teen years and he was in his early 20s. So, he was more authoritative. I listened to all the stories between him and other women. I’d no special feeling about that. Anyway, I didn’t know who all those HK women or female stars were.”

“Bruce sometimes was a bit naïve. He always thought that he wouldn’t make women pregnant just because he had only one testis as the other one was hid in the intraperitoneal. He showed me to prove it. As a student studying Genetics, I found it to be very normal. I’ve a good knowledge about the human body. I told him with just one testis was enough to create millions of sperms and made a woman pregnant. Whether he believed it or not, I don’t care. As a matter of fact, the content of our chatting regarding this topic actually was not sexual or erotic at all. It really depends on what your mind are thinking. I’m a good listener and that’s why he told me a lot of his personal stuffs. However, I found him to be quite a self-centered person. He thought it was perfectly alright for him to say what he wanted to say but whatever you said which weren’t related to him, he wouldn’t be interested to know.”

1.10 Only respect virtuous ladies
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“Once, Bruce brought me for double rounds movies, i.e. the patron with one ticket were allowed to watch four movies continuously from morning till evening. After the movies, Bruce suddenly recalled something and jumped up from his seat. ‘Oh no, I’d forgotten to pick someone up from the airport!’ Bruce told me he should have gone to the airport to pick up this lady who was two years his senior. Her family had a close tie with the Lee family. The worse thing was that he told that girl to fly from the East Coast to Seattle yet he had forgotten everything. It was getting dark and the girl was so pissed off that he flew to San Francisco.”

“Bruce knew where she would be at and thus, made numerous telephone calls over to apologise and seek her forgiveness. The girl was so exasperated that she couldn’t forgive him. It’s really hard to forgive as if you were to fly from the East Coast for five hours and then see no one to pick you up after waiting for a long, long time. You surely would be infuriated. Bruce was terribly sorry especially she was a virtuous lady. I gradually understood that although Bruce liked women but he really loved and respected virtuous ladies only.”

1.11 The prank master
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“I’ve never seen Bruce working as a waiter in the restaurant before, yet he offered me to become a waitress for a night. He was good at playing pranks on others. I think his greatest joy was making fun of me. The waitress’ job was arranged by him. It was a Saturday. He picked the Cheongsam which he liked most from my cupboard and asked me to wear it to work. The restaurant boss (note: Ruby Chow) saw me and thought I looked presentable, hence, she ordered me to attend to the customers inside a room. She told me to try and persuade the customers to place more orders but the customers didn’t want to order the expensive dishes on the menu. I was a greenhorn and had no experience in dealing with that kind of situation. Then, I glanced and saw that damn Bruce sat right on a chair, laying on the back rest and stretching his legs out and he was laughing at me. I was clumsy in holding the plates, bowls and pouring the soy sauce. Bruce watched me all the way for several hours as if he was watching a comedy and he kept laughing every now and then. The boss was unhappy as the customers had spent too little. I got my hourly pay in the end but I’d forgotten how much I received. It surely wasn’t much. This was the only time that I worked as a waitress in my whole life and thanked to Bruce for his kind recommendation.’”

“One day, Bruce drove a car to pick me up. After driving for a while, he said, ‘I’m not feeling so hot!’ I replied, ‘Yeah, today isn’t that hot.’ Suddenly, he couldn’t stop laughing and said, ‘I mean I’m not feeling too well today, who’s talking to you about the weather?’ After teasing me for not understanding that idiom, he looked as if he was feeling much better. So, we continued our journey. Not long later, he seriously glanced at my skirt and said, ‘Eunice, your skirt is stained.’ I turned to look on my left and then right side of my skirt but couldn’t find any trace of stains. Bruce said, ‘It’s right in the middle of your skirt, you couldn’t see it.’ But I wore a clean skirt that day, how could it be dirty? I wondered. He said, ‘You see, my friend vomited in the car last night and I haven’t clean it, yet you just sat right onto that spot!’ My goodness, he meant there’re remains of vomitus on the seat. I felt really disgusted. He stopped the car at a petrol station. I got up from my seat and was astonished to find something that looked like a lump of nauseating vomitus that stuck onto the seat. Bruce told me, ‘You better go to the washroom at this petrol station and wash the stains off your skirt quickly. I’ll clean the seat.’ Without further delay, I dashed into the station’s washroom. I looked at the mirror to check the left and right sides of my skirt, and then took off my entire skirt to have a clearer look but there wasn’t any stain on it. I was baffled and returned to the car. There, I saw Bruce laughing aloud and in his hand was the plastic vomitus prop that looked like the food residue. He successfully played prank on me again. I was so mad at him that I held my fist and punched him as hard as I could. He held his chest, pretended to be in pain and cried, ‘Oh…it’s so~so painful!....Haha, how you wish, hahaha,… the punch was not good enough even for a massage.’ His body was hard like a rock and I held my hand in pain.”

“Apart from that mischievous act from Bruce, we had an enjoyable car ride and as the night fell, he drove me home. On the way back, I suddenly told Bruce, ‘I want to fire a gun.’ I knew he carried a gun with him. But he asked me, ‘Have you fire before?’ ‘No, but I want to try,’ I said. He then stopped the car, passed me a gun and told me, ‘Now, hold the gun, stretched your hand outside the window and open fire to the sky. But I warn you, it’s not fun if you kill anyone.’ I took the gun and just fired a shot at the sky. ‘BANG!’ It was quiet at night then. We didn’t expect the gunshot to be as loud as an explosion of a cannonball. ‘Hurry! Let’s get out of here!’ After telling me, Bruce quickly stepped onto the accelerator and sped off the car to another place. Actually, the street where I opened fire just now was at a residential area. I wasn’t an adult yet, so, if anyone were to call the police, Bruce and I would be in trouble.”

1.12 His sentimental side
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“Bruce told me about his dream. Besides martial arts, he couldn’t forget about making movies. I always listen to his words attentively. When he didn’t move about, he’s real gentle. Unfortunately, most of his Kung Fu films were filled with plenty of actions and yelling. Thus, the audience didn’t get a chance to watch his quiet side. The words - ‘Kung Fu’ were introduced to the world by Bruce. Kung Fu and Bruce had since become conjoined twins. Back then, his future was unclear and he looked very weary. He once told me, ‘You know, sometimes, in the middle of the night, I would wake up and sit on the bed and cry my heart out.’ I was really surprised to hear that. Who said man doesn’t shed tears? Indeed, Bruce was quite a sentimental person.”

“Moreover, I found that he was a gentle but not euphemistic person. One afternoon, he came to my apartment and only I was around as all my roommates had gone out. It was very warm and he took off his shirt and squat on the floor. I didn’t know what he was thinking. When I saw there were many pimples on his back, I playfully used my hand to touch them. He impatiently said, ‘What’s this? You wanna touch? Then press harder, please. Your touch is like ‘reaching my larynx but not my lung’ (Cantonese words, meaning too mild), really ridiculous! I stopped and didn’t go on any further. It’s true that I’m a bit ridiculous as I just wanted to poke his pimples for fun only.”

Days passed by. I had a very pleasurable and arbitrary summer vacation. Besides his wife, Linda, I think I was the only one who had such a long and innocent time with the pre-famous Bruce Lee. After the summer vacation class ended, I scored an ‘A’ for my French. Bruce intended to study Mandarin but quitted after a lesson. He was unable to pronounce the word “Re” (meaning Hot) in Mandarin. He curled his tongue and tried to pronounce, ‘e….e…what the hell! No more of this shit!’ He cursed and said.”

1.13 From Seattle to San Francisco
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“Finally, the three roommates (siblings) had moved out from our rented apartment and Bruce made a funny face at me and said, ‘They’re moving out, I’m moving in!’ I said, ‘No way!’ I wouldn’t let him move in and play pranks on me all the time. Soon later, I was going to San Francisco to further my study. The flight from Seattle to San Francisco takes about 2 hours. ‘No flying,’ Bruce shook his head and said, ‘I’ll drive you there.’ Okay, I could sight-seeing along the way. However, a car ride from Seattle to San Francisco takes more than 30 hours. I didn’t know where he got a small car from but the car owner stated a condition, i.e.: Need to bring along another passenger who was a middle-age woman to San Francisco.”

