Update on the CrazyLady (death of spouse, DE failure, and embryo adoption mentioned)

Update on the CrazyLady (death of spouse, DE failure, and embryo adoption mentioned)

Joined: July 4th, 2011, 3:21 am

February 10th, 2012, 3:21 am #1

Hello, dear ladies!

I have lurked some in the last few months, but only posted a little.

After my final (heartbreaking) DE cycle using my deceased husband's sperm I went to Mexico for a few weeks, which was a nice break from all the snow up here.

After stepping away from TTC for a little while, my heart still really wants to be a mom and give that gift of life to another person and be a family with them. "They" say I'm a good candidate for "embryo donation" (However, I call it "embryo adoption", because I don't think anyone can donate a human being).

I've been through a battery of tests to make sure my uterus can be a happy home for embies. I've spent the past two days recovering from the final test, a hysteroscopy, to remove some polyps they saw in the saline ultrasound.

I am feeling a little unsure, a little scared, and more than a little like... well... a CrazyLady!

Do I dare try this?

I will be 43 in a few weeks. I will most likely be single for the rest of my life. I've never spent any time with kids, why on earth do I think I'll know how to care for one or even like/love one? I've been trying to become a mother for so long... so do I keep trying just to prove I can do it or do I keep trying because I really want this in my life??

And, here's the kicker... is it selfish to TRY - ON PURPOSE - to become a single mother? Is that what's best for "my" child, any child? I don't know.

I have a wonderful clinic that is working with me to match me with some embies (I can start working with their embryo adoption person on Tuesday) and/or two other ladies have generously offered to let me consider adopting there frozen embies.

What a journey! I don't really expect anyone to have the answers... but it sure felt good to vent!

Hugs,

CL
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Denise
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February 10th, 2012, 3:50 am #2

Go for it and best of luck!!
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Joined: October 9th, 2008, 2:53 am

February 10th, 2012, 4:02 am #3

Hello, dear ladies!

I have lurked some in the last few months, but only posted a little.

After my final (heartbreaking) DE cycle using my deceased husband's sperm I went to Mexico for a few weeks, which was a nice break from all the snow up here.

After stepping away from TTC for a little while, my heart still really wants to be a mom and give that gift of life to another person and be a family with them. "They" say I'm a good candidate for "embryo donation" (However, I call it "embryo adoption", because I don't think anyone can donate a human being).

I've been through a battery of tests to make sure my uterus can be a happy home for embies. I've spent the past two days recovering from the final test, a hysteroscopy, to remove some polyps they saw in the saline ultrasound.

I am feeling a little unsure, a little scared, and more than a little like... well... a CrazyLady!

Do I dare try this?

I will be 43 in a few weeks. I will most likely be single for the rest of my life. I've never spent any time with kids, why on earth do I think I'll know how to care for one or even like/love one? I've been trying to become a mother for so long... so do I keep trying just to prove I can do it or do I keep trying because I really want this in my life??

And, here's the kicker... is it selfish to TRY - ON PURPOSE - to become a single mother? Is that what's best for "my" child, any child? I don't know.

I have a wonderful clinic that is working with me to match me with some embies (I can start working with their embryo adoption person on Tuesday) and/or two other ladies have generously offered to let me consider adopting there frozen embies.

What a journey! I don't really expect anyone to have the answers... but it sure felt good to vent!

Hugs,

CL
Hello again (got your email just now btw
It all sounds very good for you. I know you have doubts about stuff. I think we all do. I was a single person when I began this journey and I had the same thoughts. You don't know what will happen in the future CL you could meet someone. I"m just putting that out there You just never know
Just keep making appointments and going to them, get your babe on the way and take it from there.
I think all new mom's are flying by the seat of their pants and don't know what to do I sure was. But you have the ladies here of course and friends to help with advice. You will be ok. It will all be ok just go down the road and see where it leads petal Its all waiting for you.
thinking of you best wishes and rest up for a few days ok, THK
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Joined: May 19th, 2009, 6:07 am

February 10th, 2012, 4:13 am #4

Hello, dear ladies!

I have lurked some in the last few months, but only posted a little.

After my final (heartbreaking) DE cycle using my deceased husband's sperm I went to Mexico for a few weeks, which was a nice break from all the snow up here.

After stepping away from TTC for a little while, my heart still really wants to be a mom and give that gift of life to another person and be a family with them. "They" say I'm a good candidate for "embryo donation" (However, I call it "embryo adoption", because I don't think anyone can donate a human being).

