POLL: How many of you wonderful Ladies are in your upper forties??? and

POLL: How many of you wonderful Ladies are in your upper forties??? and

Anonymous
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May 8th, 2012, 3:45 pm #1



how is your health??

Thinking of trying another FET/donor getting very nervous, excitied and worried about age, health ect.......

Could use some encouraging words!!
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Joined: September 13th, 2008, 5:13 pm

May 8th, 2012, 4:33 pm #2

Actually a month shy of my 49th birthday. It helped that I had no major health problems going into the process, although I did have some mild arthritis in my feet. As long as your health is generally good, your BMI is normal or near, and you get adequate exercise to keep your legs, abdominals, and back strong, you should be fine.

As for the cultural head trip on older motherhood, you're just going to have to make like a duck and let it wash off your back. It's none of anyone's business when and how you decide to have kids.

Good luck!

Maggie (in VA)
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GulfGal
GulfGal

May 8th, 2012, 5:18 pm #3


how is your health??

Thinking of trying another FET/donor getting very nervous, excitied and worried about age, health ect.......

Could use some encouraging words!!
They sent me to a MFM because of my age and carrying twins, but I was/am in good health, so I didn't end up with any of the complications they send you to a specialist for (pre-eclampsia, gestational diabetes, early term labor). I carried to term (for twins) and everything worked out great.
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Joined: September 13th, 2008, 5:13 pm

May 8th, 2012, 5:25 pm #4

My OB/GYN did not send me to a peri or MFM, b/c she said I was fine. I passed my glucose test, in their words, with flying colors, worked till 35 weeks when my OB/GYN asked me to stop, delivered a couple of days shy of 38 weeks, and my twins had no NICU time. I did develop pe at the very end, which is what led my doctor to induce, and I eventually required a c-section. Maggie (in VA)
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Joined: December 10th, 2008, 6:33 pm

May 8th, 2012, 6:22 pm #5


how is your health??

Thinking of trying another FET/donor getting very nervous, excitied and worried about age, health ect.......

Could use some encouraging words!!
yup!
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Joined: July 23rd, 2008, 6:49 am

May 8th, 2012, 8:36 pm #6


how is your health??

Thinking of trying another FET/donor getting very nervous, excitied and worried about age, health ect.......

Could use some encouraging words!!
I can't speak to the pregnancy health aspect, but I can say something about the after-baby-gets-here health aspect. Get yourself in shape!! I have never been so run ragged in my life and I come from the perspective of having a very brutal career, both physically and emotionally. I wish now that I had dedicated a year to getting in tip top physical condition, as in, I'd love it if I could run a marathon or pick up my husband and lift him over my head. Seriously.

I have seen people in their 80s playing tennis and climbing mountains, and people in their 30s and 40s looking like they are at death's door. Genetics plays a role but the real factor in most cases is lifestyle choices. Just as soon as I can catch my breath, I have big plans to get in shape so I can be one of those 80-somethings who feels energetic and alive.

One of the criticisms of older parenting often includes a line like "but how are you going to play ball with your kid" and while that is a completely INANE comment which assumes that all young parents play ball with their kids, or even that playing ball is the epitomy of good parenting (spit!), looking at the larger picture, yes, it is good if you keep yourself in good shape so you will not be distracted by health issues and can focus on your time with your kids, and also so you can be here for them longer.

I had 10 years of infertility where I could have been concentrating on physical fitness but I was too depressed. There's nothing I can do about that now, except hope that I can inspire others who are similarly depressed and feel paralyzed. If a person is persistent there is a very good chance they will have success and it's a good idea to be ready to pull all nighters and lift 50 pounds and carry it around all day (more weight if you take into account that it's a live load and it's fighting you).

Age is mostly just a number. At 48 and assuming no underlying health issues, I think you could do just fine in pregnancy, but if you are like most of us, you will probably need to put in some extra effort to get healthy and stay healthy. Good luck!

Last edited by biogal on May 8th, 2012, 8:39 pm, edited 1 time in total.
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thesameboat
thesameboat

May 8th, 2012, 8:52 pm #7


how is your health??

Thinking of trying another FET/donor getting very nervous, excitied and worried about age, health ect.......

Could use some encouraging words!!
and pregnant now with #2. So far, so good.
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Joined: August 16th, 2011, 10:08 pm

May 8th, 2012, 10:18 pm #8


how is your health??

Thinking of trying another FET/donor getting very nervous, excitied and worried about age, health ect.......

Could use some encouraging words!!
Hey I'm 45 at the moment but am doing my first DE cycle at the end of the year. If we are lucky enough for it to work I'll deliver at 46.

I think as long as you do all the health checks recommended (and more) before you conceive and look after yourself that's all you can do.

Best of luck!
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Joined: February 6th, 2008, 8:16 pm

May 8th, 2012, 10:50 pm #9


how is your health??

Thinking of trying another FET/donor getting very nervous, excitied and worried about age, health ect.......

Could use some encouraging words!!
I had dd at 44 and the twins a month ago at 46.
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Joined: June 17th, 2008, 6:29 pm

May 8th, 2012, 11:55 pm #10


how is your health??

Thinking of trying another FET/donor getting very nervous, excitied and worried about age, health ect.......

Could use some encouraging words!!
You can do it!
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