“Bruce and I sat in the front seats while the middle-age woman at the back. Driving wasn’t as pleasant as I thought because it was like bathing under the hot sun during the day. When the night fell, Bruce took the wrong road and drove the car up to the hunting area of a hill in Oregon. We didn’t check into any hotel but stayed in the car from morning till night. Bruce became frustrated when he lost his way. I didn’t know how to drive neither did the women at the back. Bruce was the only one who drove from the beginning of the journey to the end. Not to mention about transpassing the states and cities, but sitting in the car for the whole day was really uncomfortable and almost intolerable. As the hot sun rose the next morning, we were heated like roasted dried fishes. In those several dozens hours of journey, the three of us didn’t talk much because the feeling was really unpleasant as we felt like the sardine fish in the can. No, more appropriately, it was like putting the whole can of sardine fish in an oven. At that time, I knew man would easily get frustrated and irritable during the long haul drive.”

“Ultimately, San Francisco was in sight. After passing by my beloved Harbour Bridge, we would be reaching our destination. Most people like Golden Gate Bridge, yet I love Harbour Bridge. It wasn’t straight but it’s a S shape slanting upwards. The sky appeared to be pinkish red during sunset and I felt our car was as if travelling towards the heaven. ‘Oh, no!’ Bruce suddenly shouted while driving passed the bridge. I asked him, ‘What’s the matter?’ He said, ‘One of my contact lens has fallen out!’ He’s a big short-sighted owl. ‘I’ll help you find it,’ I said. ‘No, you can’t find it,’ he said. As the car couldn’t pause at the bridge, he had no choice but to continue driving with an eye.”
Indeed, Eunice tells us a more human BL not Saint BL. Great translation!
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April 10th, 2016, 6:23 am #6

Eunice Lam Yin-Nei (31st January 1943 - ), better known as Peter Lee’s ex-wife and sister-in-law of Bruce Lee, is also a famous HK celebrity, columnist, renowned writer, tv/radio host, producer etc. Eunice graduated from the University of Berkeley (U.S.A.) with a Bachelor's Degree in Genetics and possesses a Master Degree in Chinese Literature from the University of Hong Kong.

Below is a translated article from her Cantonese interview in “Nam Dou Dai Pai Dong” (aka “Small Food Restaurant in Southern City”) in commemorating BL’s 40 anniversary. Eunice shares some rare stories of Bruce with the audience and provides a more human side of Bruce Lee solely from her perspective which is quite different from his widely known silver screen image.

Photos of Eunice Lam: http://postimg.org/image/676louhd7/

Eunice Lam’s family photos: http://postimg.org/image/ykl4fx5ep/

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Part I:
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1.1 The Bruce Lee connections
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“I’ve never felt that I was Bruce’s sister-in-law all the while. Firstly, it was because he was older than me. Secondly, we have been friends for some years before I married his elder brother, Peter Lee. To me, he wasn’t a superstar but just an ordinary human being. From my perspective, he was a defiant, proud yet very hardworking guy with a never-say-die attitude. Also, Bruce was very kind hearted and liked to defend those weaker ones who had suffered injustice. When I first got to know him, I didn’t know that he was a child star in HK. In fact, I only saw his famous childhood movie, “The Orphan” on TV after his death. I think that was his best film. When I first knew him, he was a nobody who possessed nothing. In Seattle, he stayed in a small attic on top of Ruby Chow’s restaurant. I remembered there was a wooden dummy at the patio where he would keep practicing his Wing Chun by hitting it with his fists, yet his joints didn’t seem to be in pain.”

“Back then, Bruce didn’t even own a car and his pocket money was very limited. Yet he brought me for strolls, meals, movies and we got along very well. Of course, he talked a lot, I supposed a hundred times more than I did. No wonder those books which were published after his death, seem so familiar to me. I was surprised to see the texts in those books were exactly the words which he had said to me everyday.”

1.2 Meeting with the dragon
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“I enrolled into the summer class in the University of Washington (note: circa 1961) and his brother, Lee Chung-Sam (Peter Lee) told Bruce to take good care of me (note: Bruce was in Seattle and Peter was in San Francisco then). I didn’t go there alone and I didn’t intend to go to Seattle initially. But the children of my mother’s good friend (one son and two daughters) planned to go to Seattle, so, I accompanied them. We rented an apartment. My mother was quite rest assured because those three siblings were well-behaved holly Christians.”

“After we had settled down in that rented apartment, someone knocked on the door one afternoon. I’ve forgotten who opened the door. Then, a guy stuck his head in from outside the door and glanced through the house. He then quickly introduced himself, ‘Hi! I’m Bruce Lee!’ After introducing to one another and chit-chatting for a while, Bruce brought me out.”

“He didn’t seem to have a sense of strangeness and started to joke as our conversation began. He jovially said, ‘I’m guessing how my brother’s girlfriend looks like? If she is ugly, I’ll immediately turn away and disappear. Anyway, you look okay!’ I thought to myself, What!? Of course, I look okay! Much better than you do. You think you look very handsome? Uhhh….’ At that time, Bruce’s face was full of tiny pimples.”

1.3 A great companion
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“Bruce didn’t like to go back to Ruby Chow’s restaurant and thus, kept me strolling along the street. He would either joke or talked to me about martial arts. Upon reaching a big tree, he suddenly jump and kicked straight up at the leaves. ‘It’s child’s play to break a board. Board is stiff and someone would be holding it in a fixed position. So, it’s easy to break them. But look at those leaves; they are soft and swaying in the wind. They are variable. If I’m able to kick them down, then that’s really something!’ He kicked as he explained. During the meal at a Chinese cook house, I remember his favorite dish was fried beef with onions. He ate a lot and sweat profusely.”

“We then talked about movies. Frankly, I’d never seen a movie which he had mentioned to me. My family and I never watch Cantonese movies in HK, so, I knew nothing about his childhood stardom. This really annoyed him. I knew nothing at all because his elder brother, Chung-Sam (Peter Lee) had never mentioned anything to me about his movie star brother before. Thus, the first day I knew Bruce, he was just a nobody to me. I only found that he was a funny and ordinary youngster. Bruce and I hit off very well. You know, I’m not a person who usually got close very fast with a new friend but it seemed like I had known Bruce for a long time.”

“Bruce told me, ‘There’s an exhibition and I’ve a lady Japanese friend named Takemasu who is looking after a stall. If I bring you there, her face will turn sour.’ So, Bruce really brought me there and that Japanese lady’s face really became awful on the spot. Bruce was very proud then.”

“Bruce usually talked to me about martial arts, philosophy, girls but he never talk about his study. Therefore, if you want him to keep quiet, the best way is to talk to him about his study. This will definitely shut his mouth up.”

“Chung-Sam (Peter) seldom talked about Bruce. He only mentioned that Bruce was too mischievous and had angered some HK people who were ‘untouchable’ (triad society members). Hence, their mother, Grace Lee and father, Lee Hoi-Chuen hastily sent him to his birthplace – San Francisco in the U.S.

“As to how he got to Seattle, I’d no idea. He came to look for me everyday. I was most pleased to hang out with him since he was an active person and there’s no boredom at all. As I was required to attend a 2 hours French lesson only, therefore, I’ve plenty of free time.”

1.4 Dragon with a glib tongue
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“As said earlier, the three friends who stayed with me were the children of my parents’ friends. I got along with the youngest girl very well. She has a second elder brother and an eldest sister. Her eldest sister disliked Bruce as she found him to be too frivolous. Her brother on the other hand, didn’t care much and had no opinions about Bruce. Sometimes, in order to let me go out with him, Bruce would curry favor with the eldest sister and kept sweet-talking to her. He would even sit besides her and discuss bible with her for an hour or two. Bruce was an eloquent fellow but when I saw him sitting down there obediently and talked to the eldest sister very religiously really made me laughed.”