I've been through a battery of tests to make sure my uterus can be a happy home for embies. I've spent the past two days recovering from the final test, a hysteroscopy, to remove some polyps they saw in the saline ultrasound.

I am feeling a little unsure, a little scared, and more than a little like... well... a CrazyLady!

Do I dare try this?

I will be 43 in a few weeks. I will most likely be single for the rest of my life. I've never spent any time with kids, why on earth do I think I'll know how to care for one or even like/love one? I've been trying to become a mother for so long... so do I keep trying just to prove I can do it or do I keep trying because I really want this in my life??

And, here's the kicker... is it selfish to TRY - ON PURPOSE - to become a single mother? Is that what's best for "my" child, any child? I don't know.

I have a wonderful clinic that is working with me to match me with some embies (I can start working with their embryo adoption person on Tuesday) and/or two other ladies have generously offered to let me consider adopting there frozen embies.

What a journey! I don't really expect anyone to have the answers... but it sure felt good to vent!

Hugs,

CL
Sounds like you are well prepared.
GL,
Cranberry (another single)
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Joined: June 28th, 2008, 7:01 pm

February 10th, 2012, 4:55 am #5

Hello, dear ladies!

I have lurked some in the last few months, but only posted a little.

After my final (heartbreaking) DE cycle using my deceased husband's sperm I went to Mexico for a few weeks, which was a nice break from all the snow up here.

After stepping away from TTC for a little while, my heart still really wants to be a mom and give that gift of life to another person and be a family with them. "They" say I'm a good candidate for "embryo donation" (However, I call it "embryo adoption", because I don't think anyone can donate a human being).

I've been through a battery of tests to make sure my uterus can be a happy home for embies. I've spent the past two days recovering from the final test, a hysteroscopy, to remove some polyps they saw in the saline ultrasound.

I am feeling a little unsure, a little scared, and more than a little like... well... a CrazyLady!

Do I dare try this?

I will be 43 in a few weeks. I will most likely be single for the rest of my life. I've never spent any time with kids, why on earth do I think I'll know how to care for one or even like/love one? I've been trying to become a mother for so long... so do I keep trying just to prove I can do it or do I keep trying because I really want this in my life??

And, here's the kicker... is it selfish to TRY - ON PURPOSE - to become a single mother? Is that what's best for "my" child, any child? I don't know.

I have a wonderful clinic that is working with me to match me with some embies (I can start working with their embryo adoption person on Tuesday) and/or two other ladies have generously offered to let me consider adopting there frozen embies.

What a journey! I don't really expect anyone to have the answers... but it sure felt good to vent!

Hugs,

CL
Hi CrazyLady. Thanks for the update, and I wish you luck on your future cycle. Btw, I don't think it is crazy or selfish at all for you to want and have a child. There are all kinds of families, and as long as the family unit is filled with love, that will meet the needs of your child. At least that is what I believe, I don't want to start any debates here.

Good luck. Oh, and there are quite a few of us SMCs on these DE boards.
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Joined: September 26th, 2008, 9:06 pm

February 10th, 2012, 6:39 am #6

Hello, dear ladies!

I have lurked some in the last few months, but only posted a little.

After my final (heartbreaking) DE cycle using my deceased husband's sperm I went to Mexico for a few weeks, which was a nice break from all the snow up here.

After stepping away from TTC for a little while, my heart still really wants to be a mom and give that gift of life to another person and be a family with them. "They" say I'm a good candidate for "embryo donation" (However, I call it "embryo adoption", because I don't think anyone can donate a human being).

I've been through a battery of tests to make sure my uterus can be a happy home for embies. I've spent the past two days recovering from the final test, a hysteroscopy, to remove some polyps they saw in the saline ultrasound.

I am feeling a little unsure, a little scared, and more than a little like... well... a CrazyLady!

Do I dare try this?

I will be 43 in a few weeks. I will most likely be single for the rest of my life. I've never spent any time with kids, why on earth do I think I'll know how to care for one or even like/love one? I've been trying to become a mother for so long... so do I keep trying just to prove I can do it or do I keep trying because I really want this in my life??

And, here's the kicker... is it selfish to TRY - ON PURPOSE - to become a single mother? Is that what's best for "my" child, any child? I don't know.

I have a wonderful clinic that is working with me to match me with some embies (I can start working with their embryo adoption person on Tuesday) and/or two other ladies have generously offered to let me consider adopting there frozen embies.

What a journey! I don't really expect anyone to have the answers... but it sure felt good to vent!

Hugs,

CL
And to know you're getting by.

