999evo
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12:24 PM - Feb 27, 2018 #11

Hi Brad

Gutted to hear your story it is very much like my own!

It’s not the end of your life buddy just a new beginning in a different way

I can’t use my hand but can use my arm and I have lived with this injury for 20 years this year :o

Once you get over the shock 2 years ish it took me you will find a way to go on as that’s all you can do, it took a long time to accept myself the way I am now and that is Very liberating I have to say

I can do almost anything I did b4 my accident as I have learned never to be beaten by anything YOU HAVE TO LEAN YOU CAN STILL DO ANYTHING YOU SET YOUR MIND TO.

at the time of my accident I was a butcher, since then I I have owned 5 companies and now web development manager of one of the uks largest car parts supplier.

3 things that changed me

1) I met a guy TOM with the same injury who was once a builder who after his accident ( total no use of his right arm ) walked into a law firm and asked for a job with no Legal skills, now he is a partner, he married a nurse and has a lovely family. In 30 mins with him I learned to tie my laces with one hand and showed me his car and how it was adapted. It woke me up that if he can do it I have a shot

2) I found “Anthony Robbins Get the edge” google him it changed everything for me, he will get your head right and help in ways you don’t understand within a week!

3) talk to your wife tell her everything she is your best support I was 19 when I had my accident and I’m still with the same amazing woman, we have 3 children my oldest girl was just 3 months old when I had the accident I can still be the best dad that ever lived

I’m sure now you like the rest of the people who has survived this has learned life is short, for me that was the best gift I got from all the shit and mind blowing pain I still get from time to time ( it’s gets normal fast u will adapt ) don’t wast another moment

FOR ME ITS THE WORST ... BEST THING THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO ME, I now live life with passion and enjoy my second chance

By the way i have been driving Mitsubishi evo’s for last 15 year and it’s way more fun and safer than a bike

Your welcome to get in touch, I your my first reply on here as you remind me of me

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12:36 AM - Mar 12, 2018 #12

Hey Brad!  How are you?  My name is Derek and I can relate to your situation.  I was in a single car accident in San Antonio, Texas in 2006 when my SUV slid across black ice, hit the highway median and flipped over.  I thought I had control of the vehicle even though I hit the median and have no recollection of flipping over.  I had retired from the military just 6 months earlier and was rushed to a nearby military hospital.  I didn't understand the gravity of the situation when I was told I may never be able to use my right arm.  In my mind, I was telling myself I would recover over time.  I had no family in Texas so when I was released from the hospital, my family came and took me to my hometown of  Baltimore.  There I continued treatment with the VA for about a year but nothing was improving my situation.  They had me on codeine, morphine and pregabalin (Lyrica) that left me constipated and feeling anxious.  I learned that the best treatment for avulsed nerves had to be done within a year of the injury and I was over that.  I felt like I wasn't getting information fast enough from the VA and I felt they were incompetent and made me miss a possible chance of a better recovery.  Finally, they had me see a neurosurgeon at John Hopkins.  At the time, I could lower my right arm but I couldn't raise it.  He decided to do a nerve transfer that allowed me to raise my arm to chest level but it took away the ability to lower it.  The doctor said I could allow gravity to pull the arm down.  This did provide me with more use of my right arm.  Six months later I had a procedure on my right hand but I don't think it changed anything.  I've always had some decent use of my right hand but I had severe pain in my thumb and the finger next to it.  Over time, the pain has become less but at times I get a feeling of numbness and the hand will feel cold.  I totally stopped taking the codeine and morphine.  I felt addicted and it took me a while to get off that stuff.  I am able to control my pain with just the Lyrica. And like you said, the muscle tone in my arm has wasted away because I really can't raise my arm at the shoulder.  I was naturally right handed so it was a big problem.  I had to learn to use my left hand and I did.  Man, just hang in there.  You can do this!  This situation made me take notice of other people.  I realized others are going through different things and I stop asking why me?  This is a challenge for us and I am grateful it's not life threatening.
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