Braless as a Means of Control

Braless as a Means of Control

William
William

January 8th, 2005, 5:20 am #1

Both in fiction and in real life, I have heard/read about men in abusive or kinky relationships who forced their wives to go braless.

For example, In the movie Sleeping With The Enemy, Julia Roberts' character was forced to go braless by an abusive husband.

Dorothy Stratton, who was murdered by her husband, had to go braless on his say so.

I've also read a book about a couple in a hard core D/S relationship (fictional), in which the man forbade his wife to wear a bra.

My point being, rather it's real or fictional or abusive or consensual, is there something about male dominance in which he wants the woman to do this?
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Nat
Joined: January 1st, 1970, 12:00 am

January 8th, 2005, 5:45 am #2

I suppose there are some like that. But then there are many who are zealously jealous and refuse to let their wives go braless because they are afraid it will attract other men. So you can't really generalize about something like this.
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Pat
Pat

January 8th, 2005, 6:01 am #3

I agree totally with Nat. There are way many more men who conservatively restrict what their wives wear, rather than coerce them into shedding a bra. Another thought is that for many women, when they get home from work the first thing they want to do is get rid of that bra. Thus, its a comfort and health issue in more cases than it is a power issue.
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JB
JB

January 8th, 2005, 5:16 pm #4

Both in fiction and in real life, I have heard/read about men in abusive or kinky relationships who forced their wives to go braless.

For example, In the movie Sleeping With The Enemy, Julia Roberts' character was forced to go braless by an abusive husband.

Dorothy Stratton, who was murdered by her husband, had to go braless on his say so.

I've also read a book about a couple in a hard core D/S relationship (fictional), in which the man forbade his wife to wear a bra.

My point being, rather it's real or fictional or abusive or consensual, is there something about male dominance in which he wants the woman to do this?
There are men like that, whether it is making the wife go braless or telling her she can't have friends or that she can't work. I don't think there are too many of the latter now.
Perhaps a man like that has a belief that going braless is somehow demeaning and since he wishes to demean the woman, that is how he does it. After all, it leaves no marks or bruises.
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Nat
Joined: January 1st, 1970, 12:00 am

January 8th, 2005, 6:38 pm #5

Or the man could be very proud of his wife's breasts and enjoys showing them off.
Like driving around town in a shinney new car to impress your friends.
There's no figuring out something like this.
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Tina
Tina

January 9th, 2005, 7:36 pm #6

Both in fiction and in real life, I have heard/read about men in abusive or kinky relationships who forced their wives to go braless.

For example, In the movie Sleeping With The Enemy, Julia Roberts' character was forced to go braless by an abusive husband.

Dorothy Stratton, who was murdered by her husband, had to go braless on his say so.

I've also read a book about a couple in a hard core D/S relationship (fictional), in which the man forbade his wife to wear a bra.

My point being, rather it's real or fictional or abusive or consensual, is there something about male dominance in which he wants the woman to do this?
I found out pretty quickly after we started going out that my now hubby expected me to go without a bra (and other things) at all times. We've been together for eight years now and it can be a constant challenge depending on what I'm wearing and what I'm doing. The most embarrassing part for me is the fact that everyone in our circle of friends knows about this because a previous girlfriend had blabbed to them about his rules and it's not hard to tell that I'm always braless, especially when it's COLD !
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Nat
Joined: January 1st, 1970, 12:00 am

January 9th, 2005, 8:24 pm #7

Why not tell your "friends" how grateful you are that your BF introduced you to the comfort of brafreedom. Perhaps they should try it.
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Pat
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January 11th, 2005, 2:06 am #8

I found out pretty quickly after we started going out that my now hubby expected me to go without a bra (and other things) at all times. We've been together for eight years now and it can be a constant challenge depending on what I'm wearing and what I'm doing. The most embarrassing part for me is the fact that everyone in our circle of friends knows about this because a previous girlfriend had blabbed to them about his rules and it's not hard to tell that I'm always braless, especially when it's COLD !
Perhaps turnabout is fair play. It would be interesting to hear his reaction to your demands that he go "commando" and also wear pants that are, in the words of a famous rock star, "tight enough so they can't just tell your sex, but also your religion."
I still think that a poll would show that a higher percentage of men try to make their wives wear bras than try to make them go brafree [and it is a particularly tragic situation with women that have fibrocystic pain]. But the point is well taken that breast freedom is the freedom to wear or not wear as one wants.
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Nat
Joined: January 1st, 1970, 12:00 am

January 11th, 2005, 2:35 am #9

Well this is a tricky thing. I think when a couple marries there is certain compromises they make to each other's tastes. Just as in love making, one partner may have certain 'turns-ons' (fetishes) that his partner is willing to accommodate. I think this can go for dress and appearance too- a certain hair style or fashion. It's just hard to say what is a reasonable accommodation and what is over the line.
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JB
JB

January 11th, 2005, 2:38 am #10

Or the man could be very proud of his wife's breasts and enjoys showing them off.
Like driving around town in a shinney new car to impress your friends.
There's no figuring out something like this.
There is a big difference though. A car is a thing, it is property, women are not.
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