I'm not single, but was 43 when I finally conceived after 8 years and numerous cycles. I certainly haven't felt too old, but we'll see when she's a teenager someday!

I definitely do not think it's selfish to want to be a mother and I hope you find success.

(Just wanted to point out why most of us say 'embryo donation.' 'Embryo adoption' is usually used by the people who want to make IVF illegal. They claim that because embryos may be destroyed, the procedure should be banned. This is something that worries me.)

I wish you the very best of luck.
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Joined: February 6th, 2007, 1:08 am

February 10th, 2012, 10:45 am #7

Hello, dear ladies!

I have lurked some in the last few months, but only posted a little.

After my final (heartbreaking) DE cycle using my deceased husband's sperm I went to Mexico for a few weeks, which was a nice break from all the snow up here.

After stepping away from TTC for a little while, my heart still really wants to be a mom and give that gift of life to another person and be a family with them. "They" say I'm a good candidate for "embryo donation" (However, I call it "embryo adoption", because I don't think anyone can donate a human being).

I've been through a battery of tests to make sure my uterus can be a happy home for embies. I've spent the past two days recovering from the final test, a hysteroscopy, to remove some polyps they saw in the saline ultrasound.

I am feeling a little unsure, a little scared, and more than a little like... well... a CrazyLady!

Do I dare try this?

I will be 43 in a few weeks. I will most likely be single for the rest of my life. I've never spent any time with kids, why on earth do I think I'll know how to care for one or even like/love one? I've been trying to become a mother for so long... so do I keep trying just to prove I can do it or do I keep trying because I really want this in my life??

And, here's the kicker... is it selfish to TRY - ON PURPOSE - to become a single mother? Is that what's best for "my" child, any child? I don't know.

I have a wonderful clinic that is working with me to match me with some embies (I can start working with their embryo adoption person on Tuesday) and/or two other ladies have generously offered to let me consider adopting there frozen embies.

What a journey! I don't really expect anyone to have the answers... but it sure felt good to vent!

Hugs,

CL
But my dh died when I was 6 months pregnant. I can fully understand you wanting a baby, it's not selfish, your baby will understand when he/she is older and you really deserve and need someone to love. it certainly makes life worth living. ((()))
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February 10th, 2012, 11:49 am #8

Death of spouse mentoned above nt
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samys
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February 10th, 2012, 2:31 pm #9

Hello, dear ladies!

I have lurked some in the last few months, but only posted a little.

After my final (heartbreaking) DE cycle using my deceased husband's sperm I went to Mexico for a few weeks, which was a nice break from all the snow up here.

After stepping away from TTC for a little while, my heart still really wants to be a mom and give that gift of life to another person and be a family with them. "They" say I'm a good candidate for "embryo donation" (However, I call it "embryo adoption", because I don't think anyone can donate a human being).

I've been through a battery of tests to make sure my uterus can be a happy home for embies. I've spent the past two days recovering from the final test, a hysteroscopy, to remove some polyps they saw in the saline ultrasound.

I am feeling a little unsure, a little scared, and more than a little like... well... a CrazyLady!

Do I dare try this?

I will be 43 in a few weeks. I will most likely be single for the rest of my life. I've never spent any time with kids, why on earth do I think I'll know how to care for one or even like/love one? I've been trying to become a mother for so long... so do I keep trying just to prove I can do it or do I keep trying because I really want this in my life??

And, here's the kicker... is it selfish to TRY - ON PURPOSE - to become a single mother? Is that what's best for "my" child, any child? I don't know.

I have a wonderful clinic that is working with me to match me with some embies (I can start working with their embryo adoption person on Tuesday) and/or two other ladies have generously offered to let me consider adopting there frozen embies.

What a journey! I don't really expect anyone to have the answers... but it sure felt good to vent!

Hugs,

CL
Not selfish at all. I have also always wanted to be a mother, and I still would have tried (with or without a husband). Best of luck to you in building your family! I think you'll find lots of support on these boards, and in real life as well
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February 10th, 2012, 3:01 pm #10

And to know you're getting by.

I'm not single, but was 43 when I finally conceived after 8 years and numerous cycles. I certainly haven't felt too old, but we'll see when she's a teenager someday!

I definitely do not think it's selfish to want to be a mother and I hope you find success.

(Just wanted to point out why most of us say 'embryo donation.' 'Embryo adoption' is usually used by the people who want to make IVF illegal. They claim that because embryos may be destroyed, the procedure should be banned. This is something that worries me.)

I wish you the very best of luck.
and for the support, TSB...

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