“Bruce really had the ability to easily make friend with whom he liked. The strange thing is he worshipped his elder brother and would often ask me, ‘Among the guys you know, is my brother the most good looking? ‘Is my brother the most outstanding in his study?’ He would not let you give him a negative answer. In fact, both the brothers were only eleven months difference in their age which meant their age gap was very small.”

“Bruce once took me to his small room in the attic of the Ruby Chow’s restaurant. I didn’t find a single book or notebook in his room. As I’d only been to the U.S. for only half a year then and sometimes looked a bit silly and I had never asked Bruce whether he was studying in University of Washington or not. That was school’s summer vacation then and it wasn’t strange for someone not attending classes.”

“Gradually, I found Bruce to be a lonely person. Besides Taky Kimura who opened a grocery store, I didn’t see him hanging around with any male friend. He surely had girlfriends but not permanent ones, just flirting with them only. Not forgetting Bruce had received an order from his elder brother - Peter i.e. to look after his girlfriend - me during the summer vacation.”

1.5 The furious dragon
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“One night, he brought me to a restaurant that played live music. I heard a familiar melody which reminded me about my ex-boyfriend who broke up with me in HK. I felt upset and tears began to roll in my eyes and I became very quiet then. Bruce saw and was very mad. He scolded me, ‘I brought you out here not to miss your ex-boyfriend in front of me!’ From the time I knew him, this was the first time I saw him fumed.”

“The second time he was outraged was because of another incident. One day, my three room mates and I found that the carpet in our rented apartment was old, worn and mold. Hence, we took the initiative to throw it away and put on a new one. However, when the landlord came to collect the rental and saw his old carpet had gone, he was very upset and reprimanded us. He yelled at us and demanded us to return his old carpet. But it had already been thrown away, there’s no way we could return him. He continued to threaten and insult us. Making a fuss for a long time and yet he didn’t want to stop. It looked like he was going to beat us up then.”

“Out of the four, three of us are girls and only the second brother is a guy. Nevertheless, he is a nice guy with a good nature and was almost scared to death by the big, rugged landlord. Desperately, I called Bruce up and told him we had been bullied by the landlord. In a short while, Bruce arrived with a gun in his hand. He stared at the landlord and his brows were drawn together in a frown. He not only scared the landlord out of hell but we were also traumatized by his act. What if he was impulsive and used his gun to kill the landlord? After seeing the gun, the landlord ran the hell out of the apartment as fast as he could. The bully was gone! It was almost evening then and Bruce hadn’t cool down yet. He grabbed the second brother’s collar and admonished him. He rebuked him as gutless, coward and not knowing how to protect girls. He reproached him while the timid second brother kept silence out of fear.”

“The eldest sister had cooked dinner for all of us. At the dinning table, the other two girls and I didn’t know what to do. Second brother was even more embarrassed. He is a rich man’s son who is a well-mannered boy and had never been scolded by anyone in his life before except Bruce. He remained very quiet. The five of us including Bruce, stared at the food on the table without speaking a single word. Quite a while later, Bruce took out a paper and wrote five letters on it: ‘T H I N K’. Then, he passed it over to second brother. Bruce knew he was too reckless just now. He used that as a form of apology to admit his mistake to second brother who accepted the paper with his trembling hands. Finally, we could have our dinner. I had only seen gun in the movie and this time round, someone really came with a gun and rescued us. It was really fun. That was really the immature thinking of a teenage girl then.”

1.6 Martial Arts’ Lone Ranger
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”The summer vacation was 3 months and Bruce had to accompany me throughout the vacation. We talked a lot. He was a Kung Fu fanatic and told me many theories and ideas of martial arts. He said, ‘In those HK action movies, it’s ridiculous to see the actor holding the sword horizontally and exposed his chest widely as it would be vulnerable to attacks.’ ‘Come, clench your fist and let me see,’ he said to me. I did as he instructed. But he laughed at me and said, ‘Why do girls always put their thumbs inside their palms? You will break your thumb first if you were to hit somebody. Remember, put your thumb outside…yeah, that’s right. The distance of striking has to be close, punch from the center line, don’t throw the punch from an arc angle, that will be too slow….You’re not only using the strength from your hand but also, the force from the entire upper body…..’ Bruce also taught me how to kick but when I raised my leg, he would just hold unto it without letting it go. Then, I’d be standing on one leg, hopping slightly for quite a while before he released my leg. Sigh! I’ve really no martial arts talent and always disappoint him.”

“I think that Bruce was a ‘Lone Ranger’ in the path of martial arts in his whole life. He believed that Chinese martial arts shouldn’t be divided into different forms and schools and they would be more powerful once they are united and merged into one. He thought for days and nights and through countless researches, explorations and experimentations which later led him to finally found Jeet Kune Do. Think about it, in an exclusive martial arts circle where various schools do not accept one another, who else would accept Bruce? Even his original Wing Chun School may not be able to accept his revolutionary ideas. He just walked alone. There was only resistance but no encouragement in that path. It is hard to maintain his fortitude beliefs. Furthermore, he had no support from behind to back him up.”

1.7 Babysitting for 90 days
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“Seeing each other everyday, we became ‘hardcore buddies.’ Bruce revealed to me almost everything about himself. He spoke in English more than Cantonese. He didn’t seem to have many Chinese friends. No, I should say he had no friends. I feel the one who treated him the best was his Japanese American friend (note: Taky Kimura) who was very reliable and trustworthy.”

“One day, Bruce and I went to a fun fair. He played the rings and darts’ throwing games and won a prize – a white plush toy doggy. He gave it as a gift to me. But I don’t like plush toy, therefore, I anyhow placed it in the living room. Second brother saw and took it as his pillow. He hugged it during his afternoon nap. Not long later, I received a letter from my mother. Its content was roughly about the eldest sister reporting to my mother about me hanging out with a ‘hooligan.’ I had not much reaction to it. Bruce was a bit arrogant sometimes but I thought he was a good chap. Imagine in my 90 days summer vacation, he had to look after me just like a babysitter, do you think it was an easy task?”

1.8 Cha Cha
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“Bruce gave up teaching me martial arts. He borrowed a car from someone and taught me how to drive. When I turned left or right, he would tell me, ‘Stop the car! You’d damage other’s car by the way you drive. I’d teach you Cha Cha instead.’ He believed Cha Cha was one of his secret skills. One day, he carried a big water-melon (for quenching thirst during breaks) and brought me to an apartment where no one was around. He borrowed the apartment from someone else. After playing the music, he told me to pay attention and listen, ‘Hear that? Open the steps after the sound of the two drums.’ It was not difficult for me to dance but it’s strange to listen to the music so meticulously with the ears. He’s a person who liked to perform and show-off.”

“Once, there was a function which he was invited to perform Cha Cha. He got me to be his dancing partner. I picked the favorite skirt that my ex-HK boyfriend liked most. But Bruce hated that skirt most. ‘Is there anything else? This one doesn’t look good.’ I didn’t bring any suitable skirts to Seattle. Thus, whether he liked it or not, he still had to bear with it and let me wear that skirt.”

“Actually, that Cha Cha performance wasn’t that important and it lasted only several minutes (note: circa 1961 in Chinatown, at Ruby Chow’s husband – Ping Chow’s request; Eunice and Bruce’s names appeared in a local Chinese newspaper which carried report on that event). At that time, Bruce really had not many opportunities, so, when someone requested him to perform Cha Cha, he would be overjoyed. Sometimes, this iron man looked really pitiful. If he didn’t ask me, I definitely wouldn’t dance in this kind of event during interval.”

