I've been lurking for a bit, and I thought it would be good to create an account and introduce myself.
I'm 41, and my husband and I have one OE child, age 7. For some time we thought that we were good with one, and when I was 40, we decided to try for a second. I got pregnant fairly quickly and discovered at my first prenatal visit that I had miscarried. I got pregnant 3 more times and miscarried 3 more times.
After my second mc last spring, I decided that I should think about how far I was willing to go in the quest to have another baby. Even though I thought I would never opt for DE, I realized that I needed to seriously consider it and decide whether I could get comfortable with it.
While I went through a round of IVF this past fall (mc # 3) and experienced another spontaneous pregnancy this winter (mc # 4), I read posts on this board and the pink board. After the monitoring visit in which mc # 4 was discovered, I said, "That's it! We're moving on to DE." DH has been very much on board.
I contacted an out-of-state clinic that I'd had my eye on for a while, and we moved forward pretty quickly. I don't have a calendar in place yet, but our donor has completed her testing and I've completed mine. I think we are looking at a June transfer (assuming we make it to transfer - I know DE isn't a silver bullet!)
Anyway, I wanted to thank all of you who post about your experiences. I've gone through so many different emotions, and reading what you've written about the process has helped me come full circle. I'm so grateful that DE is an option for us, and I feel very positive about it.
Now for my question: have any of you experienced a lot of stress while going through a DE cycle? I'm not even talking about stress associated with cycling. I'm thinking of job stress and life stress. I want to move forward with DE ASAP. If the transfer happens in June, it will be during a high stress time at work. I'm worried about how the stress will affect me and of course the embie I'm hoping will stick. I would love to hear your thoughts on this.
It has not been easy. I am giving myself time to rest every night and watch tv or read. That's how I am dealing. I wish I could tell you how it ends up however I am still in the cycle.
One of my close friends went through a lot of stress during her DE cycle and she is pg.
Everyone has different opinions on this.
Will you be able to have any downtime?
How well do you handle stress normally?
So sorry for all of your losses too. That's a lot.