The Tell/No Tell Survey

The Tell/No Tell Survey

Joined: January 15th, 2008, 1:22 am

November 19th, 2010, 1:08 am #1

Yesterday there was an interesting thread in response to a Huffington Post piece in which a doctor came out strongly against the "no tell" approach to DE. An interesting discussion ensued in which we were trying to determine how the board split on the topic. We all figured it was about 50-50 but I thought it would be a fun idea to find out. If you click the link below it will take you to a simple one question survey. It is completely anonymous, and hosted on a different website. I will post the results for everyone to see.

Here is the link:

http://www.zoomerang.com/Survey/WEB22BHS5X7MB7/

Baby Blessings,
Jordee

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Joined: February 6th, 2008, 8:16 pm

November 19th, 2010, 1:24 am #2

Thanks for doing this. I am so interested in this topic.

I think everybody just wants to do what is best for their family- that is what motivates us to tell or not tell. I answered the survey as "tell" but I am not "tell" to the whole world- just the kid, my immediate family and 2 close friends. But I am pretty selective about it... I am no tell to other close friends, work colleagues, the pediatrician, my Dr.s (except RE), neighbors, etc...
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Joined: November 19th, 2010, 2:06 am

November 19th, 2010, 2:14 am #3

Yesterday there was an interesting thread in response to a Huffington Post piece in which a doctor came out strongly against the "no tell" approach to DE. An interesting discussion ensued in which we were trying to determine how the board split on the topic. We all figured it was about 50-50 but I thought it would be a fun idea to find out. If you click the link below it will take you to a simple one question survey. It is completely anonymous, and hosted on a different website. I will post the results for everyone to see.

Here is the link:

http://www.zoomerang.com/Survey/WEB22BHS5X7MB7/

Baby Blessings,
Jordee

sorry duplicate posting!
Last edited by min24 on November 19th, 2010, 2:15 am, edited 1 time in total.
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Joined: November 19th, 2010, 2:06 am

November 19th, 2010, 2:15 am #4

Yesterday there was an interesting thread in response to a Huffington Post piece in which a doctor came out strongly against the "no tell" approach to DE. An interesting discussion ensued in which we were trying to determine how the board split on the topic. We all figured it was about 50-50 but I thought it would be a fun idea to find out. If you click the link below it will take you to a simple one question survey. It is completely anonymous, and hosted on a different website. I will post the results for everyone to see.

Here is the link:

http://www.zoomerang.com/Survey/WEB22BHS5X7MB7/

Baby Blessings,
Jordee

I was on this board briefly a few years ago. i have 3 children via deivf. i used to be no tell, but unfortunately i had married the wrong person; he started telling my children i'm not their real mother; i'm almost out of the marriage now, but now almost everyone knows. so i was forced to be tell.
i was no tell mainly because i wished to protect my children from possible unkind remarks from people with different beliefs and attitudes.

this board is wonderful. i'm a lurker, but just had to chime in on this one.

good luck to all! and if god forbid anyone should every say you're not the real mother, just ask - then who is?
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Joined: December 4th, 2007, 6:59 pm

November 19th, 2010, 2:24 am #5

I'm so sorry you're having to endure that. I am currently separated from my husband and, as it looks like right now, heading towards divorce. So far he hasn't mentioned the DE aspect to anyone (we're 100% no-tell) and it scares me that I have no control over it. I feel like I'll keep waiting for that shoe to drop.

Many many hugs to you!!!



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Me: 32 y/o & currently separated since Jan 2010 after nine years together. (I have full custody).

He admitted to an affair - devastated.

* TTC #1 together (my first) since 3/04, not preventing since 11/01. POF at 22 y/ FSH: 130 at dx.
* 1st DE cycle in April '08. Frozen on day 6: 4 grade two & 2 grade three blasts.

Healthy BOY and GIRL were born healthy in Nov 2008!

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Joined: November 19th, 2006, 8:22 pm

November 19th, 2010, 2:27 am #6

Yesterday there was an interesting thread in response to a Huffington Post piece in which a doctor came out strongly against the "no tell" approach to DE. An interesting discussion ensued in which we were trying to determine how the board split on the topic. We all figured it was about 50-50 but I thought it would be a fun idea to find out. If you click the link below it will take you to a simple one question survey. It is completely anonymous, and hosted on a different website. I will post the results for everyone to see.

Here is the link:

http://www.zoomerang.com/Survey/WEB22BHS5X7MB7/

Baby Blessings,
Jordee

Wish there was another option:

"I am limited tell" - I tell my kids and close family and friends but no-one else needs to know. So, I marked "tell".

Pinkduck
Me:47 DH:48 and 4 DE kids

http://bulletpointparenting.blogspot.com/

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Joined: February 9th, 2008, 3:37 am

November 19th, 2010, 2:34 am #7

Yesterday there was an interesting thread in response to a Huffington Post piece in which a doctor came out strongly against the "no tell" approach to DE. An interesting discussion ensued in which we were trying to determine how the board split on the topic. We all figured it was about 50-50 but I thought it would be a fun idea to find out. If you click the link below it will take you to a simple one question survey. It is completely anonymous, and hosted on a different website. I will post the results for everyone to see.

Here is the link:

http://www.zoomerang.com/Survey/WEB22BHS5X7MB7/

Baby Blessings,
Jordee

I am mostly no tell because of DH but of my of my choice would be tell to my DS and DD!my grown children know and my MIL!

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Joined: January 1st, 2007, 1:05 am

November 19th, 2010, 2:37 am #8

Yesterday there was an interesting thread in response to a Huffington Post piece in which a doctor came out strongly against the "no tell" approach to DE. An interesting discussion ensued in which we were trying to determine how the board split on the topic. We all figured it was about 50-50 but I thought it would be a fun idea to find out. If you click the link below it will take you to a simple one question survey. It is completely anonymous, and hosted on a different website. I will post the results for everyone to see.

Here is the link:

http://www.zoomerang.com/Survey/WEB22BHS5X7MB7/

Baby Blessings,
Jordee

Do I put no tell or undecided? Thanks for doing this!


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Joined: December 2nd, 2005, 3:49 pm

November 19th, 2010, 2:55 am #9

Yesterday there was an interesting thread in response to a Huffington Post piece in which a doctor came out strongly against the "no tell" approach to DE. An interesting discussion ensued in which we were trying to determine how the board split on the topic. We all figured it was about 50-50 but I thought it would be a fun idea to find out. If you click the link below it will take you to a simple one question survey. It is completely anonymous, and hosted on a different website. I will post the results for everyone to see.

Here is the link:

http://www.zoomerang.com/Survey/WEB22BHS5X7MB7/

Baby Blessings,
Jordee

Just voted. Thanks! nt
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Joined: November 13th, 2010, 12:42 am

November 19th, 2010, 3:03 am #10

Yesterday there was an interesting thread in response to a Huffington Post piece in which a doctor came out strongly against the "no tell" approach to DE. An interesting discussion ensued in which we were trying to determine how the board split on the topic. We all figured it was about 50-50 but I thought it would be a fun idea to find out. If you click the link below it will take you to a simple one question survey. It is completely anonymous, and hosted on a different website. I will post the results for everyone to see.

Here is the link:

http://www.zoomerang.com/Survey/WEB22BHS5X7MB7/

Baby Blessings,
Jordee

I know there are several other on this this board who are taking the same approach as I am, i.e., to tell the child when she is ready to handle the info and then let her share that information once she understands privacy, etc.

I don't think option 3 really covers that. We're not really planning to tell anyone, unless it gets out via her by accident.
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