1.9 Women & sex
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“I continued to stick around with Bruce. We became very good companions. One day, Bruce received a postcard and screamed for help. I asked him what happened. He showed me the postcard. There’s a sentence that says, ‘I’m not dead yet! –- Margaret.’ ‘Who’s she?’ I asked. ‘She’s the Cantonese movie star who is older than me….I lost my virginity to her…,’ Bruce replied. I was curious, ‘What?’ Bruce told me, ‘I was only 14,…you know at the studio one day, only she and me, she dragged me into a room and had sexual relationship with me.’ It seemed he had some female ‘sex tutors’ who were older than him. Talking about another lady actress who used to play weak female role in the movie, Bruce then told me another story, ‘At that time, I was only a young teen, sitting at the long sofa in her home, she said my shirt was too tightly buttoned that made her felt really uncomfortable. So, I took off my shirt. The next thing, you should know what happened…’ ”

“For women whom he just had a fling, Bruce would speak impudently. There was also a female star whom he liked initially but hated eventually. He would comment, ‘She was a slut, a public urinal, anyone could use it. No, I don’t want a public urinal.’ Towards his favorite lady, he would behave like a little boy. There was a lady who was like a dream goddess to him and once she kissed him gently. Bruce was over the moon and rushed to tell his elder brother about it. But there was no touching of hands or legs, nothing (body interaction) really happened. In fact, he would never force the girl whom he really liked and admired to have sexual relationship with him unwillingly. This is the typical Bruce Lee, if he wasn’t able to get his love ones, he would rather write poems, think of them bitterly and miss them from afar. Then, there was another young girl who hung out with Bruce for several months, wrote to him and told him that she enjoyed the ‘fun’ time with him. But Bruce seriously replied to her, ‘I don’t look it this way and I don’t find it ‘fun’ at all!’”

“Bruce was really good at telling stories. With him around, there was no boredom. I was in my late teen years and he was in his early 20s. So, he was more authoritative. I listened to all the stories between him and other women. I’d no special feeling about that. Anyway, I didn’t know who all those HK women or female stars were.”

“Bruce sometimes was a bit naïve. He always thought that he wouldn’t make women pregnant just because he had only one testis as the other one was hid in the intraperitoneal. He showed me to prove it. As a student studying Genetics, I found it to be very normal. I’ve a good knowledge about the human body. I told him with just one testis was enough to create millions of sperms and made a woman pregnant. Whether he believed it or not, I don’t care. As a matter of fact, the content of our chatting regarding this topic actually was not sexual or erotic at all. It really depends on what your mind are thinking. I’m a good listener and that’s why he told me a lot of his personal stuffs. However, I found him to be quite a self-centered person. He thought it was perfectly alright for him to say what he wanted to say but whatever you said which weren’t related to him, he wouldn’t be interested to know.”

1.10 Only respect virtuous ladies
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“Once, Bruce brought me for double rounds movies, i.e. the patron with one ticket were allowed to watch four movies continuously from morning till evening. After the movies, Bruce suddenly recalled something and jumped up from his seat. ‘Oh no, I’d forgotten to pick someone up from the airport!’ Bruce told me he should have gone to the airport to pick up this lady who was two years his senior. Her family had a close tie with the Lee family. The worse thing was that he told that girl to fly from the East Coast to Seattle yet he had forgotten everything. It was getting dark and the girl was so pissed off that he flew to San Francisco.”

“Bruce knew where she would be at and thus, made numerous telephone calls over to apologise and seek her forgiveness. The girl was so exasperated that she couldn’t forgive him. It’s really hard to forgive as if you were to fly from the East Coast for five hours and then see no one to pick you up after waiting for a long, long time. You surely would be infuriated. Bruce was terribly sorry especially she was a virtuous lady. I gradually understood that although Bruce liked women but he really loved and respected virtuous ladies only.”

1.11 The prank master
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“I’ve never seen Bruce working as a waiter in the restaurant before, yet he offered me to become a waitress for a night. He was good at playing pranks on others. I think his greatest joy was making fun of me. The waitress’ job was arranged by him. It was a Saturday. He picked the Cheongsam which he liked most from my cupboard and asked me to wear it to work. The restaurant boss (note: Ruby Chow) saw me and thought I looked presentable, hence, she ordered me to attend to the customers inside a room. She told me to try and persuade the customers to place more orders but the customers didn’t want to order the expensive dishes on the menu. I was a greenhorn and had no experience in dealing with that kind of situation. Then, I glanced and saw that damn Bruce sat right on a chair, laying on the back rest and stretching his legs out and he was laughing at me. I was clumsy in holding the plates, bowls and pouring the soy sauce. Bruce watched me all the way for several hours as if he was watching a comedy and he kept laughing every now and then. The boss was unhappy as the customers had spent too little. I got my hourly pay in the end but I’d forgotten how much I received. It surely wasn’t much. This was the only time that I worked as a waitress in my whole life and thanked to Bruce for his kind recommendation.’”

“One day, Bruce drove a car to pick me up. After driving for a while, he said, ‘I’m not feeling so hot!’ I replied, ‘Yeah, today isn’t that hot.’ Suddenly, he couldn’t stop laughing and said, ‘I mean I’m not feeling too well today, who’s talking to you about the weather?’ After teasing me for not understanding that idiom, he looked as if he was feeling much better. So, we continued our journey. Not long later, he seriously glanced at my skirt and said, ‘Eunice, your skirt is stained.’ I turned to look on my left and then right side of my skirt but couldn’t find any trace of stains. Bruce said, ‘It’s right in the middle of your skirt, you couldn’t see it.’ But I wore a clean skirt that day, how could it be dirty? I wondered. He said, ‘You see, my friend vomited in the car last night and I haven’t clean it, yet you just sat right onto that spot!’ My goodness, he meant there’re remains of vomitus on the seat. I felt really disgusted. He stopped the car at a petrol station. I got up from my seat and was astonished to find something that looked like a lump of nauseating vomitus that stuck onto the seat. Bruce told me, ‘You better go to the washroom at this petrol station and wash the stains off your skirt quickly. I’ll clean the seat.’ Without further delay, I dashed into the station’s washroom. I looked at the mirror to check the left and right sides of my skirt, and then took off my entire skirt to have a clearer look but there wasn’t any stain on it. I was baffled and returned to the car. There, I saw Bruce laughing aloud and in his hand was the plastic vomitus prop that looked like the food residue. He successfully played prank on me again. I was so mad at him that I held my fist and punched him as hard as I could. He held his chest, pretended to be in pain and cried, ‘Oh…it’s so~so painful!....Haha, how you wish, hahaha,… the punch was not good enough even for a massage.’ His body was hard like a rock and I held my hand in pain.”

“Apart from that mischievous act from Bruce, we had an enjoyable car ride and as the night fell, he drove me home. On the way back, I suddenly told Bruce, ‘I want to fire a gun.’ I knew he carried a gun with him. But he asked me, ‘Have you fire before?’ ‘No, but I want to try,’ I said. He then stopped the car, passed me a gun and told me, ‘Now, hold the gun, stretched your hand outside the window and open fire to the sky. But I warn you, it’s not fun if you kill anyone.’ I took the gun and just fired a shot at the sky. ‘BANG!’ It was quiet at night then. We didn’t expect the gunshot to be as loud as an explosion of a cannonball. ‘Hurry! Let’s get out of here!’ After telling me, Bruce quickly stepped onto the accelerator and sped off the car to another place. Actually, the street where I opened fire just now was at a residential area. I wasn’t an adult yet, so, if anyone were to call the police, Bruce and I would be in trouble.”

1.12 His sentimental side
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“Bruce told me about his dream. Besides martial arts, he couldn’t forget about making movies. I always listen to his words attentively. When he didn’t move about, he’s real gentle. Unfortunately, most of his Kung Fu films were filled with plenty of actions and yelling. Thus, the audience didn’t get a chance to watch his quiet side. The words - ‘Kung Fu’ were introduced to the world by Bruce. Kung Fu and Bruce had since become conjoined twins. Back then, his future was unclear and he looked very weary. He once told me, ‘You know, sometimes, in the middle of the night, I would wake up and sit on the bed and cry my heart out.’ I was really surprised to hear that. Who said man doesn’t shed tears? Indeed, Bruce was quite a sentimental person.”

“Moreover, I found that he was a gentle but not euphemistic person. One afternoon, he came to my apartment and only I was around as all my roommates had gone out. It was very warm and he took off his shirt and squat on the floor. I didn’t know what he was thinking. When I saw there were many pimples on his back, I playfully used my hand to touch them. He impatiently said, ‘What’s this? You wanna touch? Then press harder, please. Your touch is like ‘reaching my larynx but not my lung’ (Cantonese words, meaning too mild), really ridiculous! I stopped and didn’t go on any further. It’s true that I’m a bit ridiculous as I just wanted to poke his pimples for fun only.”

Days passed by. I had a very pleasurable and arbitrary summer vacation. Besides his wife, Linda, I think I was the only one who had such a long and innocent time with the pre-famous Bruce Lee. After the summer vacation class ended, I scored an ‘A’ for my French. Bruce intended to study Mandarin but quitted after a lesson. He was unable to pronounce the word “Re” (meaning Hot) in Mandarin. He curled his tongue and tried to pronounce, ‘e….e…what the hell! No more of this shit!’ He cursed and said.”

1.13 From Seattle to San Francisco
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“Finally, the three roommates (siblings) had moved out from our rented apartment and Bruce made a funny face at me and said, ‘They’re moving out, I’m moving in!’ I said, ‘No way!’ I wouldn’t let him move in and play pranks on me all the time. Soon later, I was going to San Francisco to further my study. The flight from Seattle to San Francisco takes about 2 hours. ‘No flying,’ Bruce shook his head and said, ‘I’ll drive you there.’ Okay, I could sight-seeing along the way. However, a car ride from Seattle to San Francisco takes more than 30 hours. I didn’t know where he got a small car from but the car owner stated a condition, i.e.: Need to bring along another passenger who was a middle-age woman to San Francisco.”

“Bruce and I sat in the front seats while the middle-age woman at the back. Driving wasn’t as pleasant as I thought because it was like bathing under the hot sun during the day. When the night fell, Bruce took the wrong road and drove the car up to the hunting area of a hill in Oregon. We didn’t check into any hotel but stayed in the car from morning till night. Bruce became frustrated when he lost his way. I didn’t know how to drive neither did the women at the back. Bruce was the only one who drove from the beginning of the journey to the end. Not to mention about transpassing the states and cities, but sitting in the car for the whole day was really uncomfortable and almost intolerable. As the hot sun rose the next morning, we were heated like roasted dried fishes. In those several dozens hours of journey, the three of us didn’t talk much because the feeling was really unpleasant as we felt like the sardine fish in the can. No, more appropriately, it was like putting the whole can of sardine fish in an oven. At that time, I knew man would easily get frustrated and irritable during the long haul drive.”

“Ultimately, San Francisco was in sight. After passing by my beloved Harbour Bridge, we would be reaching our destination. Most people like Golden Gate Bridge, yet I love Harbour Bridge. It wasn’t straight but it’s a S shape slanting upwards. The sky appeared to be pinkish red during sunset and I felt our car was as if travelling towards the heaven. ‘Oh, no!’ Bruce suddenly shouted while driving passed the bridge. I asked him, ‘What’s the matter?’ He said, ‘One of my contact lens has fallen out!’ He’s a big short-sighted owl. ‘I’ll help you find it,’ I said. ‘No, you can’t find it,’ he said. As the car couldn’t pause at the bridge, he had no choice but to continue driving with an eye.”
1.9 Women & Sex
“Bruce sometimes was a bit naïve. He always thought that he wouldn’t make women pregnant just because he had only one testis as the other one was hid in the intraperitoneal. He showed me to prove it."

Did he or did he not?
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April 10th, 2016, 6:31 am #7

2.4 Dragon whips its tail – beat up four ruffians
"I saw all the ruffians had fallen to the ground, lying in pain and one of them was trying to crawl for his life. Bruce smiled at me and said, ‘Just treat them with my sweep kick!’ I then realized that in a nick of time, Bruce had already launched the attack at the ruffians with his superfast kicking. I’ve repeated this incident which I witnessed personally many times and people would always ask, ‘Was Bruce really that fast?’ I responded, ‘What do you think?’”

So, the long time rumor of Lee saving a Chinese girl was in HK and not in the U.S. Chinatown??

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April 10th, 2016, 8:34 am #8

I think they are two different incidents, one in HK and the other in US. The one is US is probably when an old friend, (who had been a HK film actress)was being bothered by some bullies, and Bruce stepped in. Forget the details; they're probably somewhere here in this site. As for the HK incident, I wonder if the flagpole on Kowloon Star Ferry side is still there. Last time I was there, didn't notice, or saw it and forgot. Possibly the bus stops there have been there circa 1970. I did have sort of a bit of a BL incident there; it was daytime and I was standing in line for the bus, no one there. And then two guys cut in line in front of me. I then stepped over and to the front of the line. Maybe Bruce's spirit had whispered to me, Hey don't let those cats do that!
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April 10th, 2016, 8:38 am #9

Many interesting stories of a young and raw Bruce. Got to see many other sides of Bruce.

Thanks for translating and sharing!!!
Yes, many thanks for this. Makes it seem that Bruce was a childhood buddy, and you're listening to bits of his life. Surprised with his very poetic side. I knew of his artistic side, but haven't paid much attention to the poetry. But, as Musashi taught, one must be a master of many different things, besides martial... like cooking, calligraphy, music, etc. That is one of the 'secret ingredients' for a total martial artist.
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April 10th, 2016, 8:51 am #10

Eunice Lam Yin-Nei (31st January 1943 - ), better known as Peter Lee’s ex-wife and sister-in-law of Bruce Lee, is also a famous HK celebrity, columnist, renowned writer, tv/radio host, producer etc. Eunice graduated from the University of Berkeley (U.S.A.) with a Bachelor's Degree in Genetics and possesses a Master Degree in Chinese Literature from the University of Hong Kong.

Below is a translated article from her Cantonese interview in “Nam Dou Dai Pai Dong” (aka “Small Food Restaurant in Southern City”) in commemorating BL’s 40 anniversary. Eunice shares some rare stories of Bruce with the audience and provides a more human side of Bruce Lee solely from her perspective which is quite different from his widely known silver screen image.

Photos of Eunice Lam: http://postimg.org/image/676louhd7/

Eunice Lam’s family photos: http://postimg.org/image/ykl4fx5ep/

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Part I:
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1.1 The Bruce Lee connections
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“I’ve never felt that I was Bruce’s sister-in-law all the while. Firstly, it was because he was older than me. Secondly, we have been friends for some years before I married his elder brother, Peter Lee. To me, he wasn’t a superstar but just an ordinary human being. From my perspective, he was a defiant, proud yet very hardworking guy with a never-say-die attitude. Also, Bruce was very kind hearted and liked to defend those weaker ones who had suffered injustice. When I first got to know him, I didn’t know that he was a child star in HK. In fact, I only saw his famous childhood movie, “The Orphan” on TV after his death. I think that was his best film. When I first knew him, he was a nobody who possessed nothing. In Seattle, he stayed in a small attic on top of Ruby Chow’s restaurant. I remembered there was a wooden dummy at the patio where he would keep practicing his Wing Chun by hitting it with his fists, yet his joints didn’t seem to be in pain.”

“Back then, Bruce didn’t even own a car and his pocket money was very limited. Yet he brought me for strolls, meals, movies and we got along very well. Of course, he talked a lot, I supposed a hundred times more than I did. No wonder those books which were published after his death, seem so familiar to me. I was surprised to see the texts in those books were exactly the words which he had said to me everyday.”

1.2 Meeting with the dragon
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“I enrolled into the summer class in the University of Washington (note: circa 1961) and his brother, Lee Chung-Sam (Peter Lee) told Bruce to take good care of me (note: Bruce was in Seattle and Peter was in San Francisco then). I didn’t go there alone and I didn’t intend to go to Seattle initially. But the children of my mother’s good friend (one son and two daughters) planned to go to Seattle, so, I accompanied them. We rented an apartment. My mother was quite rest assured because those three siblings were well-behaved holly Christians.”

“After we had settled down in that rented apartment, someone knocked on the door one afternoon. I’ve forgotten who opened the door. Then, a guy stuck his head in from outside the door and glanced through the house. He then quickly introduced himself, ‘Hi! I’m Bruce Lee!’ After introducing to one another and chit-chatting for a while, Bruce brought me out.”

“He didn’t seem to have a sense of strangeness and started to joke as our conversation began. He jovially said, ‘I’m guessing how my brother’s girlfriend looks like? If she is ugly, I’ll immediately turn away and disappear. Anyway, you look okay!’ I thought to myself, What!? Of course, I look okay! Much better than you do. You think you look very handsome? Uhhh….’ At that time, Bruce’s face was full of tiny pimples.”

1.3 A great companion
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“Bruce didn’t like to go back to Ruby Chow’s restaurant and thus, kept me strolling along the street. He would either joke or talked to me about martial arts. Upon reaching a big tree, he suddenly jump and kicked straight up at the leaves. ‘It’s child’s play to break a board. Board is stiff and someone would be holding it in a fixed position. So, it’s easy to break them. But look at those leaves; they are soft and swaying in the wind. They are variable. If I’m able to kick them down, then that’s really something!’ He kicked as he explained. During the meal at a Chinese cook house, I remember his favorite dish was fried beef with onions. He ate a lot and sweat profusely.”

“We then talked about movies. Frankly, I’d never seen a movie which he had mentioned to me. My family and I never watch Cantonese movies in HK, so, I knew nothing about his childhood stardom. This really annoyed him. I knew nothing at all because his elder brother, Chung-Sam (Peter Lee) had never mentioned anything to me about his movie star brother before. Thus, the first day I knew Bruce, he was just a nobody to me. I only found that he was a funny and ordinary youngster. Bruce and I hit off very well. You know, I’m not a person who usually got close very fast with a new friend but it seemed like I had known Bruce for a long time.”

“Bruce told me, ‘There’s an exhibition and I’ve a lady Japanese friend named Takemasu who is looking after a stall. If I bring you there, her face will turn sour.’ So, Bruce really brought me there and that Japanese lady’s face really became awful on the spot. Bruce was very proud then.”

“Bruce usually talked to me about martial arts, philosophy, girls but he never talk about his study. Therefore, if you want him to keep quiet, the best way is to talk to him about his study. This will definitely shut his mouth up.”

“Chung-Sam (Peter) seldom talked about Bruce. He only mentioned that Bruce was too mischievous and had angered some HK people who were ‘untouchable’ (triad society members). Hence, their mother, Grace Lee and father, Lee Hoi-Chuen hastily sent him to his birthplace – San Francisco in the U.S.

“As to how he got to Seattle, I’d no idea. He came to look for me everyday. I was most pleased to hang out with him since he was an active person and there’s no boredom at all. As I was required to attend a 2 hours French lesson only, therefore, I’ve plenty of free time.”

1.4 Dragon with a glib tongue
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“As said earlier, the three friends who stayed with me were the children of my parents’ friends. I got along with the youngest girl very well. She has a second elder brother and an eldest sister. Her eldest sister disliked Bruce as she found him to be too frivolous. Her brother on the other hand, didn’t care much and had no opinions about Bruce. Sometimes, in order to let me go out with him, Bruce would curry favor with the eldest sister and kept sweet-talking to her. He would even sit besides her and discuss bible with her for an hour or two. Bruce was an eloquent fellow but when I saw him sitting down there obediently and talked to the eldest sister very religiously really made me laughed.”

“Bruce really had the ability to easily make friend with whom he liked. The strange thing is he worshipped his elder brother and would often ask me, ‘Among the guys you know, is my brother the most good looking? ‘Is my brother the most outstanding in his study?’ He would not let you give him a negative answer. In fact, both the brothers were only eleven months difference in their age which meant their age gap was very small.”

“Bruce once took me to his small room in the attic of the Ruby Chow’s restaurant. I didn’t find a single book or notebook in his room. As I’d only been to the U.S. for only half a year then and sometimes looked a bit silly and I had never asked Bruce whether he was studying in University of Washington or not. That was school’s summer vacation then and it wasn’t strange for someone not attending classes.”

“Gradually, I found Bruce to be a lonely person. Besides Taky Kimura who opened a grocery store, I didn’t see him hanging around with any male friend. He surely had girlfriends but not permanent ones, just flirting with them only. Not forgetting Bruce had received an order from his elder brother - Peter i.e. to look after his girlfriend - me during the summer vacation.”

1.5 The furious dragon
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“One night, he brought me to a restaurant that played live music. I heard a familiar melody which reminded me about my ex-boyfriend who broke up with me in HK. I felt upset and tears began to roll in my eyes and I became very quiet then. Bruce saw and was very mad. He scolded me, ‘I brought you out here not to miss your ex-boyfriend in front of me!’ From the time I knew him, this was the first time I saw him fumed.”

“The second time he was outraged was because of another incident. One day, my three room mates and I found that the carpet in our rented apartment was old, worn and mold. Hence, we took the initiative to throw it away and put on a new one. However, when the landlord came to collect the rental and saw his old carpet had gone, he was very upset and reprimanded us. He yelled at us and demanded us to return his old carpet. But it had already been thrown away, there’s no way we could return him. He continued to threaten and insult us. Making a fuss for a long time and yet he didn’t want to stop. It looked like he was going to beat us up then.”

“Out of the four, three of us are girls and only the second brother is a guy. Nevertheless, he is a nice guy with a good nature and was almost scared to death by the big, rugged landlord. Desperately, I called Bruce up and told him we had been bullied by the landlord. In a short while, Bruce arrived with a gun in his hand. He stared at the landlord and his brows were drawn together in a frown. He not only scared the landlord out of hell but we were also traumatized by his act. What if he was impulsive and used his gun to kill the landlord? After seeing the gun, the landlord ran the hell out of the apartment as fast as he could. The bully was gone! It was almost evening then and Bruce hadn’t cool down yet. He grabbed the second brother’s collar and admonished him. He rebuked him as gutless, coward and not knowing how to protect girls. He reproached him while the timid second brother kept silence out of fear.”

“The eldest sister had cooked dinner for all of us. At the dinning table, the other two girls and I didn’t know what to do. Second brother was even more embarrassed. He is a rich man’s son who is a well-mannered boy and had never been scolded by anyone in his life before except Bruce. He remained very quiet. The five of us including Bruce, stared at the food on the table without speaking a single word. Quite a while later, Bruce took out a paper and wrote five letters on it: ‘T H I N K’. Then, he passed it over to second brother. Bruce knew he was too reckless just now. He used that as a form of apology to admit his mistake to second brother who accepted the paper with his trembling hands. Finally, we could have our dinner. I had only seen gun in the movie and this time round, someone really came with a gun and rescued us. It was really fun. That was really the immature thinking of a teenage girl then.”

1.6 Martial Arts’ Lone Ranger
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”The summer vacation was 3 months and Bruce had to accompany me throughout the vacation. We talked a lot. He was a Kung Fu fanatic and told me many theories and ideas of martial arts. He said, ‘In those HK action movies, it’s ridiculous to see the actor holding the sword horizontally and exposed his chest widely as it would be vulnerable to attacks.’ ‘Come, clench your fist and let me see,’ he said to me. I did as he instructed. But he laughed at me and said, ‘Why do girls always put their thumbs inside their palms? You will break your thumb first if you were to hit somebody. Remember, put your thumb outside…yeah, that’s right. The distance of striking has to be close, punch from the center line, don’t throw the punch from an arc angle, that will be too slow….You’re not only using the strength from your hand but also, the force from the entire upper body…..’ Bruce also taught me how to kick but when I raised my leg, he would just hold unto it without letting it go. Then, I’d be standing on one leg, hopping slightly for quite a while before he released my leg. Sigh! I’ve really no martial arts talent and always disappoint him.”

“I think that Bruce was a ‘Lone Ranger’ in the path of martial arts in his whole life. He believed that Chinese martial arts shouldn’t be divided into different forms and schools and they would be more powerful once they are united and merged into one. He thought for days and nights and through countless researches, explorations and experimentations which later led him to finally found Jeet Kune Do. Think about it, in an exclusive martial arts circle where various schools do not accept one another, who else would accept Bruce? Even his original Wing Chun School may not be able to accept his revolutionary ideas. He just walked alone. There was only resistance but no encouragement in that path. It is hard to maintain his fortitude beliefs. Furthermore, he had no support from behind to back him up.”

1.7 Babysitting for 90 days
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“Seeing each other everyday, we became ‘hardcore buddies.’ Bruce revealed to me almost everything about himself. He spoke in English more than Cantonese. He didn’t seem to have many Chinese friends. No, I should say he had no friends. I feel the one who treated him the best was his Japanese American friend (note: Taky Kimura) who was very reliable and trustworthy.”

“One day, Bruce and I went to a fun fair. He played the rings and darts’ throwing games and won a prize – a white plush toy doggy. He gave it as a gift to me. But I don’t like plush toy, therefore, I anyhow placed it in the living room. Second brother saw and took it as his pillow. He hugged it during his afternoon nap. Not long later, I received a letter from my mother. Its content was roughly about the eldest sister reporting to my mother about me hanging out with a ‘hooligan.’ I had not much reaction to it. Bruce was a bit arrogant sometimes but I thought he was a good chap. Imagine in my 90 days summer vacation, he had to look after me just like a babysitter, do you think it was an easy task?”

1.8 Cha Cha
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“Bruce gave up teaching me martial arts. He borrowed a car from someone and taught me how to drive. When I turned left or right, he would tell me, ‘Stop the car! You’d damage other’s car by the way you drive. I’d teach you Cha Cha instead.’ He believed Cha Cha was one of his secret skills. One day, he carried a big water-melon (for quenching thirst during breaks) and brought me to an apartment where no one was around. He borrowed the apartment from someone else. After playing the music, he told me to pay attention and listen, ‘Hear that? Open the steps after the sound of the two drums.’ It was not difficult for me to dance but it’s strange to listen to the music so meticulously with the ears. He’s a person who liked to perform and show-off.”

“Once, there was a function which he was invited to perform Cha Cha. He got me to be his dancing partner. I picked the favorite skirt that my ex-HK boyfriend liked most. But Bruce hated that skirt most. ‘Is there anything else? This one doesn’t look good.’ I didn’t bring any suitable skirts to Seattle. Thus, whether he liked it or not, he still had to bear with it and let me wear that skirt.”

“Actually, that Cha Cha performance wasn’t that important and it lasted only several minutes (note: circa 1961 in Chinatown, at Ruby Chow’s husband – Ping Chow’s request; Eunice and Bruce’s names appeared in a local Chinese newspaper which carried report on that event). At that time, Bruce really had not many opportunities, so, when someone requested him to perform Cha Cha, he would be overjoyed. Sometimes, this iron man looked really pitiful. If he didn’t ask me, I definitely wouldn’t dance in this kind of event during interval.”

1.9 Women & sex
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“I continued to stick around with Bruce. We became very good companions. One day, Bruce received a postcard and screamed for help. I asked him what happened. He showed me the postcard. There’s a sentence that says, ‘I’m not dead yet! –- Margaret.’ ‘Who’s she?’ I asked. ‘She’s the Cantonese movie star who is older than me….I lost my virginity to her…,’ Bruce replied. I was curious, ‘What?’ Bruce told me, ‘I was only 14,…you know at the studio one day, only she and me, she dragged me into a room and had sexual relationship with me.’ It seemed he had some female ‘sex tutors’ who were older than him. Talking about another lady actress who used to play weak female role in the movie, Bruce then told me another story, ‘At that time, I was only a young teen, sitting at the long sofa in her home, she said my shirt was too tightly buttoned that made her felt really uncomfortable. So, I took off my shirt. The next thing, you should know what happened…’ ”

“For women whom he just had a fling, Bruce would speak impudently. There was also a female star whom he liked initially but hated eventually. He would comment, ‘She was a slut, a public urinal, anyone could use it. No, I don’t want a public urinal.’ Towards his favorite lady, he would behave like a little boy. There was a lady who was like a dream goddess to him and once she kissed him gently. Bruce was over the moon and rushed to tell his elder brother about it. But there was no touching of hands or legs, nothing (body interaction) really happened. In fact, he would never force the girl whom he really liked and admired to have sexual relationship with him unwillingly. This is the typical Bruce Lee, if he wasn’t able to get his love ones, he would rather write poems, think of them bitterly and miss them from afar. Then, there was another young girl who hung out with Bruce for several months, wrote to him and told him that she enjoyed the ‘fun’ time with him. But Bruce seriously replied to her, ‘I don’t look it this way and I don’t find it ‘fun’ at all!’”

“Bruce was really good at telling stories. With him around, there was no boredom. I was in my late teen years and he was in his early 20s. So, he was more authoritative. I listened to all the stories between him and other women. I’d no special feeling about that. Anyway, I didn’t know who all those HK women or female stars were.”

“Bruce sometimes was a bit naïve. He always thought that he wouldn’t make women pregnant just because he had only one testis as the other one was hid in the intraperitoneal. He showed me to prove it. As a student studying Genetics, I found it to be very normal. I’ve a good knowledge about the human body. I told him with just one testis was enough to create millions of sperms and made a woman pregnant. Whether he believed it or not, I don’t care. As a matter of fact, the content of our chatting regarding this topic actually was not sexual or erotic at all. It really depends on what your mind are thinking. I’m a good listener and that’s why he told me a lot of his personal stuffs. However, I found him to be quite a self-centered person. He thought it was perfectly alright for him to say what he wanted to say but whatever you said which weren’t related to him, he wouldn’t be interested to know.”

1.10 Only respect virtuous ladies
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“Once, Bruce brought me for double rounds movies, i.e. the patron with one ticket were allowed to watch four movies continuously from morning till evening. After the movies, Bruce suddenly recalled something and jumped up from his seat. ‘Oh no, I’d forgotten to pick someone up from the airport!’ Bruce told me he should have gone to the airport to pick up this lady who was two years his senior. Her family had a close tie with the Lee family. The worse thing was that he told that girl to fly from the East Coast to Seattle yet he had forgotten everything. It was getting dark and the girl was so pissed off that he flew to San Francisco.”

“Bruce knew where she would be at and thus, made numerous telephone calls over to apologise and seek her forgiveness. The girl was so exasperated that she couldn’t forgive him. It’s really hard to forgive as if you were to fly from the East Coast for five hours and then see no one to pick you up after waiting for a long, long time. You surely would be infuriated. Bruce was terribly sorry especially she was a virtuous lady. I gradually understood that although Bruce liked women but he really loved and respected virtuous ladies only.”

1.11 The prank master
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“I’ve never seen Bruce working as a waiter in the restaurant before, yet he offered me to become a waitress for a night. He was good at playing pranks on others. I think his greatest joy was making fun of me. The waitress’ job was arranged by him. It was a Saturday. He picked the Cheongsam which he liked most from my cupboard and asked me to wear it to work. The restaurant boss (note: Ruby Chow) saw me and thought I looked presentable, hence, she ordered me to attend to the customers inside a room. She told me to try and persuade the customers to place more orders but the customers didn’t want to order the expensive dishes on the menu. I was a greenhorn and had no experience in dealing with that kind of situation. Then, I glanced and saw that damn Bruce sat right on a chair, laying on the back rest and stretching his legs out and he was laughing at me. I was clumsy in holding the plates, bowls and pouring the soy sauce. Bruce watched me all the way for several hours as if he was watching a comedy and he kept laughing every now and then. The boss was unhappy as the customers had spent too little. I got my hourly pay in the end but I’d forgotten how much I received. It surely wasn’t much. This was the only time that I worked as a waitress in my whole life and thanked to Bruce for his kind recommendation.’”

“One day, Bruce drove a car to pick me up. After driving for a while, he said, ‘I’m not feeling so hot!’ I replied, ‘Yeah, today isn’t that hot.’ Suddenly, he couldn’t stop laughing and said, ‘I mean I’m not feeling too well today, who’s talking to you about the weather?’ After teasing me for not understanding that idiom, he looked as if he was feeling much better. So, we continued our journey. Not long later, he seriously glanced at my skirt and said, ‘Eunice, your skirt is stained.’ I turned to look on my left and then right side of my skirt but couldn’t find any trace of stains. Bruce said, ‘It’s right in the middle of your skirt, you couldn’t see it.’ But I wore a clean skirt that day, how could it be dirty? I wondered. He said, ‘You see, my friend vomited in the car last night and I haven’t clean it, yet you just sat right onto that spot!’ My goodness, he meant there’re remains of vomitus on the seat. I felt really disgusted. He stopped the car at a petrol station. I got up from my seat and was astonished to find something that looked like a lump of nauseating vomitus that stuck onto the seat. Bruce told me, ‘You better go to the washroom at this petrol station and wash the stains off your skirt quickly. I’ll clean the seat.’ Without further delay, I dashed into the station’s washroom. I looked at the mirror to check the left and right sides of my skirt, and then took off my entire skirt to have a clearer look but there wasn’t any stain on it. I was baffled and returned to the car. There, I saw Bruce laughing aloud and in his hand was the plastic vomitus prop that looked like the food residue. He successfully played prank on me again. I was so mad at him that I held my fist and punched him as hard as I could. He held his chest, pretended to be in pain and cried, ‘Oh…it’s so~so painful!....Haha, how you wish, hahaha,… the punch was not good enough even for a massage.’ His body was hard like a rock and I held my hand in pain.”

“Apart from that mischievous act from Bruce, we had an enjoyable car ride and as the night fell, he drove me home. On the way back, I suddenly told Bruce, ‘I want to fire a gun.’ I knew he carried a gun with him. But he asked me, ‘Have you fire before?’ ‘No, but I want to try,’ I said. He then stopped the car, passed me a gun and told me, ‘Now, hold the gun, stretched your hand outside the window and open fire to the sky. But I warn you, it’s not fun if you kill anyone.’ I took the gun and just fired a shot at the sky. ‘BANG!’ It was quiet at night then. We didn’t expect the gunshot to be as loud as an explosion of a cannonball. ‘Hurry! Let’s get out of here!’ After telling me, Bruce quickly stepped onto the accelerator and sped off the car to another place. Actually, the street where I opened fire just now was at a residential area. I wasn’t an adult yet, so, if anyone were to call the police, Bruce and I would be in trouble.”

1.12 His sentimental side
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“Bruce told me about his dream. Besides martial arts, he couldn’t forget about making movies. I always listen to his words attentively. When he didn’t move about, he’s real gentle. Unfortunately, most of his Kung Fu films were filled with plenty of actions and yelling. Thus, the audience didn’t get a chance to watch his quiet side. The words - ‘Kung Fu’ were introduced to the world by Bruce. Kung Fu and Bruce had since become conjoined twins. Back then, his future was unclear and he looked very weary. He once told me, ‘You know, sometimes, in the middle of the night, I would wake up and sit on the bed and cry my heart out.’ I was really surprised to hear that. Who said man doesn’t shed tears? Indeed, Bruce was quite a sentimental person.”

“Moreover, I found that he was a gentle but not euphemistic person. One afternoon, he came to my apartment and only I was around as all my roommates had gone out. It was very warm and he took off his shirt and squat on the floor. I didn’t know what he was thinking. When I saw there were many pimples on his back, I playfully used my hand to touch them. He impatiently said, ‘What’s this? You wanna touch? Then press harder, please. Your touch is like ‘reaching my larynx but not my lung’ (Cantonese words, meaning too mild), really ridiculous! I stopped and didn’t go on any further. It’s true that I’m a bit ridiculous as I just wanted to poke his pimples for fun only.”

Days passed by. I had a very pleasurable and arbitrary summer vacation. Besides his wife, Linda, I think I was the only one who had such a long and innocent time with the pre-famous Bruce Lee. After the summer vacation class ended, I scored an ‘A’ for my French. Bruce intended to study Mandarin but quitted after a lesson. He was unable to pronounce the word “Re” (meaning Hot) in Mandarin. He curled his tongue and tried to pronounce, ‘e….e…what the hell! No more of this shit!’ He cursed and said.”

1.13 From Seattle to San Francisco
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“Finally, the three roommates (siblings) had moved out from our rented apartment and Bruce made a funny face at me and said, ‘They’re moving out, I’m moving in!’ I said, ‘No way!’ I wouldn’t let him move in and play pranks on me all the time. Soon later, I was going to San Francisco to further my study. The flight from Seattle to San Francisco takes about 2 hours. ‘No flying,’ Bruce shook his head and said, ‘I’ll drive you there.’ Okay, I could sight-seeing along the way. However, a car ride from Seattle to San Francisco takes more than 30 hours. I didn’t know where he got a small car from but the car owner stated a condition, i.e.: Need to bring along another passenger who was a middle-age woman to San Francisco.”

“Bruce and I sat in the front seats while the middle-age woman at the back. Driving wasn’t as pleasant as I thought because it was like bathing under the hot sun during the day. When the night fell, Bruce took the wrong road and drove the car up to the hunting area of a hill in Oregon. We didn’t check into any hotel but stayed in the car from morning till night. Bruce became frustrated when he lost his way. I didn’t know how to drive neither did the women at the back. Bruce was the only one who drove from the beginning of the journey to the end. Not to mention about transpassing the states and cities, but sitting in the car for the whole day was really uncomfortable and almost intolerable. As the hot sun rose the next morning, we were heated like roasted dried fishes. In those several dozens hours of journey, the three of us didn’t talk much because the feeling was really unpleasant as we felt like the sardine fish in the can. No, more appropriately, it was like putting the whole can of sardine fish in an oven. At that time, I knew man would easily get frustrated and irritable during the long haul drive.”

“Ultimately, San Francisco was in sight. After passing by my beloved Harbour Bridge, we would be reaching our destination. Most people like Golden Gate Bridge, yet I love Harbour Bridge. It wasn’t straight but it’s a S shape slanting upwards. The sky appeared to be pinkish red during sunset and I felt our car was as if travelling towards the heaven. ‘Oh, no!’ Bruce suddenly shouted while driving passed the bridge. I asked him, ‘What’s the matter?’ He said, ‘One of my contact lens has fallen out!’ He’s a big short-sighted owl. ‘I’ll help you find it,’ I said. ‘No, you can’t find it,’ he said. As the car couldn’t pause at the bridge, he had no choice but to continue driving with an eye.”
I enjoy reading the article.

The part I like most is the following:

"This was the real Bruce with blood and flesh. He walked alone in the path that filled with lots of obstacles. He was left in the cold, faced with many failures until his heart was bleeding. But he never give up, never slack off or idle. Bruce overcame the dark moments in his life and continued to be alive and kicking. He practiced martial arts daily and believed he was the best. He never grumbled nor doubted life too much. These two special traits enormously helped him to walk his way steadfastly."
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